Should I feed DD?!

msb5262

Hi angelicmary -

in your post #74 you say your DD pushes the plate away.

Fine.

Let her.

But don't let her be the focus of attention!

Ignore the bad behaviour and keep the atmosphere positive.

When she does sit nicely/try some food/joins in conversation politely, praise her straight away and as "specifically" as possible - "Well done for trying that," or "I like the way you're sitting sensibly," .

Talk to your OH and see if you can persuade him to pretend that he doesn't mind your DD's behaviour...when she sees that poor behaviour gets no attention, she'll move towards the behaviour you want.

You mention her wee bro - I hesitate to mention it, but this sounds like a case of (natural) jealousy of the baby.

Your DD has found the perfect way to get your attention back!

Seriously consider trying the play-it-cool suggestions for a week and then review.

I really think you'll see a difference and you'll feel a bit different about it too - you'll feel more in control and less stressed.

MsB

Indie_Kid

Has she been checked for food intolerances?

*max*

Ah well! lol Still, you've had some good advice here, so I hope some of it works with your little 'un! All the best, it isn't an easy thing! x

angelicmary85

mikey72 wrote: »

What's a typical breakfast?
With what drink.

She doesn't eat breakfast, she'll ask for bran flakes and not eat them with a cup of tea that she doesn't drink.

Writing all this down in so much detail is quite strange, she sounds like a wee weirdo :rotfl:

mikey72

angelicmary85 wrote: »

Bigger breakfast? :rotfl:

Getting her to eat breakfast would be a start!!

No she's not up but is still awake!! :eek:

Try yoghurt.

milliebear00001

I think you've done very well to resist her. With mine (who is very fussy, but not quite as bad as your DD sounds!) he tends to eat a good breakfast after a night without food. Do you think she might do this?

If it helps, my son is much more accepting now when I say no. By that, I mean he only strops and tantrums for 15 minutes or so, rather than the intermittent hours that we used to have to endure. If you are absolutely firm that she will only get the foods you offer, she will gradually improve. It's a question of whether you can stick it out. It is VERY hard; but worth it.

Material_Girl_2

angelicmary85 wrote: »

What I meant was that she tries to go but can't, she's constipated.

Sorry, I haven't read any of your previuos threads but I would think that she is constipated as she's not eating the right foods that make her go and that it hurts her if she goes to the toilet(due to not enought fibre etc).

If that is the issue than it seems a vicious circle perhaps she's scared of going to the toilet, which of course doesn't help with constipation issues.

If she's to young to understand the relation between food and going to the toilet can you try to explain to her that if she eats certain things it will be easier for her to go to the toilet?

If the doctor says she's fine physically it seems more like a psychologial issue that needs to be addressed. I would assume that it's possible to have a eating disorder at such a young age that is due to anxiety about eating/toilet issues. So while it's different to adult/teenage disorders there could still be reasons why she does not want to eat.

Sorry, if I am way off here as I have not read your previous threads and just going by what I read here.

Re joghurt - there is some very healthy joghurt around even with addedd wholegain cereal, that she may like and is healthy and I wouldn't class a joghurt as a treat but as a source of calium?

sillyvixen

my friend taught her kids that if they ate their main meal they got pudding - if they ate half their main meal they would get half their pudding, she would cut it up or spoon it out to show them what they were getting in proportion to what they were eating to encouage them to eat dinner.

HelenKA_2

Hopefully she'll go over and you'll have got the upper hand - till next time any way!

If she is happy and settled, sociable and enjoying life in general I would try not to let this issue rule the household, difficult I know. Jennyo's suggestion of an empty plate is a good one I think.

See how quickly this thread has stretched, food is such an emotive issue.

angelicmary85

milliebear00001 wrote: »

I think you've done very well to resist her. With mine (who is very fussy, but not quite as bad as your DD sounds!) he tends to eat a good breakfast after a night without food. Do you think she might do this?

I'm not sure what she'll do.

I once listened to cry/whinge for nearly 11hours for a lollipop. She'd asked for it when she got up about 8am and was still asking for it after I put her to bed :eek: