am i being mean

ManOnTheMoon

I wouldn't allow it on the fact I have younger children in the house. I wouldn't be against them being sexually involved if all precautions were taken, although i'd rather they waited until someone special, but then i'd be hypocritical as I was jack the lad before my kids arrived. My older girls carry protection just incase and were taught all about those kinds of things from a young age and as far as i'm aware they are not active (not for want of trying from persistent boys)

As has been said, your house, your rules and their will be other parents/guardians to consider as well.

Counting_Pennies_2

There has to be respect for your rules in your house. My husband's parents weren't happy for us to sleep in the same room until we had been together for several years and I had a ring on my finger! That was only 10 years ago.

What I would suggest is you see if you can get a repeat of the Hospital series, the one that was on last week. If anything will ensure safe sex it is that programme.

hth

brians_daughter

nope, you arent mean!
I am 33 and have been with my oh for over a decade and have 3 kids with number 4 on the way but on the odd occassion we stay at my parents we are still expected to sleep in seperate rooms as we are not married and my mother is a strict Catholic!

As she says, she loves us, loves our kids and realise we do 'it' but she doesnt want us sleeping in the same room under her roof as it goes against her beliefs!

Thats fine, its Mums house - so its Mums rules...even in my mid 30's! lol

Plans_all_plans

My mum's the same as brian's daughter's. Although we had a daughter out of wedlock, if we ever went to my parents house, my boyfriend had to sleep on the floor downstairs while I was upstairs. My mum even had a patrol going on in that if she heard me go out to the toilet I'd hear her get up and listen at her bedroom door to make sure I'd gone back to bed!

We are now married so we can sleep in the same room now at my parents house, but even if we were 50 odd and not married she'd have us in seperate beds. It goes against her beliefs to have unmarried people sleeping together, so we just had to respect that.

I must say that I wouldn't condone those who haven't finished their education sleeping together under my roof. They have too much to lose at that age.

onlyroz

I wasn't allowed to share a room in my parents' house until I was married.

Tropez

No, you're not being mean.

As others have said, your house, your rules.

Heck, my mother is very old fashioned. I've been informed I'm "living in sin" ever since my girlfriend moved in to my own house :rotfl:

Whilst I was living in her house she was never happy about me having girlfriends over - even when I got to age 21/22 I received the same treatment. Though to be fair on her, if she actually met and liked the girl then she relaxed her policy a bit.

To be honest, I think she was just thankful I wasn't like my best friend who is the Charlie Sheen of our social circle!

newcook

I was only ever allowed 1 boy to stay over and that was because he lived the other side of town and he wasn’t allowed to stay in my room until we had got engaged!

I know I will be the same when I have kids though – don’t want any shenanigans going on under my roof!!!

Oh, ETA – my brother and his girlfriend let her eldest son (now 19) have girlfriends stay over – they are now grandparents to 2 babies who have different mothers.

delain

I don't think you're being mean.

If anyone does find themselves in the situation of explaining why older siblings (or whoever) share a room, my OH came up with a good one when his DD asked why I stayed in his bed with him. His response:

'She hasn't got her own bed here, and so we share'

She's never batted an eyelid since.

miss_maid

I live with my boyfriend, we're 26 & 28. When we visit our parents we have to stay in separate rooms. I totally respect that and understand that it's their house, their rules!

Why do they need to stay over? Do they live far apart?

belfastgirl23

Not being mean at all, but be sure to explain to your son why this is your rule...I think the implications for the other children are important for him to be aware of.