Gonna be rubbish

hurricanewyn

Hiya - I'm sure that nobody would mind paying for their own meals.
When my cousin got married back home, he hired a youth hostel for a night and everyone chipped in 50 euro to pay for their accommodation, drink and food - nobody minded as everyone understood that the couple didn't have the money to pay for everyone and they all had a blast while they were there!

1pinkpiggy

If your family no your money situation they will understand the reasons behind having to pay for their own meals and if not then they are not worth inviting.

I too am having a very small wedding and not having a party but a meal in a local resturant where I will be expecting people to pay towards their own meals.

I'm getting wed because I love my OH and we want to be married not to feed some relative that we haven't seen since we were knee high to a grasshoper.

Also Poundland in Meadowhall have a section on weddings and have invites and confetti and some other bits. (I'm just up the M1 to it)

xjoannexxx

Just though id let you no in case you change your mind about the gazebo home bargins have a massive one with sides in for £49 and i have a spare hot pink head band you can have for your bridesmaids if there in pink xx

Luckyred

I have been a lurker on MSE for quite a while.... reluctant to post for various reasons......... anyway I had to say a word or two about this thread. I take my hat off to the lovely generous people who have offered to help the OP with her wedding. Reading all your posts was like a breath of fresh air.
I cant offer any help Faerie girl but I can wish you a lovely wedding and a long and happy marriage.

Lexxi

You know every little thing I've needed for the wedding I have checked ebay first but not thought about suits! Anyway just seen this and thought of you http://cgi.ebay.co.uk/BNWT-MENS-BLACK-PIN-STRIPE-SUIT-44-JACKET-34-TROUSER-/120595991202?cmd=ViewItem&pt=Men_s_Clothes&hash=item1c1414caa2 There are a few like that, might be worth watching it to see if you can get it for that price in the last minutes! Couldn't say what the quality is like but you could try emailing the seller.

lolly1981

im loving this thread and i notice it with a lot of threads on here i.e the flip flop one.
people are so generous and caring.

i had to postpone my wedding last year and have now gone for a smaller low budget wedding..i get married in 19 days and ive been lucky my family are all pitching in...just like the good old days my nan keeps saying lol. you know back in my day..all the sister wouldve got together and done the food etc.

OP im glad you are feeling better about it all...sometimes it takes for people to make rnadom acts of kindness to make us realise it isnt always as bad as we think and it will all work itself out the way its meant to xx

hayleythedaisy

Hey Faerie, just wondering how you're getting on?

faerie_girl

Hi thanks

Just a quick update. I am feeling so much more positive about it all
I talked to my Dad the other night and explained we couldn't have the original do and about our plan to invite everyone out for lunch at the local (to the registry office) Two for One. His opinion was not to bother with this and just go to the local (round the corner from home ) pub for a few drinks after. He thinks people won't drink if they have to drive 10 miles back home. I'm not sure what to do. Our ceremony starts at 11.30am and we are going to the local park for photos providing the weather is nice *fingers crossed*. By the time we have finished it will be getting on for lunch time. I think I may call the local pub up to see if they have a food menu because our LO will definately need something to eat by then.

We also have a slight issue in the we still don't know wether MIL and step-FIL are coming. We told her on the day we booked the wedding (about 4 months ago) and her reply was that she would come if she wasn't busy. We haven't seen her for months as she lives about 15 minutes away and FIL will not drive her here and we are not welcome in their house (long story but FIL basically is holding a grudge of a misunderstanding on his part). OH is adament he is not reminding his Mother about our wedding. She hasn't mentioned it in any of her e-mails or texts lately and in his words he 'can't be bothered with her anymore'. She's let him and our LO down a few times lately with saying she will visit and then canceling 30mins before she is due when we have cancelled our own plans to accomodate her. I don't know wether I should just send her an email reminding her of times etc or leave this in OH's hands? I can see this creating another falling out if she forgets as she will say it is our fault for not reminding her and OH will feel it's hers for forgetting! Gah! OH's family is so complicated, his parents are so petty. I do feel a bit sorry for him as he is an only child but his parents have never given him much support even as a child.

Other than that I think everything is going well. As we aren't having a reception as such to be planned I can now concentrate on planning the ceremony or things like hair and makeup. We still need to decide on the music, this need to go to the registrar along with our ceremony structure and vows in 2 weeks at the latest!!

floss2

Why not talk to your OH about sending them an invitation through the post? Then it is more "formal" and he doesn't have to speak to them if he thinks he will be fobbed off.

MinniMe_2

I'm afraid I can't help much OP as we have only really started planning.

BUT I just have to say, I am sat here in tears. Everyone here should be so proud of themselves, the OP came on for some support and info and people on here who have never met her are selflesly offering to make her day perfect. It has really restored my faith in humanity.

OP - all I can say is HUGS, I am ver glad you are feeling better but as for MIL/FIL - forget them, we are already having arguments with family about our day and it is nearly 2years away. The most important thing is that YOU, OH and LO are happy.