Should I feed DD?!

*max*

Exactly, she is only trying the boundaries and see what she can get away with. Probably unconsciouly, but it's still real. Be strong!

angelicmary85

jackomdj wrote: »

If pear is something she occasionally eats & she is saying no then tough. You have given her a healthy option & she does not want it so can't be desperate for food.

She's never eaten a pear...she's never eaten any fruit!!

I just thought that she might eat it since she was crying!

mikey72

Sausage meat, with gravy, and start with some mash, again with gravy, but just a bit of mash.
Raise the stakes by including mashed carrots, and then include peas.
Corn is a different texture, leave that until later.
Move onto sausage, try skinless.

pigpen

I'd have put her dinner in the fridge for such an occasion!!!

2-3 year olds live on fresh air and bogies! I wouldn't worry about it..

She'd get a slice of toast or a sandwich and be banished to bed.. and in future save her dinner for 'supper'

I found mine ate at certain times of the day.. DD2 for example was a breakfast eater.. so I crammed loads into her then.. DS2 ate a huge lunch and very little the rest of the day.. see if you can find her eating time and stuff her full.

I'd have a total ban on anything sweet.. if they don't eat dinner they don't get dessert.

angelicmary85

pandora205 wrote: »

Is she underweight for her age? If not, then keep calm and stick to your guns. I'd suggest stop buying ice cream and other foods (and drinks) that are poor nutrition and just offer healthy foods at meal times.

At this age, this is about power. You'd be amazed how many young children shape their parents' behaviour to give them narrow and eccentric diets.

Every day she gets some kind of veg on her plate with dinner and everyday she takes it off the plate...how long does this last for?!

angelicmary85

mikey72 wrote: »

Sausage meat, with gravy, and start with some mash, again with gravy, but just a bit of mash.
Raise the stakes by including mashed carrots, and then include peas.
Corn is a different texture, leave that until later.
Move onto sausage, try skinless.

She licks the gravy off the sausage and leaves the sausage on her plate...she won't eat them both together!

angelicmary85

emlou2009 wrote: »

If she's old enough to ask for ice cream, I would have thought she would probably understand if you say "no, you didnt eat your dinner"?

Milk will fill her up a bit more and then you arent giving in

She hasn't touched milk since she was 15months old.

*Louise*

Whether you feed her isn't the problem - it's WHAT you feed her

I personally don't have the heart to let my 2 year old cry because she is hungry.:o I wouldn't however, allow her anything sweet to eat.

I would let her have toast or cereal, along with some milk and send her packing

Ice cream is 110% no-go. You would make a rod for your own back if you gave into that one. Plus, it's not exactly 'filling' food is it

You do have my sympathies though, my 5 year old is quite a fussy eater, although his range is widening, we give him a little amount of something new with every meal, if he doesn't try it, then he doesn't get pudding. Some things he discovers he likes, others he doesn't - it takes time.

mikey72

Small plate with sausage meat mixed in with the gravy to start, and a spoon.
Taken away if she used her fingers, and a treat afterwards, Then slowly swap the sizes over.
Don't worry about the veg yet, concentrate on trying to break routine.

HelenKA_2

Fighting over food is one of the most difficult things to do as a parent - but stick to your guns - my thing was weetabix only if they hadn't eaten what they were supposed to when dinner was being served.

I haven't seen your other threads but just to check, you are all trying to sit down to your meal without tv etc? Children seem to know by instinct that food battles are the ones that wind us up the most so try not to show frustration - hard I know.

Do you not want to go down the 'Here's what I made earlier' road?

Also try having what ever it is she wants to eat in sight but unavailable until she's eaten what you have put in front of her - but only put a spoon of that the first time. You can increase it slightly each time as someone else said. If she doesn't eat what you have asked her to make a big show of saying 'Oh dear, you won't be able to have the xyz, I'll have to put it away until the next time.' and really put it away not to be returned until she's eaten what you have asked her to at the next meal time.

I did things like one mouthful per page of a book being read to her, one for mummy, one for daddy etc. You can try feeding teddy/dolly/upsydaisy. Sometimes we did 'Who's car? It's Granny's car!' with accompanying sounds!

The best one was when I had a toddler and babies and the toddler had to have the 'baby mash' that they were having - she ate Annabel Karmel's chicken with apricots and green beans like there was no tomorrow and this was the child who would only eat 'peice a cheese a ham an biscuits' (which in itself wasn't too bad a thing except I was desperate to get some variety into her).

In the end the health visitor wondered if it was chewing she couldn't be bothered with as what she really liked was pasta and rice dishes. She still prefers that sort of thing to say a roast but she will eat whatever it is now even though a miniscual portion, and she's 12.

They really are very very unlikely to starve themselves so keeping to very plain and boring things outside of mealtimes will work, you just have to get a bit tough skinned about it.