How much housework does your OH do?

Pee

It depends. He always does the washing up and the cooking is probably 60/40 with me doing the most usually, and me often putting more effort into cooking. I do all of the washing, but he does a lot of the hanging it up to dry. He usually hoovers and cleans the bathroom and cleans the kitchen, we live in a fairly small place, and I usually deal with the finances. He almost always deals with the bins and I always deal with sewing buttons on. A major clean and tidying up would always be me. Any DIY and changing lightbulbs wuld be him. I almost always (over 90%) do the food shopping.

Sometimes when one of us is working less hard than the other we'll do more than our share, but basically it is 50/50 with both of us doing jobs that suit us.

I do always praise him when he cooks, especially when he has made an effort, but only when I actually enjoy it, I don't want something I don't like cooked again! I do try to notice when he has done something around the house and mention this, I think men and all humans like knowing that their work is appreciated.

In a previous relationship where I worked full time and he worked part time if at all, I would leave the housework for him to do, but it only worked because my tolerance threshold was way higher than his.

I think that if you have different standards, the person with the highest standards is going to be doing more than "their fair share". My time outside of work is valuable and whilst I'm happy to do half of what needs doing, I am not going to do half of what someone else thinks needs doing.

sashadesade

Right now my husband washes the car, cuts the grass, takes the bins out and does all the other garden related things and I do all the cooking and cleaning. This is more than fair however because I'm only a part-time student and he works full time. I become a full time student in September so we'll be dividing chores more equally depending on what hours we both keep. Luckily for me my husband doesn't complain about doing housework. He does have to be told what to do to an extent because he's a bit oblivious to what actually needs done, but if I ask him to do something he's always happy to oblige. I'd never ask him to do the cooking though, he has absolutely no sense of what goes together and can't see the problem with making mini pizzas and chicken pies for dinner - yes, that is his idea of a balanced meal. :eek:

kitkat5566

I work fulltime still, and think I will for another week or 2. I am also just over 37 weeks pregnant. My OH has been out of work for 2 months now but before worked the same hours as me.

I cook 75% of weeks meals, and I will do stuff from scratch; his idea of cooking is heating up frozen stuff or boiling pasta. He hoovers but only once per week so I do inbetween bits, I do all the washing and hanging out and putting away of clothes, I dust, make bed, tidy up, clean bathrooms, wash floors, weed the garden, clean the kitchen, anything else needed!

He mows the lawn (about twice a year!) washes his car (rarely). He does do the washing up but only glasses/ mugs and leaves roasting trays/ sauce pans. If playing on call of duty was a household chore he would be a workaholic!

Ricekirsty

Mine does about 70%:-) I still complain though:-)

Ricekirsty

1sttimer no offence but you are nagging him. Men don't like being told what to do. You need to be far more subtle. Reward his good behaviour. Subtle though or he will wonder why you are being nice.

adviceforall

My OH is retired but active (69) and i have ben signed off work due to Rheumatoid arthritis, back problems (which affects my legs badly) and i have separate problems with both sholders.

I Do:
All washing, hanging out and putting away (his and DS goes on the bed in a pile)
All hoovering, most days as we have dogs
dusting,
general tiding up
feeding pets, clearing up after pets, walking pets
cut grass, hedge, clear up and take to tip
Put the rubbish out, put new liners in
tidy up garden
changing bed linen, and putting on new
cleaning kitchen and bathroom, utility room
Cook,make all my meals and snacks and drinks ( we all tend to eat different meals at different times)
Sometimes make for DS (16)at least half the week
Empting and filling dishwasher, sometimes clear drainer of pots etc

HIM
doesn't eat breakfast, will sometimes make a lunch time snack, if i make it he will eat if i dont then sometimes he wont bother
Always prepares his evening meal ( normally out of packet and in microwave)
Washes up HIS plates and pans, WONT use a dishwasher and on odd times he will wash up the stuff on the side but then makes a very large deal out of it saying that he has done the washing up like i should be thanking him for it, when it is his choice rather than put in the dishwasher.
Does a few DIY jobs but tends to take weeks to finish anything, and switches to something else half way through.

AND thats it...

Well done all the fellas that do so much more

I know i should make them do more but i get told I am lazy and don't do anything simply because I cant work..
The other day we had nearly run out of milk and he said "oh we need some more milk otherwise i wont have any when he needs it in the morning" so i said ( and i was ill and couldn't do anything as it was so painfull to move) well you'll have to go and get some and he really flipped whent I said he could go to the shop ( all of 2 mins walk down the road) to get some...made it sound like i was being very out of order to expect him to get something he needed..


Together:
we do the weekly shop

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He does usually what I ask him to do.

Himself without asking - he usually clears the dishwasher. He also washes the cars (not religiously every weekend, just when he feels like it though so sometimes I go to car wash when the car is very dirty). And cuts the grass when he feels like it.

He cooks 1-2 times a week if I tell him he is. Or buys take away.

He does sometimes moan, especially when he doesn't feel like doing it. Like - you hoover the kitchen floor, I will wash it when I finished the bathroom. I in my mind want to do it to be finished with it and have the rest of the day to relax or whatever. He on the other side will do it "later". Sometimes (like in this case) I need him to do his bit first so I can do mine and just waiting around for him to get his lazy bum up to do it can frustrate me to near bursting. Especially as he doesn't have to do these things often.

We had this argument recently when we were doing up a bathroom and he was supposed to do the finishing touches as my brother couldn't finish it all on time - he couldn't be bothered. So I said "O.K. then, I will pay someone to do it, but if you do nothing I do nothing - so that is 52 shopping trips (he hates shopping), 104 washing machines at least to dry and iron, at least 52 cleaning sessions..... He gave in after the shopping was mentioned:-)))

But he does make me breakfast every morning. For purely selfish reasons, but it is still very sweet (that way I don't talk to him at all in the morning, he doesn't do talking in the mornings:-))))

Flower08

My OH does NOTHING :rotfl: he doesnt even notice if the house gets messy. But i dont mind too much because he works full time and i only work part time, and i have also learnt if i want something doing properly then i should do it myself!

I dont think OH even knows how to use the washing machine, and when i did ask him last week to run the hoover around he had to ask me where it was kept

Rainey_LB

We don't have set jobs, we both work & have 2 kids.

I probably do a bit more in the house & with the kids & do nearly all the washing as we've had a few disasters, but he does most of the gardening, all the decorating etc, so it evens itself out.

He doesn't always 'see' the mess either and needs a gentle reminder from time to time. :rotfl:

Plans_all_plans

My husband is very good actually. I am a stay at home mum and he works full time, so I do most of the household chores, HOWEVER if he can see I'm stressed or snowed under with other bits and bobs then he does do the washing up, ironing or hoovering etc without me having to ask him. He also takes a very active role with our daughter when he arrives home from work so this takes the load off me as sometimes I've just had enough of her after being with her all day (God forgive me!)

I am due to start a part time job shortly and one of the first things he said to me once I'd found out I'd got it was "shall we draw up a rota for the household chores now?" which was nice to hear.