Children been taken into care what now!!!!

bestpud

Sassy-one - you clearly have an axe to grind and feel ss have acted wrongly but the fact is many of us have found them to be nothing but helpful!

They were great when my older children were small and I was very ill, although I was scared stupid when first referred to them because I believed they take children away on a whim.

I was proved wrong as we were offered nothing but support.

Of course they mess up at times but they also do a lot of good.

I wouldn't dream of suggesting they are always right just because I and others have found them helpful so why can't you see anything but the bad cases?

Of course we here more about the bad cases too - don't forget that - positive stories don't make good news stories!

I'm also intrigued to know how ss are to blame for a road accident? Sadly, people die on our roads every day...

BLT_2

AnxiousMum wrote: »

Wow - were you involved in that case personally? I assume so, as you seem to know both sides of the story?

Of course she has, she has in depth knowledge of the workings of SS, knows every case where there has been a mistake, but isn't aware of any success stories.

Mort importantly she blames the SS for the death of her sister and hence is not an unbiased commentator on their services.

Perhaps the most important point is that she is really starting to bore me with her constant repetition in every post, I think I'll run along and look for interesting people to play with

DX2

Damned if they do, Damned if they don't.

Triker

Sassy-one, I was initially incredibly angry re your posts re Social Services...however as I do in my job, I try to look behind the words and hear whats really being said.

It appears you are grieving terribly for your sister, I'm am so sorry that whatever happened to her happened....it appears that your fury and grief have gone in the direction of 'blaming' a system. Directing your grief in a mission to condemn all social workers will not bring your sister back or undo whatever happened.

Yes I admit it has flaws, show me a profession that doesn't...however can I reassure you that there are people who work in this area that will always try their very best in supporting and guiding families to stay together and to flourish. Unless there are child protection issues whereupon legislation and of course moral duty means that they have to work to different guidelines.

I'm sure you'll agree that we do need such systems to protect societies most vulnerable?

I hope you find some peace Sassyone as you appear to carry a heavy load, being angry and upset takes energy, negative energy at that.

Again I wanted to reiterate how sorry I am regarding the loss of your sister, losing anyone you love is difficult, losing them at such a young age adds to that grief...I wondered have you ever spoken to anyone re your grief? It's never too late to seek some support.

RE the OP's question, yes she will lose all her benefits however if the move is temporary then a welfare officer that will work within that local authority should be able to guide her through the paperwork etc. She should ask for this support, she is entitled.

marydot

The parents have only themselves to blame, she should of been more responsible for her children.Now all her benefits will be lost and she will be made homeless, lost her children too, but they will probably be better off away from parents like this.

I'm guessing she is one of these's parents who rather drink and take drugs than maintain her children's welfare. If a parent cant look after their children, then i'm sure they cant look after themselves.

she is a failer to soceity and a failer to herself and her children, I dont feel sorry for her at all she deserves everything thats coming to her, if she was more responsible in the first place then this would of never happen.


Waste of tax payers money too.

Triker

marydot wrote: »

The parents have only themselves to blame, she should of been more responsible for her children.Now all her benefits will be lost and she will be made homeless, lost her children too, but they will probably be better off away from parents like this.

I'm guessing she is one of these's parents who rather drink and take drugs than maintain her children's welfare. If a parent cant look after their children, then i'm sure they cant look after themselves.

she is a failer to soceity and a failer to herself and her children, I dont feel sorry for her at all she deserves everything thats coming to her, if she was more responsible in the first place then this would of never happen.


Waste of tax payers money too.

!!!!!!.... what planet are you from? :rotfl:

That's right, blame away, that'll help...:mad:....NOT!!

You have no rights to make judgements on situations you know nothing factually about.

The OP asked for advice re the benefits of the parent in question.


I see you said nothing about the other parent....you know the one who help create these children...tunnel vision...it'll get you nowhere.

solodanceparty

sassy-one wrote: »

At least I don't remove children from happy families and break families up.

At least, unlike some foster families Social Services use, I don't treat children badly.

Perhaps if you had 20 years of dealings with them, you may be up on odds on what there 'really' like.
If you have, I think you may be brain washed

What a waste of space you are. Typical response from clueless abusive parent. Last time I checked, abused children are not happy.

Perhaps if you would take care of your kids, you wouldn't have to deal with SS. Why are you dealing with them by the way? What have you done to your children to warrant 20 years of dealing with them? I can't imagine the sort of abuse they must have been put through by you.

boo666

OMG how rude can some people be, I came here to ask for advice for my friend!!!!!

I did not come here to ask for your opnion on her parenting and why her children were put into VOLUNTARY CARE, but for the nosy gits out there, she has had problems with her 5 year olds behaviour and the more she has asked for help over it SS have put it down to her parenting of him, and before u come in and say well they are better away from her they are not, I sat there while her so called social worker said they have no probles with her parenting of her 10 month old, it was just the 5 year olds behavoiur.. The social worker sat there and said they have tried everything they can to support her with him and they have NOT!!!! The socail worker only goes to see the 5 year old at school, he never came out after school to see him at home, so he can not judge her parenting until he has seen it himself.

My friend is not wanting to keep hold of the childrens money in any way or form, she just wanted to know what she needs to do next (oh and the social worker is hopeless so there is no point even talking to him) I thought if she went over to JSA she would need to be avalible for work? How can she do this if she is having contact with her children 2-3 times a week at a contact centre nearly 25 miles away? Plus she is going to be under taking assesments etc to try and get her children back...

All she is worried about is getting her children back and not loosing there home, she does not care about anything else, and for the small minden fools who have commented she does not take drugs or even drink, all I have ever seen her money go on was the children!!!!!!!!

I know how SS work, and yes there are some out there that do there job right but there are also alot out there that in my opinon do not give a S**t about anything apart from there pay packet at the end of the month.

So will say thank you to the positive people who have helped me with the question I asked and the rest of you can do one for all I care, you have nothing positive to say so please do not coment!!

meg72

OP your friend needs to contact a family law solicitor asap if she is on benefits then she will be legaly aided to defend the SS decision to take her children. If as you say they have no problem with her parenting of the 10 month old how on earth are they going to justify this action. The Judge will need evidence.

Regarding her benefits then again the family law solicitor is the best way to get advise.
Hope it goes well for her.

nottslass_2

solodanceparty wrote: »

What a waste of space you are. Typical response from clueless abusive parent. Last time I checked, abused children are not happy.

Perhaps if you would take care of your kids, you wouldn't have to deal with SS. Why are you dealing with them by the way? What have you done to your children to warrant 20 years of dealing with them? I can't imagine the sort of abuse they must have been put through by you.

What an ignorant post !!!

Families can have dealings with social services for a variety of reasons and most of them will NOT be because the children have been abused.