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VK-2008

i can understand why your upset. at the end of the day do not let your confidence be knocked

he is with you and he with you for a reason

i think boys are boys - we know what they are like (doesnt make it easier right enought) but its the hidden part that would annoy me

try asking him to be more open with you, ask him to go through his thoughts, some men have fantasies that they feel ashamed about, is there maybe something hidden that he has been unsure about telling you? i am not defending him by any means, he has hurt you and he needs to understand that

i hope he truly makes it up to you

sending you my best wishes

Sunflower2007

From experience, it is definitely not a personal thing against you. Guys don't generally equate !!!!!! with emotions, so for him to be viewing !!!!!!..whether paying for it or not, it's just a simple sexual release for him. It's nothing to do with the woman and more to do with a guy fulfilling his sexual fantasies. It's naughty, exciting and erotic.

My issue would definitely be the hiding as i believe couples should be able to be open about these things, but then again would most ppl wouldnt ring up their OH at work and say 'btw im watching !!!!!! now and im gonna jerk off so no imteruptions plssss'

Another issue for me personally would be the escorts, web chat/phone sex. For me, this is taking it to the next level as there is some interaction there. So you really need to establish your boundaries on what you are not happy about. But as one of my guy mates has said before, phone sex is just the same as !!!!!!, they dont view it any 'worse' than viewing !!!!!!. And that going to a strip club should be classified as worse lol.

What do you guys think? Is phone sex worse or better than strip clubs? Worse or better than viewing !!!!!!?

Velcro_Hotdog

Give him a kick for spending money on it but I wouldn't get to mad about anything else. I'm happy with my relationship but I must admit to the odd five knuckle shuffle when watching a bit of blue. Saves bothering the missus when she has a "headache" :rotfl:

If you want to save some cash tell him to send me a PM I have tones of free links :rotfl:

GEEGEE8

!!!!!! is fine.

Phone sex and strip clubs are not.. No way.. in fact, phone sex would be much much worse than a strip club.

xmaslolly76

Sunflower2007 wrote: »

What do you guys think? Is phone sex worse or better than strip clubs? Worse or better than viewing !!!!!!?

I dont think either are any worse or better than the other. I have no problem with !!!!!! at all used to watch it with the ex sometimes if i was in the mood. I think for me phone sex is just stupid as we women tend to know that the woman on the other end is no Sex goddess but some bored housewife trying to make an extra few quid with curlers in her hair whilst she is doing the ironing if some bloke is daft enough to part with their hard earned money then they are fools. The ex also went to a few strip/lapdancing clubs normally during a stag do again they are just paying to watch so i cant see the point of forking out money when its free online. He got the shock of his life when he went to one club and the girl who was dancing was one of the neighbours lol :-)

ukjoel

170 quid in a month on there suggests a lot more than browsing on galleries. If its just that then its a lot of galleries and as you say why spend the money when u can see it for free.

I think its probably live webcams for that kind of money.

From a moneysaving point of view why not suggest you record your own and sell them on there.

Marriage can be saved and think of the extra income.

m000_2

VK-2008 wrote: »

i can understand why your upset. at the end of the day do not let your confidence be knocked

he is with you and he with you for a reason

i think boys are boys - we know what they are like (doesnt make it easier right enought) but its the hidden part that would annoy me

try asking him to be more open with you, ask him to go through his thoughts, some men have fantasies that they feel ashamed about, is there maybe something hidden that he has been unsure about telling you? i am not defending him by any means, he has hurt you and he needs to understand that

i hope he truly makes it up to you

sending you my best wishes

Thank you

We've had a very long chat and I'm feeling a lot better.

I won't go into details but as most of you have said, it was nothing personal. He's made a big mistake and he'll be paying for it (it's the chippy tonight!).

I really appreciate all the advice given - I was far to embarrassed to tell anyone I knew.

Crisp_£_note

Just change his computer to a child content lock or have a site tracer put on it then use a password he would never guess.

What a waste of money does he realise you have to work for almost 2 months to earn what he is spending? You could both have a romantic weekend away for that price!

m000_2

ukjoel wrote: »

From a moneysaving point of view why not suggest you record your own and sell them on there.

Marriage can be saved and think of the extra income.

I did think of that. Imagine his face when he spots his bird flaunting her bits... :eek:

GEEGEE8

m000 wrote: »

I did think of that. Imagine his face when he spots his bird flaunting her bits... :eek:

Pay back lol.