Gonna be rubbish

faerie_girl

Sorry to put a downer on things, just feeling a bit rubbish about our wedding. We have always wanted a low-key registry office wedding but we were meant to have a budget of £1000 which would have got us everything we wanted. OH didn't get a bonus he was expecting and then we were both meant to be working overtime to get extra money (we have nothing saved). My employer has stopped overtime to save money and my OH is refusing to do any because he doesn't like his job.

We get married in 6 weeks and all we have are our rings, my dress (which my mum bought from a catalog, doesn't fit me right and I don't really like), my shoes, a photographer (who is a friend so is doing it very cheap) and cutlery and plates for our buffet.

We still need to get OH's suit and shoes, bridesmaid dress, LO's outfit, flowers (I wanted artificial and the lady who I has seen on ebay has a 21 day turn over so time is ticking). Also need a gazebo for our garden party incase it rains or is really sunny, 2 garden tables and 8 chairs, food and drink.

I am doing my hair and makeup, also the buffet. We are getting married at 11.30am and I don't see how I am gonna do it all.

I had a text from a friend yesterday saying how it isn't long and I am going to be a beautiful bride. I don't feel like it. I feel like it is going to be a joke. There is too much to do. I get paid tomorrow and really wanted to order the flowers but we have to pay £100 to a loan (I only get paid £200). OH gets paid in a few weeks and is his last time before we get married ( he gets paid the day after our wedding).

We aren't getting any help from anyone. We are only inviting parents, grandparents, siblings and best man. I know they won't really care what it is like, they are just happy we are marrying. I am just worried what everyone else is going to think. I know it doesn't really matter. We want to get married and don't want to wait any longer so whatever will be will be now. I just feel we will look like idiots when people see our photos, when they see my dress which doesn't fit and my shoes that don't quite match the colour. When I don't have any flowers and my hair is a state because I didn't have time.

Sorry I don't know why I am posting this. We are carrying on regardless. We hope to do something special in maybe 5 years time, a big anniversary party for all our family where I can wear a dress that cost more than £45.

I am a bit upset with OH as he keeps saying it will be okay and things will be sorted in time. I just don't see how, he isn't willing to work over time for this. I tried selling some jewelry but only made £5. I am considering selling all LO's baby clothes that have been saved just to try and get me some flowers from ebay. He seems so laid back and doesn't see that thinks cost money.

frannyann

Hey, chin up darling! 6 weeks is ages for us, we can help! You got anything to 'boot fair' that will get you lots as its the season for it! This sunday is forcast to be nice so chuck all your rubbish in a boot and sell away! Last one I did I made £70 clear profit after pitch fees and drinks etc!! Flowers, go fake! This lady will make to your budget (check my thread to see how nice they are) http://myworld.ebay.co.uk/sharell123/

If you can get together £50 I can find you a dress!!

Emma1988

awww! Im so sorry to hear you are feeling like this before your big day! Im sure you will look amazing. Can your mum and dad not buy your flowers as a wedding present?
HUGS XXX

*Jellie*

I don't have time to write much but I'm sure you could change some of the photos to black and white on the computer if you feel the colours don't match perfectly. Personally I love them in black and white.
Also a simple bunch of flowers tied with a ribbon often looks better than am expensive bouquet. You can get some great artificial ones at a great price as well.

Dizzie77

Awwwww - Big Hugs Faerie.

Let's have a look at the things logically.....

1) the dress - if it doesn't fit you properly, then can your mum send it back and you get another one? It's not the cost of the dress that matters, it's how it makes you feel - and regardless of whether the wedding is an intimate affair or a huge lavish affair, you should feel like a million dollars. (maybe have a look at charity shops too? lots of them have wedding dresses)

2) OH's suit - does he not have one already that he could use? If not, then look at Asda/Matalan and then maybe he can use for interviews too??

3) Bridesmaid dress and LO's outfit - again, look in charity shops for these.

4) the gazebo isn't a priority - you can pick these up in tesco/wilko's the week before.

5) garden furniture - get onto freegle and see if anyone in the area is getting rid of them - no need to buy them,
do any of your neighbours/family have furniture that they can lend you?

6) the flowers - is there only one person that you want to get the flowers from? Have you spoken to her? Maybe ask her if you
can "pre order" them? and then pay for them when you have the money?

7) the buffet on the day - I would recommend that you do as much as possible the day before - but don't over complicate it -
have quiche/sausage rolls/pork pies that sort of thing....if you have a Farmfoods near you, you can pick up loads of food, use
their money off vouchers to make it cheaper

Whereabouts are you?

Honestly - don't feel rubbish - it will all get sorted, the main thing is that you and OH will get married xx

frannyann

Where are you? I have a gazebo going spare!!

gorgeouslatinrose

Have you tried Freecycle? You may be in luck, and find a gazebo, or anything else of your list. Definatly worth a try if your on a budget...

kazwookie

Where are you?

Get on to your local freecycle and do a wanted for items you need.

Dizzie77

http://www.matalan.co.uk/fcp/categorylist/offers/mens-suiting-offer?cmpid=EMC_New_Arrivals_160710_MSO

as if by magic - I've just had an email about suits @ Matalan...!!

*Jellie*

What size are you? What style dress are you after? Which area are you in?

I'm about to take a wedding dress to the charity shop and would be more than happy to send it to you as long as you pass it on if it's no good. Size 12 strappy with lacy flowery bodice area and floaty skirt with small train.

Emma1988

My OH got a suit from matalan for my brothers wedding, and i swear you couldnt tell!!! It looked so nice, esp if you get the pinstriped ones