Adult websites

jinky67

I too hate the idea of looking at "real" women who would appear to be very local and accessible

Not on in my book....I had an issue with my ex doing this as well

Plans_all_plans

I personally dont like the idea of p0rn at all so I would be fuming if I found out my husband was looking at it and we would be having a good chat.

However, even if I wasn't so totally against it, I would still expect my husband to keep his viewing of it to himself and not let me find a trail to it on our computer. If his viewing of it impinged on our family budget then heaven help him.

I think you need to have a good think about what you object to really. Is it the p0rn itself, the amount of time he spends looking at it or the money he is spending? Try to find a workable compromise.

m000_2

Plans_all_plans wrote: »

If his viewing of it impinged on our family budget then heaven help him.

I think you need to have a good think about what you object to really. Is it the p0rn itself, the amount of time he spends looking at it or the money he is spending? Try to find a workable compromise.

We've been in our new house 2 months and I'm the only one working.

It's not the p0rn although the fascination with big bosoms it's a difficult pill to swallow.

He doesn't seem to spend that much time on there. Longest was about an hour and there were sometimes weeks between 'viewings'.

There are a few credit purchases of £30/£40, which I think is pathetic really.

I feel like I'm with such a saddo! :undecided

Plans_all_plans

You're the only one working????!! Oh come on now! I'm really upset for you.

You need to tell him that this particular website upsets you an awful lot and that you would appreciate it if he would keep off of it, particularly as he is out of work currently and the money could be used for other things around the house. Tell him you feel disrespected and a bit used without getting angry. See what his response is.

daniel_owen_uk

Either that or just fiddle with his host file

m000_2

I tried to log on today and it seems he's got rid of it, good.

He's knows he's done wrong. I've heard him wailing, being sick etc and to top it, I found him on the landing asleep this morning (I'd slept in the spare room). I asked him what he was doing there and he said he wanted to be close to me.

I'm not mean, I just can't face talking or having him touch me at the moment.

He's not home right now but we'll see how the rest of the day goes.

Plans_all_plans

Goodness me he's theatrical isn't he?!

I really think that you need to have a calm chat without getting angry and find something you can both be happy with i.e. as long as he's not paying for it then you can live with him looking at p0rn sites, or whatever. A bit bust up wont help anyone, so try to find a middle way. Good luck.

*Louise*

Where did the money come from? Is it his personal money or from the household budget?

I'm sorry it has knocked your confidence as well - hopefully he has the gumption to try and make things right again xxx

woody01

Plans_all_plans wrote: »

I would have hit the roof and it would be a deal breaker for me I think.

He's lied to you about it and has spent an awful lot of money on it. It smacks of disrespect.

No...it smacks of him not getting 'enough' at home.

Is it the p0rn itself, the amount of time he spends looking at it or the money he is spending?

I think it's the big norks that are annoying the OP.

m000_2

*Louise* wrote: »

Where did the money come from? Is it his personal money or from the household budget?

I'm sorry it has knocked your confidence as well - hopefully he has the gumption to try and make things right again xxx

I have no idea how he's paying for it, credit card maybe. Every penny we have is, as I would say, the household budget. There isn't anything left over for luxuries.

He's cleaned the house, feeling guilty I guess but that's it.