Gonna be rubbish

*Jellie*

Do let us know what area you are in as I for one could possibly lend stuff if you're near. Edit: cross posted again. Not close enough to lend I'm afraid!
There is nothing wrong with wanting your day to be special.
I fully understand wanting to wear the dress that was bought for you- is it worth seeing if you could get it altered to fit better? Someone here might be able to recommend someone cheap?....or as you just said your gran!

lolly_896

Breathe easily!

You will manage - we always do!

Buffet - Do you have freezer space to make things before hand
LO suit - How old is he/she and size of clothing? (Have some suits outgrown)

xx

Lexxi

Whoops, just seen you have a son not a daughter! How old is he, I could ask about the suits if you would like?
What size BM dress do you need? Could your sister wear her prom dress again? Could you give us an idea of your budget for each bit you still need??

missy_moo_5

Do you already have a tiara?

PM me if you don't and you want one - as per my post earlier today I'm trying to pass on some things from my previous wedding and would be happy to let you have mine as the band is a bit tarnished from hairspray so I wouldn't be able to sell it (but you would never ever be able to tell once it's in your hair) as long as you promise to make use of it. I can send you pics.

PM me if you want - no pressure x

faerie_girl

Thanks for all the replies and suggestions. OH has just got home and I have just told him how I feel. He started moaning at me complaining again. I cried a little and have told him I think he we should pospone it. I don't want to look back in few years or even months after and regret it. Looking at our photos and hating what it all looks like.

In tears now, I know it will be the right thing to do. OH has also just confessed he doesn't want to get wed in the registry office and never has. He wants to set a date sometime in the future and have a more special do in a posh hotel.

It's never gonna happen, getting married. I love him to bits. I was so looking forward to this. Oh well, theres always 2020.

hannahjex

You sound just like I did a few weeks ago! I know it doesn't seem like it, but 6 weeks is ages with wedding planning. Things do fall into place (eventually). There is just over a week to go for us now, but at 6 weeks, I didn't even have a dress and we only got OH's suit last week. A lot of our stuff didn't get sorted until very last minute--there's stuff we haven't sorted yet (I still haven't got shoes:eek:) but now that we're closer to the wedding, I know that it will all get sorted in time, because well...it has to. A lot of our planning hinged on what happened with us money-wise, so there were weeks when I just sat on my hands watching the clock ticking and panicking but there was nothing I could do because we didn't have any money yet. And every time people would call and say how much they were looking forward to it and how excited they were, my heart would sink because I figured there was no way our wedding would live up to their expectations. I got so irritated when OH kept saying, calm down, it'll be fine, don't worry, we'll sort it out etc. because I was just like...HOW???!!!:eek::eek:

Every time money came in, we'd have a flurry of getting little bits for the wedding that we needed and as the weeks have gone on, and our little 'wedding corner' in the lounge gets bigger an bigger, the more I can relax that it will all work out.

Is there anything you're planning to DIY that you could start now? I found that doing what DIY bits I could whenever I was stressing that we'd never get it ll done in time and scrape enough money together helped me loads.

Have you considered doing your own flowers? I've just finished making mine out of foam roses and they're as good as any of the ones on ebay if I may say so myself. Was going to order on ebay but then never had the money in time, then accepted that I really just didn't have the money full stop, so bought all the bits I needed to make them (I spent £60, but I needed loads of flowers and wanted crystals etc; if you just need for you, your sis and your LO, it'll cost you less) and taught myself how to make bouquets and buttonholes and corsages! I'm not a crafty person at all, but since I'd already spent the flower budget buying the stuff and I had to make them, I made myself learn how! The money I saved by doing the flowers myself instead of getting them on ebay paid for OH's outfit and our tablecloths.

The suit OH/best man/ushers are wearing is £35 in Primark and you wouldn't know. We could have a different suit in Tesco for £26, but OH wanted a specific shade of grey. Their shirts were £3 each and the silk tie and hanky sets were £6.75 on ebay. So we own all their outfits for less thann hiring would have cost (and we can make our money back on ebay afterwards).

Do you have a paticular colour scheme? If you only have one bridesmaid, I'm sure you can find her something lovely on ebay. What size is she? How old is the LO so we can find a suit for him? And if you really don't like your dress, I'm sure you can find something else. Can you sell the one you've got?

Anyway, I've rambled on for a while now and I'm not even sure if the point I was trying to make has got accross. Basically, I'm trying to tell you that I know how you feel and not to worry; you still have time and it WILL all work out (because it MUST) and it WON'T be rubbish (because it's your wedding day and you're marrying the love of your life and how could that be rubbish??) xx

EDIT: Just saw your other post. Don't really know what to say. It is up to you if you really both want to postpone. OH and I postponed once because we didn't have enough money. A year later, we still didn't have enough money so we figured s*d it, we'll just have to do the wedding with what we have. For us, we realised that while it would be great to have a big expensive wedding with all the things we (ehem, I) dreamed of, at the end of the day what was important was that we got married regardless of how big the wedding was. Good luck to you though. I feel really bad. (((((HUGS)))))

*Jellie*

faerie_girl wrote: »

Thanks for all the replies and suggestions. OH has just got home and I have just told him how I feel. He started moaning at me complaining again. I cried a little and have told him I think he we should pospone it. I don't want to look back in few years or even months after and regret it. Looking at our photos and hating what it all looks like.

In tears now, I know it will be the right thing to do. OH has also just confessed he doesn't want to get wed in the registry office and never has. He wants to set a date sometime in the future and have a more special do in a posh hotel.

It's never gonna happen, getting married. I love him to bits. I was so looking forward to this. Oh well, theres always 2020.

Sorry to hear you are feeling so rubbish. At least now you have an idea of what you both want to aim for and how much you'll need to save. I hope it all goes ok for you.
Big hugs- thinking of you x

Lexxi

(((hugs))) hun. Why not phone round and get prices for things that you actually want then you can have a better idea of what you need to save and how much needs putting away for it? Barclays has a regular saver account that has a pretty good interest rate

jackieglasgow

I have pm'ed you, F.G. Edit just seen your little one is a boy, just let me know what size he is, please.

Dizzie77

More hugs - but maybe this is for the best....but instead of just saying "we'll postpone it" - say "we're postponing it to X date" in 6 months time or something. Don't just leave it open ended - but the day should be the day that you both want, within financial capabilities.

Make a list of the things that you both want, and find out how much it would cost - and go from there x