How much housework does your OH do?

Bufger

Flower08 wrote: »

and when i did ask him last week to run the hoover around he had to ask me where it was kept

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

lily76

I do all the cooking things and light shopping of groceries even though I am 35 weeks now. After my pregnancy, he will do the rest but he does not do them at a good frequency and not up to the standard which I would appreciate!!!!

lily76

Flower08 wrote: »

My OH does NOTHING :rotfl: he doesnt even notice if the house gets messy. But i dont mind too much because he works full time and i only work part time, and i have also learnt if i want something doing properly then i should do it myself!

I dont think OH even knows how to use the washing machine, and when i did ask him last week to run the hoover around he had to ask me where it was kept

This is sth you should think as normal. My DH would not even know where his own underwears are!

ninky_2

mine does following without being asked

most of the cooking

buys food /provisions(without being told what to get or that we need to get it)

empties bins

cleans floors / hoovers

tidies

waters plants

diy stuff

cleaning car

what i do

most of the clothes washing / putting clothes away

change the beds / towels

organise and pay the household bills (he now does his own mobile)

we both do

washing up - no fixed rota

cleaning bathroom / kitchen

i'm more messy and disorganised than my husband who likes everything tidied as you go along.

i wouldn't stick for housework being seen as my job. if blokes try and play the 'woman's work' card then suggest that all the household costs / financial providing are men's work and if they want someone with antiquated attitudes they've married in the wrong age bracket - are they really happy to go back to the 1950s?

nikki1520

I get up with the little man, normally at stupid o'clock, get him washed, dressed and breakfasted. Hubby rolls out of bed into the shower, comes down and whisks him off to the childminders.
I then dress myself, load the dishwasher, hang washing out etc. Then go to my full time job.
When I get home, I clean the bathroom/hoover/dust or go to the supermarket, empty the bins. Hubby and little man get home, I feed everyone, bath the little fella and put him to bed, unload the dishwasher,put washing on and tidy the kitchen.
At the weekend, I still get up at stupid o'clock, and also iron and do any tidying that's needed, as well as cooking all the meals and maybe some gardening.

On top of this I run my own business and keep my husbands books for him.

So what does he do - well, he reads the stories (he's good at the voices!) occasionally empties the bin and normally takes the bins to the kerb and cuts the grass. I reckon my weekly chores take about 15 hours, and I'm lucky if he spends an hour a week on average. I'm not counting the stories - he enjoys that!! He'll probably empty the dishwasher once a week too, or bring the washing in if I'm not home and it's raining

I do resent it sometimes, but he just doesn't see the mess. And my threshold for grime is pretty low - guess I'll just have to live with it. He is appeciative most of the time which makes it a little easier to swallow.

Flower08

nikki1520 wrote: »

He'll probably empty the dishwasher once a week too, or bring the washing in if I'm not home and it's raining

My OH wouldnt even think to do that

DJS1988

My boyfriend is another in the very good camp.

We are decorating the whole house and he is doing everything, apart from me doing a bit of painting.

He does 100% of the cooking, as he works nights so our only time in the week together is between 7:30 when I get in, and 10pm when he leaves. So he has dinner ready when I get home.

I in return do all the washing up! I also do all the washing and ironing, cleaning is done by both of us, maybe 60/40 to me.

We go shopping together (I pay he cooks so we both need to me there) or do it online. He does all the gardening and fixing things around the house.

We never really have to tell each other what to do, we've found a pattern that works around our annoying time frame!

moneysaver12

My dh does 99% of the cooking, it is rare that i do cook. My oh enjoys it and is better than me. Normally we try and split the housework about 60% me and 40% dh as he works full time and i am a full time university student. Now im on summer holidays, i try to do most of the housework as dh is working full time and i have more time on my hands. I am stuggling at the moment to do most of it through as im pregnant and don't have much energy.

Dh cuts the grass, takes the bin out, emptys the bin. Picks up the dog poo. Feeds the dog. Cleans the toilet. Will iron his own clothes, i don't liike ironing. Puts his dirty clothes in the wash basket. Sometimes wash clothes, drys them and puts them away. If im washing he will carry the wash basket down stairs for me, i struggle to do it without getting out of breathe and he will carry the clean clothes up stairs. Sometimes he hoovers, steam cleans the floor, polish, cleans the bathroom, wash up, putting washing up away. We go shopping to the supermarket together, but sometimes if i we or i need somethings he will go on his own. If he can see that im struggling to do something in the house, he will help me.

I tend to do more of the gardening, he will help if i need him to.

When im at university he will do more of the housework and we will for example take it in turns to clean the bathroom. My dh is very thoughtful and caring. When im feeling sad he will hug me and try to cheer me up, he also buys me flowers sometimes for no reason and sometimes to cheer me up. Also he does diy, he painted the nursery, i helped him a bit.

shebrett

Mine is very good, he works full time and I work full time plus a part time job so he does most of it. He does ironing, dishes, tidying and washing through the week as standard and I cook when I get in (he's happy to cook, but bless him he can't boil an egg) and then we both clean on the weekends. I'm a little bit OCD about what needs done so I just kind of boss him around and decide what needs done next...... he's a very patient husband

Counting_Pennies_2

This sounds very much like my life with my OH when we first started living together.

To the point one weekend I had a friend coming to stay, I was going to collect her and he said he would clean and tidy. It was horrific when I arrived back, nothing had been done!

From that point onwards we agreed to a cleaner. I didn't want to resent what I did and he didn't and felt it was a way to take the nagging feature out of our partnership. The cleaner stayed with us until we got married and I fell pregnant, then when my second child came along the cleaner reappeared again.

I wonder if you need to have defined roles. Does he have somethings he prefers or does more readily? Perhaps you could sit down and go through what it is you do, and what you would like some help with, so it is equal. Perhaps you agree what days he cooks and that you get the ingredients list from him before you go shopping at the beginning of the week.

Either way, you need to separate out the roles to the point nagging and animosity doesn't creep in.

hth