To remind myself how far I've come - my debt diary. - SOA added

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chocaholic110 wrote: »

Bit worried that my computer is on it's last legs - it's misbehaving and keeps turning off. I think I might have to look into getting a laptop. Anyone know of any good deals?

Spend half an hour on http://www.hotukdeals.com - by far the best place to find a bargain as its other people's deals that are posted and voted as to how good value they are.

I remember when Adam was about 10 months old I went back to work (temping for a few weeks) and he stopped sleeping all night. After I'd given it up he was fine again. Sorry, that maybe doesn't help!

chocaholic110

Just sent OH off to Argos to buy DD's main Christmas present - a DS Lite and 2 games. paid for with vouchers and cash from the Christmas for free challenge. It's wiped out my Argos vouchers but I'm hoping that OH will get a £10 voucher as they're doing the promotion where if you spend more than £100 you get a £10 voucher back - hope that still counts when paying in vouchers.

Car just had it's first MOT and luckily passed as we haven't any spare money to get it fixed. I must get round to proper budgetting and putting money away for things like that.

All aches and pains today. I fell down the stairs on Tuesday (doh!) and have black and blue ribs and legs and carpet burned fingers, ouch! I was feeling a bit better until Tom woke in the middle of the night and I sat him on my chest without thinking. Something in my chest moved and now moving, coughing and sneezing are quite painful. Still, gets me out of going to Tesco's later today so can't be all bad.

chocaholic110

Bah, need a little rant.

Some of you may know of some of the ups and downs I've had with my dad and step-family. Well, a couple of weeks ago I bought some photo keyrings, mainly of my children for members of my family, from the children to add into Christmas presents. Among them I bought two for my Dad, step-mother and step-sister of my step-sister at her wedding with her bridesmaids (my daughter and 2 nieces). I was planning on keeping them for Christmas (from the kids - I wasn't planning on getting them much for Christmas this year after their ungrateful fiasco last year - I think I wrote about it on here )

Anyway, my niece who had seen them had told my Dad I'd bought the keyrings so when he called on Saturday he said "So, where's these keyrings for us then?" I hadn't been planning on giving them yet but as he already knew I thought there wasn't much point keeping them so gave them to him and he took them away - no thank you, mind you!

I went out for the afternoon with my Mam and daughter (to see Seven Brides for Seven Brothers, which was great), got back to find the keyrings were back! OH said my dad had returned them as my step-mother and step-sister said they didn't want them as her new husband wasn't on them and to take them back - so my Dad had made a special journey back to my house (he lives about 10 miles away) to return them.

Now am I being over sensitive or, bearing in mind I told him they were a present from the kids, is that just VERY rude?

dfw844

Unbelievably rude!!! It doesn't matter who they were a present from, that is ridiculous, awful behaviour!

I'm assuming you learnt your manners from you mum?!

lunar

You are so good for still making an effort with that part of the family, i think i told you before i tried for years before giving up completly with my dad and the lovely jeremy kyle style family he married into! you are not being over sensitive, it was completly ungreatful and a nasty thing for your dad and co to do. It just reminds me that i made the right decision and to be glad they all live 200+ miles away from me.

I remember buying a medium size jumper for his wifes birthday once, he told me which to get and what size. It was returned to me a week later with a note saying i was a nasty spiteful B***h for calling her fat and making her go on a crash diet. i was told the whole experience was damaging her health. I dont think i helped matters when all i could do was laugh.

I really hope you find some peace with this lot, however you handle it in the long run.

chocaholic110

How did you manage to live 200 miles away? Did you move or did they? Sounds awful but I do wish they would move 200 miles away.

There's no way I'm sending them anything for Christmas. i plan to use the money I would have spent to buy textbooks for childen in disadvantaged countries. I hoping there is a company I can do that with that will provide some form of card telling them what I've done. It will really annoy my step-mother as she (a) is unbelievably racist and (b) doesn't believe in giving to charity. I'm probably being a cow but I'm past the point of caring now. I've tried as hard as I can and it keeps getting thrown back in my face.

Glad it's not just me being oversensitive and yes, I did get my manners from my Mam. (She loved her keyring, by the way!!)

Hope you're keeping well, lunar. Not long to go now!!

chocaholic110

Feeling a bit restless this weekend, like I need to be doing things and sorting things, but twinned with a lack of motivation and a painful chest and back where I broke my rib. We seem to be way off track with so many things - the credit card has just over £1000 on it again :mad: , the house and garden are a mess - no wonder no-one wants to buy it, work is going ok but I am feeling already that I am getting snowed under by things to do, I am eating rubbish all of the time instead of cooking and putting weight on and I just feel in general that I need to get a more positive pro-active frame of mind rather than letting life drift by. I was thinking that I was much better at doing things when I posted here (what a sorry state I am that I need an online forum to keep my life in order) so I've decided to retire this diary and all the events of the last 2 years - good and bad - and begin a new chapter of moving forward!

I think I'll probably start a new diary on October 1st - new month, new beginnings sort of thing - once I've tried to sort out my current SOA and my priorities for the next year.

lunar

Looking forward to your new diary, it can really help to get remotivated with things. I think if you go on the red cross site there are all sorts of things you can donate, like books and medicines, and they do send a card showing what you have bought. sounds like a good way to make something positive out of them being so mean.

hope you are feeling better and more positive, dont beat yourself up you have achieved so much over the last 2 years.

lunar

Just checking in to see if you had started the new diary, hope everything is going ok.