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m000_2

VK-2008 wrote: »

was he doing it in private or had he spoken to you ?

Private. I know he watches it but the paying for it part was well hidden until he slipped up.

VK-2008 wrote: »

i have been with partner over 5 years, recently married, i browse and he browses, we sometimes do it together sometimes seperate. there is no harm in only looking

We do this. I guess it's the escort part of it.

VK-2008 wrote: »

does that make sense

Perfect sense.

BitterAndTwisted

He doesn't have a job and he's racked up £170 in debt in one month alone? Never mind what he's spent it on, that shows such huge disrespect that I'd kick him to the kerb without thinking twice about it. If you don't do it he's going to drag you down there in the mire with him. How many hours do you need to work to see £170 after tax? Because it'll be you paying for it eventually, not him.

m000_2

Jo_F wrote: »

Thanks for taking my post the way it was meant.

Maybe he is starting to put you on a pedestal? As I said, some guys want things that they would never dream of asking their partner for.

Like a breast enlargement?

Jo_F wrote: »

I do think that you need to talk to him and let him talk, with out any dramatics (from him!) see what it is he is looking for and why, he may just be window shopping.

I feel a lot better for getting it off my chest (no pun intended!). I thought I was being OTT about it all.

m000_2

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

He doesn't have a job and he's racked up £170 in debt in one month alone? Never mind what he's spent it on, that shows such huge disrespect that I'd kick him to the kerb without thinking twice about it. If you don't do it he's going to drag you down there in the mire with him. How many hours do you need to work to see £170 after tax? Because it'll be you paying for it eventually, not him.

No, not one month, at least two but I know that's not the point.

Believe me, I have felt your anger. I won't be paying for anything either, I've learnt from past lessons.

babyshoes

OP, I think you need to be clear with yourself what your main worry is here, as there are a few different things which appear to be upsetting you. Once you have cleared up the main issue with him - be it the spending of money that you can't spare, the fact that he lied to you or the b00b size he seems to prefer - you can then decide if you want to confront the other issues with him too. Obviously as others have said, try to do this in a calm, adult way!

GEEGEE8

I think people look at all sorts when looking at !!!!!!, not necessarily what they would look for in a partner. Some straight people may look at gay !!!!!!, but it doesn't mean they want to be gay, it's just different.

I'm guessing if he was out of work then he was a bit bored, and maybe got sucked into paying more, a bit like gambling.

I would not like it one bit if my partner had been doing this, and I don't honestly know how I would deal with it.

Maybe he likes boobs, including yours yours are infront of him and real, on the computer they aren't, so maybe they need to be bigger to have the same effect? Doesn't mean he wants you to have GG boobs.

m000_2

babyshoes wrote: »

OP, I think you need to be clear with yourself what your main worry is here, as there are a few different things which appear to be upsetting you. Once you have cleared up the main issue with him - be it the spending of money that you can't spare, the fact that he lied to you or the b00b size he seems to prefer - you can then decide if you want to confront the other issues with him too. Obviously as others have said, try to do this in a calm, adult way!

Thanks babyshoes - my head is so muddled.

I think it goes something like this:

1. The lie
2. Money
3. Boob obsession

What an embarrassing situation!

flutterby_lil

how did you find out?

m000_2

GEEGEE8 wrote: »

I think people look at all sorts when looking at !!!!!!, not necessarily what they would look for in a partner. Some straight people may look at gay !!!!!!, but it doesn't mean they want to be gay, it's just different.

I'm guessing if he was out of work then he was a bit bored, and maybe got sucked into paying more, a bit like gambling.

I would not like it one bit if my partner had been doing this, and I don't honestly know how I would deal with it.

Maybe he likes boobs, including yours yours are infront of him and real, on the computer they aren't, so maybe they need to be bigger to have the same effect? Doesn't mean he wants you to have GG boobs.

I agree.

m000_2

flutterby_lil wrote: »

how did you find out?

The 'your subscription to 'blah blah' is about to expire' email.

He'd logged into his email account on my computer.