Ladies & Gentlemen, please fasten your seatbelts ...

benbenandme

KM, yep unfortunately he idolises him, well no, he idolises his dogs

Ellidee

benben it sounds to me as though your ex was using you to money launder doesn't it, when he sent too much and asked for it back ? Makes my blood boil to think about it

Keeping_Motivated

benbenandme wrote: »

KM, yep unfortunately he idolises him, well no, he idolises his dogs

This could be looked at as a blessing seen as you seem to have no choice about the access..it would be much worse for you if he hated going and you had to force him

Grr to the dogs though when I know you would love one so much x

benbenandme

Ellidee, I've spent hours and hours going over it and tbh none of it seems to make much sense to me, and tbh I don't really want to know either, I just want nothing to do with it, its none of my business but I've just been dragged into it and to use ds maintenance money within it is beyind disgusting :mad: :mad:

Its strange, I'm a great believer in karma and have spent 5 years waiting for him to fall flat on his face, but never did I think it would be like this :eek: And never did I think I would be dragged into it either :mad:

EllieMarie

benbenandme wrote: »

I have asked several people and the general consensus seems to be that as he has done nothing that would put ds at risk then I can't stop him having access. Even if he had done something risky to children then he could still have supervised access :eek: :eek:

It's a truly difficult one to deal with though and again I sympathise wholeheartedly. I once tried to explain to someone how heart wrenching it felt to hand over my DD, the most precious thing in my life to the person (her father) who had hurt me the most.

benbenandme

Yep, I totally get that Elliemarie ... the person who has hurt me the most and who I trust least in the world

Ellidee

benben I hope you don't think I was implying you are guilty in any way- just thinking that HE was using your bank account, without your knowledge obviously, to launder the stolen money, when you sent some back to his 'real' account.

EllieMarie

benbenandme wrote: »

Yep, I totally get that Elliemarie ... the person who has hurt me the most and who I trust least in the world

Yes sadly:(, and his latest behaviour has been truly appaling.

Try and stay strong x

benbenandme

Of course I didn't think that Elidee Thankyou all for your support it really does mean a lot to me :T

chops22

benbenandme wrote: »

Thankyou APP, please don't relurk, keep posting!
Was almost amusing at the police station explaining my bank statements and answering questions about my financial situation and my lack of debts as a single parent on a part-time wage, nearly sent them here to meet you all :rotfl:

See another thing to be proud off!! I they had me in I would cringe at the thought of explaining how rubbish I have been with money!