How much housework does your OH do?

red_devil

my oh does loads and works full time. He is the most unlazy person i know he gets on with things and never puts things off. He cooks, cleans, gardens etc. He is very tidy too, He went to boarding school for 3 terms so he got a good grounding you had to be tidy and organised.

I HAVE NO COMPLAINTS.

1sttimer_2

Oh - if I could only just borrow some of these guys for a while

It's usually 90% me - 10% him (including what I ask him to do!)

He's really good after an argument but I'd prefer not to have him work under those circumstances as jobs get done - but in an angry fashion IYSWIM and I can never find anything when he's done!

He works from home 4 days and away 1 day and most of the time he is available to hang out/bring in the washing when I ask him (unless he forgets LOL) which is pretty helpful if I'm honest.

If he does things off his own back, say empty the dish washer, he tells me that he's done it! So I have to say, 'Oh thank you, that's very helpful' like I was talking to a child. He doesn't thank me when I do anything!

Oh well, I suppose I've coped for the last 33 years so I'll most probably cope for the next (hopefully) 33 years!

Schwade

1sttimer, maybe you should go on a 2 week holiday with your friends and leave him at home and see how he copes.

puss14

*My Oh will cook once pw and occassionally bake scones, I cook every other night except on rare time we get a takeaway curry.

*OH does the washing up on weekends (I will sometimes help) and I do it during the week.

*Vacuuming i generally do a couple of times a week. My OH only does it if my back is bad or the carpet is really, really dirty.

* Kitchen floors swept and mopped is probably 50/50.

* I do all the laundry, but if needed my OH will carry the basket outside for me.

* Dusting is all up to me, except for his PC area which he will occassionally dust.

* Bathrooms I generally clean tho he will sometimes do the floors and clean the back toilet.

* General tidying is usually me.

*Gardening probably 50/50.

* Mending- me.

* Kitty litter-50/50 poo patrol-me:mad:

Actually reading what I have written has made me a little mad, especially considering my OH thinks he is a modern man doing his share. TBH the most annoying thing I find is finding his clothes on the floor RIGHT NEXT TO A LAUNDRY BASKET and having to pick things up of his and put them away- this really peeves me. Yes well it's lucky for him he is good in the sack or he would be long gone:p;)

brians_daughter

I do the clothes washing and drying (well the washer and dryer do that lol)as well as general housework. I also look after the fruit and veg plot(but thats a hobby rather than work!)

He does the 'boring' gardening ie weeding and mowing, bin putting out,car cleaning and washing ironing and hoovering

Cooking i tend to do only as he makes twice as much mess - whoever doesnt cook does the washing up and tidying of kitchen

Once a week we do a 'big clean' ie couch pulled out, skirting boards wiped, all bathroom tiles cleaned, all wooden floors polished and we share that. We also share bath and beds for kids as well as school/nursery rune/childrens activities etc

I woudl say we pretty much split everything - or maybe he does slightly more than me counting the garden

I am a very lucky lady as he quite likes housework - or at least the finished result!

candyapple_2

Wow I need to know where all of these OH's have been trained and can I send mine there too please??

It's just the 2 of us plus a dog (we have no children). We both work full time although I work from home, he's 2 minutes down the road.

I do most of the housework, washing dishes, washing and drying clothes, cooking (he either can't or won't cook unless its fried eggs, toast, micro meals or something you can just whack on the George Foreman), the food shop (he won't go and do this on his own but will accompany me whilst moaning all the way through and trying to sneak things in the trolley like a big kid)

He does (when nagged) the hoovering, cleaning bathroom and kitchen etc. He does the DIY around the house as long as its not complicated, and he gets rid of all spiders and crawly things around the house which is just as well really as I freeze and scream at the thought of having to do anything like that.

Neither of us do ironing, unless we have to

doolally_gall

I am really quite interested in all the posts on here, as this is probably the biggest thing that me and oh argue about.
I feel that I do far too much, and he feels that as he works longer hours he shouldn't have to do as much.
We both work full time, however I work mon-fri and he does 12 hour shifts and works 7 days out of 14 - although he usually does about 9/10 as he does a lot of overtime, and plus his driving time it's a 15hr day or night for him)
Here's how chores are split;

Me
Hoovering
Washing up
Cooking (he will occsionally reheat food if I complain he's had a day off and I've been at work)
Cleaning bathrooms
Dusting
Car insurances
All electrical devices (he can't seem to work them)
Cutting lawn/strimmering
Filling emptying dishwasher
General tidying
Stripping and remaking beds
Shopping
Anything that I've forgotton that's not on his list

Him
His ironing (I don't iron anything)
As i said, food if I nag, or he'll go to Macconalds
DIY
Decorating (although this takes an age as he works every other weekend)

Now I'm 6 months pregnant the only thing that's changed is that he does the dishwasher as I struggle with the bending down.

I would be interested in other people's comments as I said this is a continual bone of contention in our house.
I want him to do more, and he thinks I have it easier than him and so I should do more.
Although as another poster mentioned if ps3 was housework, he works like a demon...*rolling my eyes*

Any comments welcome!
Am I expecting too much???

Gavin83

1sttimer wrote: »

Oh - if I could only just borrow some of these guys for a while

It's usually 90% me - 10% him (including what I ask him to do!)

He's really good after an argument but I'd prefer not to have him work under those circumstances as jobs get done - but in an angry fashion IYSWIM and I can never find anything when he's done!

He works from home 4 days and away 1 day and most of the time he is available to hang out/bring in the washing when I ask him (unless he forgets LOL) which is pretty helpful if I'm honest.

If he does things off his own back, say empty the dish washer, he tells me that he's done it! So I have to say, 'Oh thank you, that's very helpful' like I was talking to a child. He doesn't thank me when I do anything!

Oh well, I suppose I've coped for the last 33 years so I'll most probably cope for the next (hopefully) 33 years!

Do you work full time as well?

Plans_all_plans

Hi OP, I didn't realise you'd been together so long and were the ages you are. Unfortunately I dont hold out much hope for him changing his ways!!!

If my husband had gone to bed in an unmade bed like yours did, I'd have woken him up and told him he'd best make it sharpish! I just cannot believe that laziness!

Regardless of that, I do feel you should take some responsibility for the situation: fair enough his mum might've done everything for him when he was with her, but you had an opportunity to change that when you got together. I would have dug my heels in until he picked up after himself!

My husband's mum did everything round the house til his dad half retired and then she bullied and cajoled him into ironing/washing up/hoovering etc so that she wasn't doing everything, so I'm lucky my husband saw his dad doing bits and bobs and has obviously realised that a bit of help now and again doesn't go amiss!

In my opinion it's easier to go out and work full time (unless you're down a mine or up a chimney!) than look after children and do everything round the house.

Edited to add: if my husband irons/does any housework I ALWAYS kiss him and thank him for having done it, as strictly I feel it's MY job at the mo, given that I'm a stay at home mum. He never has to tell me that he's done it as I notice straight away and thank him.

1sttimer_2

Schwade wrote: »

1sttimer, maybe you should go on a 2 week holiday with your friends and leave him at home and see how he copes.

No, this doesn't work - see post no. 42 above. Been there, tried that!