Should I feed DD?!

angelicmary85

mikey72 wrote: »

Small plate with sausage meat mixed in with the gravy to start, and a spoon.
Taken away if she used her fingers, and a treat afterwards, Then slowly swap the sizes over.
Don't worry about the veg yet, concentrate on trying to break routine.

I'll give it a try...Thank you!!

mandi

angelicmary85 wrote: »

Every day she gets some kind of veg on her plate with dinner and everyday she takes it off the plate...how long does this last for?!

Ohhh ages Angel. My youngest is 16 and still wont eat veg

rosalie-lavender

You have my sympathy because I have a son (now a teenager) who had huge issues with his food. Luckily my sons diet although very limited was reasonably healthy. It is only now he is at uni that he has started eating chips.

I think you will have to do what other people have suggested and introduce things gradually. I totally agree with all the others who have said giving in to ice cream is making a rod for your own back. I would let her have something to eat but definitely not ice cream or sweets.

Toast or cereal should fill her up without giving in to the demands for sweet things.

Material_Girl_2

From your list I'd give her the joghurt. I am sure that she will not starve herself and if she is really hungry she would eat anything you'd give her. She's just trying for icecream but if you give in now you will completely spoil her for future eating habits It's fine not to finish her dinner if she's tried and doesn't like it but she needs a nutritious meal not treat food.

Indie_Kid

angelicmary85 wrote: »

She hasn't touched milk since she was 15months old.

Not even goats or soya milk?

mikey72

Material_Girl wrote: »

From your list I'd give her the joghurt. I am sure that she will not starve herself and if she is really hungry she would eat anything you'd give her. She's just trying for icecream but if you give in now you will completely spoil her for future eating habits It's fine not to finish her dinner if she's tried and doesn't like it but she needs a nutritious meal not treat food.

Not yet, because she won't eat it.
In a while, weeks hopefully, the yoghurt and the custard can become the treat, but the op need to break the pattern first.
I wouldn't be so sure about the starving either, this isn't a one night tantrum.

angelicmary85

HelenKA wrote: »

Fighting over food is one of the most difficult things to do as a parent - but stick to your guns - my thing was weetabix only if they hadn't eaten what they were supposed to when dinner was being served.

I haven't seen your other threads but just to check, you are all trying to sit down to your meal without tv etc? Children seem to know by instinct that food battles are the ones that wind us up the most so try not to show frustration - hard I know.

Do you not want to go down the 'Here's what I made earlier' road?

Also try having what ever it is she wants to eat in sight but unavailable until she's eaten what you have put in front of her - but only put a spoon of that the first time. You can increase it slightly each time as someone else said. If she doesn't eat what you have asked her to make a big show of saying 'Oh dear, you won't be able to have the xyz, I'll have to put it away until the next time.' and really put it away not to be returned until she's eaten what you have asked her to at the next meal time.

I did things like one mouthful per page of a book being read to her, one for mummy, one for daddy etc. You can try feeding teddy/dolly/upsydaisy. Sometimes we did 'Who's car? It's Granny's car!' with accompanying sounds!

The best one was when I had a toddler and babies and the toddler had to have the 'baby mash' that they were having - she ate Annabel Karmel's chicken with apricots and green beans like there was no tomorrow and this was the child who would only eat 'peice a cheese a ham an biscuits' (which in itself wasn't too bad a thing except I was desperate to get some variety into her).

In the end the health visitor wondered if it was chewing she couldn't be bothered with as what she really liked was pasta and rice dishes. She still prefers that sort of thing to say a roast but she will eat whatever it is now even though a miniscual portion, and she's 12.

They really are very very unlikely to starve themselves so keeping to very plain and boring things outside of mealtimes will work, you just have to get a bit tough skinned about it.

I've not staerted any other threads about DD but I've posted in other users threads...I'm getting really desperate now so thought I'd start a thread of my own!!

We all sit at the kitchen table, the t.v goes off and she sits in her booster seat beside her brother.

I've tried the 'here's one I made earlier' thing but it didn't go down too well and she teddy 'doesn't like' anything either.

I've said before that I'm going to be tough with her but it never happened but I've been too soft for too long and things have to change not just for her sake, but for us all...meal time is like a war zone!!

mikey72

sh1305 wrote: »

Not even goats or soya milk?

I wouldn't touch that!

Indie_Kid

mikey72 wrote: »

I wouldn't touch that!

I prefer goats milk to cows milk. I wouldn't touch soya milk either.

angelicmary85

sh1305 wrote: »

Not even goats or soya milk?

Nope...

We've tried milkshakes and hot chocolate to try to get some milk in her but she won't drink either.