How much housework does your OH do?

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ManOnTheMoon wrote: »

Other than go on holiday for a week without him and see if that shakes him a little.

Before we had our children my dad and I went to visit his mum and sister in SA (too expensive for my mum and OH to go) for 3 weeks. We'd only been in our house for 14 months and when I was ringing home to give him our homeward flight arrival times, he said he'd done something in the house - well I was very excited and couldn't wait to get home (the house needed a lot re-decorating doing) thinking he's organised someone in to do some work. When i finally got home, I looked around and couldn't find anything different - so I asked what he'd done - and he said he'd tidied up! He'd used every dish, pan, knife, fork etc for the previous 3 weeks (when he didn't eat at his mum's) and thought that he'd wash them all before I got home! That was my treat! I told him if I'd come home to that - I'd have caught the first flight back!

So as you can see, that wouldn't work! Not in my case anyway.

HannahIOW

Lol. OH doesn't do much but to be fair he does work all day... I'm at work too but don't have to do as much as him. He occasionally will hoover the front room. Or take the rubbish out if I bag it up for him
Men are like dogs... 'reward good behaviour, ignore bad'. I find saying something like 'Oh now that looks much better, well done!' really works. Try it next time he does something useful, watch him puff out his chest with pride :rotfl:

Having said all that I barely do any cleaning lately, I'm on strike. If no one else bothers to do anything I don't see why I should I can live in a pig sty for ages before it drives me bonkers.

Starrystarrynight

My OH and I both work full time and I'm putting in a lot of overtime just now. He does all the cooking and ironing and I do most other stuff. We each seem to have things we really dislike doing, his pet hate is cleaning the bathroom but I don't mind that so much. We seem to have it worked out between us and, as I'm still recovering from surgery, I only need to ask and he will gladly help if I'm struggling.
I know I'm very lucky that's he's so proactive, and our house is only little so it's not too much work!

jcr16

My hubby does quite a bit. i don't ask him , he just does. he works full time, i'm a stay at home mummy of 3 ( age 6, 5 and 2) so it easy for me to look after the home. but hubby will lay the table for the evening meal, clear away, hoover, sweep floors, make beds, put washing on line, get it in if raining, he will cook a meal, load dish washer, empty it, clean bathroom. hubby basically does anything i do. we just work together. after we have eaten our family meal. we both work together to clear away and tidy up and get kids sorted for bed etc. he doesn't do this every day. someday he does nothing. but if he sees the table isnt laid and the dinner is ready he will lay it. if he see's the washing is out and i'm busy bathing the kids he will get it in.

the one job hubby never does and that is put the bins out. they have to be in the road by 7am. and i am usually up at 6am so i just do it. but i'm sure if i didn't want to do it, or i couldn't then hubby would.

jtr2803

Me: 90%, Him: 10% :rotfl:

Yes I am serious! He cooks and i do everything else. He tried to iron once and burnt his top and the only time he ever ventured near the washing machine he flooded the floor :eek:

Is it fair - no not really as we pay equal share to live where we do but he makes up for it in other ways - he takes me out for dinner, buys me flowers, phones me to sing 'I just called to say I love you' . Generally now I just ask him outright is there is something specific I want him to do although he has moments of brilliance where he cleans both bathrooms and hoovers the whole flat.

OH just doesn't look at anything the way I do, it's just men for you (said in jest). If I felt it was a serious problem then I would talk to him but I don't mind doing the majority, it just means out place is never thoroughly clean!

pebbles88

it depends on what day/mood you catch me on as to whether he helps enough!!

my jobs:
Bathrooms, laundry,ironing, money/bills, getting discounts through quidcp/cooking/shopping

Him:
keeping car clean (he uses it 90% of the time)/hoovering (too painful after abdo surgery last year)/ occasional cooking (makes a salad...)

looking at it like that ok i might do more. but it the lighter stuff. i know if i having a bad day pain/movement wise he will step up if he is home and help me.he does nag me to rest more, but i dont always listen. so i dont think i have it too bad.

we do still have days though where he thinks the cleaning fairys come and move stuff...

sassy_one

Sorry if this is just a girly thread but I had to post

I usually do most of the housework

I hope that other hubby's will follow

Gavin83

It's roughly 50/50 with me and my mrs.

I think if you both work full time then this is the only option. If one partner works less than the other then they should do more housework, depending on how much less they work. If one partner works and the other doesn't, then I don't see how a 50/50 split is fair.

liley9

my oh does try to help he works and im a sahm he always puts the shopping away and he always puts the bedding back on after i strip the bed.

bexta

Mine doesn't normally do very much. He's more than capable of most things, although what the laundry basket is for seems to have escaped him totally.

However, since our baby was born 3 and half weeks ago, and I've been attached to her 24/7 it seems because of BFing, he has been an absolute star. :j The house is clean, dishes are washed, meals are cooked. Hopefully once bubs settles more into a routine, I won't be so 'lazy', but I also hope he keeps doing bits and pieces too. To be fair, he does have a very physical job, so I don't mind doing more of the work, but it's nice at the moment.