Should I feed DD?!

emlou2009

If she's old enough to ask for ice cream, I would have thought she would probably understand if you say "no, you didnt eat your dinner"?

Milk will fill her up a bit more and then you arent giving in

Fang_3

angelicmary85 wrote: »

I tried her with a pear (I've only got pears and kiwi fruit) but she refused it...she's asking for ice cream

She can't be that hungry then.

aliasojo

I think 2 is too young to do the 'you're getting nothing else cos you didn't eat your dinner' routine BUT there is no way on God's green earth would I be giving her 'treat' things like ice cream.

Some toast or cereal will keep her going. If she's hungry she'll eat it, if she refuses then that's her choice. Don't give her a menu, she doesn't live in a cafe.

chelle230

if she's hungry then she needs food, but I wouldn't give her sweets/ice-cream/something she demands. give her a bowl of cereal or a yoghurt, or even a piece of toast, and tell her if she really is hungry then she'll eat it, don't give in and give her something else

ceebeeby

angelicmary85 wrote: »

I tried her with a pear (I've only got pears and kiwi fruit) but she refused it...she's asking for ice cream

If she was that hungry (i.e. needing to scream the house down) then she'll eat the pear or the kiwi fruit.

She'd be getting nowt from me, except a glass of milk and bed!

*max*

Definitely no to the ice cream. Tell her she didn't eat her dinner, so she can't have ice cream because ice cream is a treat for when has eaten her dinner.
If she is hungry, she can have something like toast and fruit but nothing "nice".

Don't give in. She won't make herself starve, don't worry! If you give her ice cream now, she will see it as "it's ok to refuse dinner cos I will have ice cream later anyway". She'll have you wrapped around her little finger in shorter than it takes to say "mug"!

jackomdj

angelicmary85 wrote: »

I tried her with a pear (I've only got pears and kiwi fruit) but she refused it...she's asking for ice cream

If pear is something she occasionally eats & she is saying no then tough. You have given her a healthy option & she does not want it so can't be desperate for food.

If my children don't eat dinner I either throw it in the bin or (if they have not eaten any of it) put it on the side for later. If they don't eat they don't then get other "treat" options.

Tonight my 5 year old did not finish all her dinner (told me she did not like it, although she had eaten over 3/4 of it) I I told her if she did not eat it she would not be getting pudding....so my 3 year old ended up getting double helpings of peaches in juice, with a little bit of strawberry sauce over & mini smarties as we did not have many peaches left & I had alteady put it out!

angelicmary85

mikey72 wrote: »

The best approach seems to be to feed the "good" food in a small amount, with a sort of "best" of the worst food she likes afterwards, at meals. She has to understand she'll get the treat after she eats the food she doesn't like.
Over along period, adjust the sizes, until one meal is totally "good", and work from there.
It's not easy, and yes, you'll feel bad, or you're not doing it properly I'm afraid.

Which is the 'best of the worst'?

Willie Winkies

Sausage meat (from inside of sausage roll, won't eat the pastry)

Pork Pies

Gravy (no, you read it right, she likes to eat just gravy with a spoon)

Custard (which we only managed to get her to start eating last week!)

Yoghurt (occasionally)

My vote for 'best of the worst' is the custard!

All of the above foods were only introduced as a last resort when she refused everything we gave her so no, I didn't start her on a diet of rubbish before anyone says anything!

I'm at my wits end with her, she picked off every bit of sweetcorn she had on her plate a couple of days ago and left it on her placemat. Then, she proceeded to start dropping them on the floor when she thought I wasn't looking!! :eek:

She won't try anything new but she does occasionally lick something if she likes the look of it

mandi

One of the worst things you can do is make a big deal over , she is just far too young to understand :A

She wont starve herself so dont worry . If she is hungry now offer her something healthy maybe a sandwich & some fruit .. Its not easy to ignore a crying child , you have my sympathy , but it will pass

Take care

pandora205

Is she underweight for her age? If not, then keep calm and stick to your guns. I'd suggest stop buying ice cream and other foods (and drinks) that are poor nutrition and just offer healthy foods at meal times.

At this age, this is about power. You'd be amazed how many young children shape their parents' behaviour to give them narrow and eccentric diets.