am i being mean

julie03

i have a 16 yr old son who has been in a relationship for 6 mths

we know they are having sex but when she stays over i make them sleep in seperate rooms, but when he stays at her house they sleep in the same room.

i am not altogether comfortable with them sleeping in the same room plus i have an 8yr old and 3 yr old to consider

am i being mean in this decision

January20

Your house - your rules!

sharkeybabe

Not at all. It is your house so your room. Just make sure that you have discussed all the appropriate contraception with your son. Do you know the GF's parents? If you are uncomfortable about them sharing a room at her house could you maybe speak to her parents? They may not even know that they are sleeping in the same room.

Bufger

Not being mean at all. I'm now 26, my parents were always ok with us staying in the same room but her mum wasnt ok about it. When we wanted to stay together we went round mine!

They still have an option to be alone so think of your own situation and stick to your guns. Also try and think of an age/scenario when you'll be ok with it (ie at 18 or when they've been together over a year etc). That way you'll be prepared

ClareEmily

like previous poster wrote your house your rules

My dad would have had a fit if my BF stayed in my room at the age of 16 actually even at 21 plus he still wouldn't have allowed it

NEH

Nope, ditto what other's have said...

My mum and dad would never have allowed it...

doelani

not mean at all.

I have 4 over the age of 16 and they know not to even ask this question. Do not get me wrong when I was 16 I was " doing it " but would never have dared ask my mum if I could have somone stay in my room , come to think of it I was 20 when I left home and not even then lol

Your house, your rules

poet123

16 is too young imo. Especially as you have youinger kids, although I suspect it would go over their heads! I allowed it from about 20, but a friend won't allow her 26 year old daughter and BF to sleep togethter there, she is just not comfortable with it.

BitterAndTwisted

Your son's lucky that you allow his g/f to stay overnight even if it's sleeping in different rooms. My mother allowed no overnight guests ever. She only relented once my sisters were married. Her home, her rules.

Just because people can sleep together does not mean they should, especially when they're so very, very young.

I sincerely hope that the couple are using effective contraception as well.

Fang_3

Your house, your rules.

Though my parents didn't have that rule, mainly because they wanted to be sure that if anything was going to happen it would be in a safe place.

January20

Fang wrote: »

Your house, your rules.

Though my parents didn't have that rule, mainly because they wanted to be sure that if anything was going to happen it would be in a safe place.

I don't have that rule with my dd, for the same reason, and because I know that if she had a boyfriend, and they wanted to have sex, they would do it regardless, so my thinking is better in her room than somewhere unsafe. However, I don't have other children.