Adult websites

carolinejane_2

I have no problem with !!!!!! sites really but paying for them is madness. I hope this was a one off for him OP and hes learnt his lesson

Plans_all_plans

Don't listen to woody OP, or let him upset you.

m000_2

carolinejane wrote: »

I have no problem with !!!!!! sites really but paying for them is madness. I hope this was a one off for him OP and hes learnt his lesson

I'm hoping so.

Jo_F

Probably going to get hung for this, but...

As a woman that has a gallery, does webcam on what I am assuming is the same site, I can say that they are real women (just to clear up that confusion), they are not all escorts and they are mostly just regular women that have a found a way of making some money.

Most of the clients I get on there are into particular 'fetishes' that they would never ever ask their lady at home to partake in, if a guy wants to be a total sub and get dominated and treated like s%^t by a woman, is he going to ask his wife to do that to him? (ok i know that some do), what about the 'adult babies' is that something that they can get at home?

Some of them have these fetishes, and going to a site like that is the only way that they can satisfy them.

It's nothing against you personally, you keep mentioning that he is looking at well endowed girls, so I am assuming that you could be like me and somewhat lacking in that area? I know that I have barely enough to fill an eggcup and I know that my partner loves huge ones, unless I go out and fill myself with silicone, then I am never going to have the boobage that he likes, but..... that doesnt mean that I am not satisfying him in other ways, and I know that it's me that he wants to be with.

He's either looking AT something that you dont have, or looking for a fetish that he would never dream of asking you for or maybe even talking to you about, it's something in the way that men work, they want their partners to be perfect, they put their partners on a pedestal, and would never ever sully the image of that perfect partner by asking the missus to make him lick her shoes clean, while telling him what a pathetic worm he is.

You need to talk to him about it, not rant and rave at him, but listen to him and find out what it is that he is 'looking' for, I wout lay odds on there being nothing wrong with how he feels about you, it will just be the little something that either you don't have, or he wont ask of you. Hell it could be something as simple as wanting to see a woman stroke her own breasts, but he doesn't want to ask that off you.

m000_2

Plans_all_plans wrote: »

Don't listen to woody OP, or let him upset you.

Woody who?

VK-2008

ok touchy subject

please dont judge my opinion


its natural too look, i think that can be agreed upon

i think its wrong to spend money in an excessive way doing this

was he doing it in private or had he spoken to you ?

if you can accept he looks at it why not come up with an agreement

he is allowed on certain wedbsite, or is allowed certain dvds, has limited amount of time on it, that he talks to you about he likes

i have been with partner over 5 years, recently married, i browse and he browses, we sometimes do it together sometimes seperate. there is no harm in only looking
i would not be jealous unless he is wanting it too go somewhere or is taking it somewhere

does that make sense

the best thing i would say is speak to him and find out what he likes about it and why he likes it? it may or may not surprise you to find out details
have you thought about watching it with him

piratefairy

If it were coming from his own wages, then in my opinion that would be his right to do with his "disposable income" how he wishes.
I personally think I wouldn't have a problem with it, now and again, we all need a vice, and for a lot of people that can be p0rn, or whaetver. That said, I would want to discuss / know about it in advance as I feel the sneaky part was doign this behind your back - and horrible for you to have to find out like it's some bid sordid secret :S It's important to be able to disucss anythign in a stable relationship, especially when it's dedicated enough to live togvether.
That said, if it were me, if it became an uncontrollable financial problem, or the money spent on it was afffecting the household budget, it would nbeed to be curbed.

m000_2

Jo_F wrote: »

It's nothing against you personally, you keep mentioning that he is looking at well endowed girls, so I am assuming that you could be like me and somewhat lacking in that area?

Thanks for your post Jo.

I'm a 32C, so not small but then not a 32G! However, he's always saying I'm big and how much he loves my twins, so I'm getting confused.

As for fetishes, without saying too much, his needs are met. We're a kinky pair to say the least.

I guess that's why I'm so confused and hurt, I can't work it out.

Jo_F

m000 wrote: »

Thanks for your post Jo.

I'm a 32C, so not small but then not a 32G! However, he's always saying I'm big and how much he loves my twins, so I'm getting confused.

As for fetishes, without saying too much, his needs are met. We're a kinky pair to say the least.

I guess that's why I'm so confused and hurt, I can't work it out.

Thanks for taking my post the way it was meant.

Maybe he is starting to put you on a pedestal? As I said, some guys want things that they would never dream of asking their partner for.

I do think that you need to talk to him and let him talk, with out any dramatics (from him!) see what it is he is looking for and why, he may just be window shopping.

shortchanged_2

m000 wrote: »

I believe he's only on there to look, there hasn't been any contact and he's just purchasing credits to see their private galleries.

It's a bloody massive kick in the balls really.

I couldn't give or do anymore for him in that department and he still feels the need to pay for his kicks = confidence shattered.

That is an odd thing for a woman to say!!!

Is this a wind up?