To remind myself how far I've come - my debt diary. - SOA added

chocaholic110

We pay someone to clean the outside of the windows. Is that unusual?
I just thought that was standard practice and I'm certainly not going to shimmy up the ladder myself!

Also my scan is not for three weeks. Not sure if I would know how to post a pic when it happens but I'll look into it!

Had not a bad day considering that I'm full of cold and got very little sleep (was up wandering the house at 2am again). Still convinced that the more I manage to get done at work the more my boss invents for me to do though! Kind of like one step forward, two steps back!

pandapaws

Hiya!

I'm a bit more with it today - I saw the number 1 in your sig and missed the 21days, which is why I thought it was tomorrow. It was the middle of the night and I've got a major case of pegnant-mush-brain at the moment - sorry!!!

Was laughing at your window-cleaning because my own diary would be SOOOOOO much worse. When I saw it, I remember thinking that it is one of the few things you paid for that I didn't, and was vaguely proud, until I remembered that the reason we don't pay for a window cleaner is because I pay someone £15-20 a week to do our ironing, and she also does a bit of cleaning including the windows! So I actually pay £60-80 a month to get my 'free' window cleaning!!! Not very MSE, but I got DH to agree to it as a condition of my returning to full-time work, and I'm not giving up my cleaner-rights or I might never get them back again!!!

I've decided that I'm going to take your lead and fill in the spending diary for the month (or try to!). I opened a spending diary account a couple of months ago but never went back. I'm armed with my Tesco receipt from yesterday for £98, and going to divide it into categories as loads of it wasn't food! Doubt I'll be brave enough to post the results at the end of the month but it will be interesting to see how much money gets wasted!

chocaholic110

I wasn't sure if I was brave enough either but funnily enough it wasn't the window cleaning I thought would be picked up. I thought it would be the cleaning money (I only pay £10 a week for two hours cleaning but it's the best £10 I spend as it saves me a lot longer then 2 hours on a weekend!) or the £100 a month for DD's dancing/drama classes.

chocaholic110

Went to the doctor today over not sleeping to see if he could let me have anything that would help me sleep and he's decided that not sleeping is not the problem, it's a symptom of another problem and has signed me off work. he wanted to give me a sick note that lasted until my maternity leave started but I talked him out of it so I have a note for two weeks but he said I must go back to him before I go back to work.

OH has pointed out that I have been down and emotional lately and that it's not normal to cry because you can't get parked at Asda but I still think that that's probably just hormones.

I'm feeling really guilty and upset now because I'm letting people down by not going to work tomorrow; I'm feeling especially bad over the nice kids in the class who want to learn. On the bright side, at least I don't have to break up another fight like today where one of the children had picked up a chair to hit another child!

chocaholic110

Well, I expected to feel better today when I didn't have to go to work...but in fact I feel worse! Still didn't sleep last night (well, i did for about an hour and then I woke up completely alert :mad: )

Then got a call today from egg mortgage who have cancelled our old mortgage DD and set up a new one from November but have missed October but need it paying now by debit card. The money to pay it is in OH's account and he's not home until Friday so have frantically reshuffled my money to find enough to pay. Argh!

pandapaws

Poor you - I'm sure that all the pregnancy hormones are making everything seem much worse than it is. If it is any consolation, I'm the same with the tears (which I wasn't when I was pregnant with No.1).

Don't worry about taking time off work - the doc wouldn't have signed you off if he didn't think it would be good for you. Just try and enjoy the rest as much as you can and think about the benefits for your blood-pressure and the baby of relaxing rather than breaking up fights! Would it make you feel better if you asked if there was any paperwork or anything that you could do at home while you're off? Something to reduce the guilt, but without being tiring or making you poorly!

Hope that you're feeling a bit better soon.

chocaholic110

Had a bit better night sleep last night, one of those nights where you sleep a bit, wake a bit, which is better than endless hours wide awake but I still feel shattered when I get up.

OH should be home tonight, so I am debating taking one of the sleeping tablets that the doctor gave me. Didn't want to take one while I am the only adult in the house. Still not sure if I should take one tonight as not sure about medication while pregnant but OH says the doctor wouldn't have precscribed it if dangerous and that I am better to have a proper night sleep. Need to think about that!

OH had quite a good pay this week so have paid a little extra off his Egg card. Shame he doesn't get that every week and the card could be gone! Also I have £39.95 from Quidco due to go in the bank and it's paid into the account with the overdraft so that knocks that down slightly too. OH gets his first ever Quidco payment this month too - after the account fee he gets a whopping £2.95!! Still every little helps - must remember to pay it straight off the Egg card

chocaholic110

Just checked ebay as have six items ending today. All have watchers and all but one have bidders, although mostly at the 99p starting price. Still, bids are up to £11.89 - which I think will get OD below £700.

hypno06

Evening choco, sorry to read that you have been feeling "out of sorts".

The Doc is quite right to sign you off - nothing is more important right now than you and your baby. Work can manage. Do not, I repeat do not, feel guilty or pressured into going back to work etc etc. If you need time, you need time. Take it when it is offered.

A while back I was offered a sick note, on two occasions, and refused on both, citing the need to be in the office both times. How wrong I was. I paid dearly for it later on, and am still pulling myself together as a result. If I could turn the clock back, I would take the sick note (it was only for a week for goodness sake!) and give myself the space I so desperately needed.

Also, don't expect things to get better overnight just because you are off work - you didn't get out of balance over night, so it is going to take a while to get back into balance. Listen to your body, your emotions, your GP and your OH, and look after yourself. Please x

chocaholic110

Another funny night's sleep. Made worse by the fact that every time I so much as twitched OH growled "Go to sleep" at me. Oh, now hwy didn't I think of that??

Had a viewer to see the house today. The EA phoned at 11 with the viewers wanting to come immediately. the house was a tip so put them off until 1pm by saying we were going to be out...which would have been fine if not for the fact that the viewers drove past twice in the hours before they came. Teach me to lie, I suppose! (See how good I'm getting! - At finding smilies rather than lying!!)

And OH is not happy with me for re-cleaning places he's (supposedly) already done. Can I help it if I want it clean rather than manclean??