Im a bad mother....

bestpud

Lokolo wrote: »

I'm almost 22 and if you could see the state of my bedroom right now.....

I am actually tempted to take pictures and show you

However, outside the bedroom I am tidy.



and of course



my cat

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so all in all, could just be a messy person like me?

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the boxers on the bed are clean, just can't be bothered to put them in the draw.

You messy tyke!!

Get off here and tidy up!!

swiss69

I wouldnt worry about it. Life is too short to be worrying about things like this. I am still untidy as an adult but so what...The house is reasonably tidy but I leave letters all over the place and work on tables etc..clothes on the floor and dishes in the sink until i want to wash em. My wife hated it at first and would tidy up. She then started to leave it and then leave her own things lying around. To be honest that didnt work either as I didn't notice as it really didnt bother me! Thank god for our cleaner else it would be much worse!!!

Some people are messy and some people are tidy..Its just the way it is

Lokolo

~daisy~ wrote: »

oh dear - but i wondered if it was maybe the room had got to a point that was so bad that she didnt know where to start with cleaning it up ?

i would hate it and i do moan at my kids but there not as bad as that

maybe if you do it together one last time so she has a level playing field to start with then start getting tough if she doesnt keep up with it ? even id be a bit daunted with cleaning that pit if im honest

as for the post above - i wouldnt be able to sit watching tv knowing a room in my home looked like that - sorry !!

Haha, my bedroom is always like it, no matter what house I'm in. However, I always like a clean bathroom, kitchen and lounge and will always clear stuff up in that! Just not my bedroom, very odd.

bestpud wrote: »

You messy tyke!!

Get off here and tidy up!!

Haha if you see how small my room is, I can still sit here and tidy. Although I won't.

paddy's_mum

Oh, but that is one handsome cat! I too could be persuaded to ditch the necessary housework in favour of adoring such a perfect creature ...!

LilacPixie

Lokolo -Are you in some way related to my husband or are you my husband secretly living a double life?? hmmmm Now I mention it that cat looks suspiciously like my susie. hmmm all very strange.

In all seriousness though you have his tidyness habits and the cat does look like sus but she was PTS about 18 months ago after a battle with kidney cancer

Bitsy_Beans

sassyblue wrote: »

It's not but fang's got a point.... do you think she hates the room that much she can't bothered to tidy it? Do you think if she had a bigger room she'd take pride in it?

Well from birth up until age of 18 I ALWAYS had the smallest bedroom in the house. I would have loved to have the room my brother had but that was the way things were. Didn't mean I had to live like a slob though.

My kids are too young at the moment but as far as I am concerned this is my house and if they wish to reside here then bedrooms will be kept clean and tidy. I don't understand why children can't be made responsible for the upkeep of their belongings?

Hope your plan works OP - stay strong, she might be one tough nut to crack

andrealm

sassyblue wrote: »

It's not but fang's got a point.... do you think she hates the room that much she can't bothered to tidy it? Do you think if she had a bigger room she'd take pride in it?

Somebody's got to have the smaller room if the rooms are a different size, haven't they? It looks like a typical teenager's room to me, personally I wouldn't be so bothered about clothes and stuff lying about, but I'd draw the line at dirty plates being left and food rotting away in her room.

I've always been untidy,when I was a teenager I could happily live in a mess, now I don't like it, but I can't seem to keep on top of tidying and it gets out of hand. Maybe there is something to be said for taking a hard line on it.

I'm trying to get my DDs to tidy their playroom, DD1 has to be nagged, cajoled and bribed but DD2 seems to be a natural tidier, she's only 2.

nuttybabe

Bitsy_Beans wrote: »

Well from birth up until age of 18 I ALWAYS had the smallest bedroom in the house. I would have loved to have the room my brother had but that was the way things were. Didn't mean I had to live like a slob though.

i was the same! and in my little room you could rarely see the floor!!!!! by the third year of my sister being at university and not coming home (i was 19/20) they let me have her room and i kept it tidy! and now i do try to keep my house tidy but with dh and 3 young kids i struggle! although i wont put up with food in bedrooms and that alone would make me take a bin bag to the lot! mess is one thing, unhygenic is another!!!!!!! (drives dh mad that i wont let him have food in bed either!!! )

iloveboots

My dd was a nightmare at keeping her room clean, the rest of the house would be spotless and it would drive me nuts knowing that her room was in such a state.
It would get so bad in there that she really did not know where to begin when she was nagged to clean it, i would have to go in there and help her. She had a large room with all mod cons etc but you could not even see the floor :eek: and what floor space was left, was covered in make up, fake tan etc, on a cream carpet :mad:
I used to take her clean washing up and leave it on her bed, so she could hang up......it never got hung up and it would go on the floor and then end up back in the washing basket, so in effect i was washing clean clothes....
We used to have lots of rows about it, it was awful.
I threatened to take photo's of her room and post them onto her facebook page etc, but i never did.
She has now moved out, and her old room is spotless.

OP i think it is a girl/age thing, hopefully she will grow out of i, but i do know how you are feeling.

Just to add that her brother (13) is a very very tidy child, his room is spotless.

Jinx

My DD (18) actually has got messier the bigger her room got...!! I know us girls have lots of stuff but the mess is amazing. She too is not allowed visitors until the room is presentable and she does get a rollicking occasionally to tidy it....especially the bathroom which can be disgusting!!!:eek: Though she does her own washing/ironing etc

To 'help' as she get easily distracted by her Mac/Ipod/book I go upstairs and sit on the bed and helpfully say 'now do this' and 'then do that', see its not soooo hard and hold the binbag LOL :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

She is now packing for Uni and 'sorting' hmmm looks like an excuse for more mess to me. Heyho, I'm sure I'll miss it soon....:o