Should I feed DD?!

angelicmary85

O.k so I thought I'd pop back with a little update -

The last couple of days haven't actually been as bad as I thought it was going to be.

The main thing I think I've done is tell her 'We're going to have x for dinner' instead of asking 'What would you like for dinner tonight?' which, ironically, was advice I'd taken from some of the mum's off here

My wee lady hasn't tried many new things but seems to have accepted that she won't get anything different from the rest of us and now seems to be working around it.

I made some (what was supposed to be!) tattie croquettes yesterday, she picked the breadcrumbs off but ate some of the tattie which was a bit of an achievement in inself :T and even went so far as to put a bit of sweetcorn in her mouth, although, she spat it back out again, I was really shocked as sweetcorn has been one of her main foes for a long time now.

She has been helping me slice cucumber, tomatoes and shred lettuce and has picked some of up and played with it. We have been talking about the different colours of food and textures.

Most importantly, she doesn't 'freak out' at the table to get away so much anymore. I got her daddy to engage her in conversation (we've always tried to do this anyway but I shoot him a look if he starts to sound annoyed and he calms down again )

When she pushes her plate away, we don't say anything about trying it or eating, we just ignore her but I'm sorry to report that I praised her at lunchtime today for eating lentil soup - this used to be her favourite but han't touched it in months, I was really pleased to see her eating it again.

She has started to eat more bread now wich I'm pleased about - we put a bit of marg on it, some primula (not too much thoug, maybe a tablespoon and spread it really thinly) and then use cookie cutters - the current favourites are a teddy bear, a little dog, a rectangl and a musical note!

So all round, it's not been the huge struggle I thought it would be which has been a really pleasant surprise

mikey72

Excellent news, and I'm glad it's going well. So long as she is trying new stuff, that's the hard bit out of the way. Keep at it, and don't let your husband get stressed out by it either.

angelicmary85

Hi Mikey,

I'm trying to make him see that by him stressing, she'll stress...but I won't be here at dinner-time tonight so I'll to make sure I tell him to stay clam whilst I'm not here!

msb5262

Well done angelicmary!
I'm so impressed - it's clear that you've managed to turn the emotional temperature down quite a bit round the whole food issue.
I hope you're feeling better and much more in control of what's happening, and also that you're feeling more confident about your DD's future eating habits.
She's trying food!
She's not laying down the law!
You are telling her what's for dinner and she's accepting it!
Excellent progress.
Keep it up and please keep us posted - it's great to hear from you.
Best wishes
MsB x

angelicmary85

msb5262 wrote: »

Well done angelicmary!
I'm so impressed - it's clear that you've managed to turn the emotional temperature down quite a bit round the whole food issue.
I hope you're feeling better and much more in control of what's happening, and also that you're feeling more confident about your DD's future eating habits.
She's trying food!
She's not laying down the law!
You are telling her what's for dinner and she's accepting it!
Excellent progress.
Keep it up and please keep us posted - it's great to hear from you.
Best wishes
MsB x

Thank you MsB!!

We may have taken another little step backwards last night. When I got home from the gym...you could cut the tension with a knife!!

It would appear that daddy hasn't quite the got the hang of 'staying calm' when he's on his own with them. He doesn't get shouty or angry with the kids, just frustrated. I'd made bolognese for them in the morning and left it for OH to re-heat, she refused to eat it and he was going on and on and on at her.

How many times do you need to tell someone to stay calm before they actually accept it? It's almost feels like he's un-doing all DD's hard work. :mad:

mikey72

Maybe he should take the "take it or leave it" approach.
No arguements or discussion, no winners or losers, no confrontation, at worse you just have to sort it out later, or she just misses a meal.
One or two missed meals won't matter, and you can keep making progress later.
So long as you keep doing what you are doing, and it's working, you can keep it up.
She has to know the rule though, otherwise she'll end up just playing up dad, and hoping you'll take pity on her later.
Eventually you can train both of them hopefully.

angelicmary85

Thanks Milkey,

Where I work there's a big leisure complex which is where I go to the gym and I thought that I could ask daddy to take both of them to soft play in the same complex whilst I was at the gym thus (hopefully) buliding up DD's appetite with all the running around and we'd all be going home together so I can take control at the table so daddy doesn't get annoyed?

I couldn't do that everytime I go though as it's quite expensive but it may help just now so, yet again, I can show daddy how to stay in control.

Buttonmoons

Glad to hear she is trying new things angelic. Can you tell me how to get my DD to try some soup :rotfl:

My little on ate a burger at a BBQ the other day, first burger she has ever eaten, she said it was "maaalicious" <--- her way of saying delicious. So whilst it's not healthy, it's a new food I can serve to her at dinner times and know she will eat, and can make them myself so not so much bad stuff in it. Apparently the burgers have to be black though so I'm not sure how I can trick her with a vegetable burger hmmmm

mikey72

They're not unhealthy.
You can mince the steak yourself, and if you want to be sneaky, add a bit of veg fine minced or pureed, and increase the mix occasionally.
If you add a bit of onion to start, it'll hide the taste.
(or be rejected if they "don't like onion")

angelicmary85

Buttonmoons wrote: »

Glad to hear she is trying new things angelic. Can you tell me how to get my DD to try some soup :rotfl:

I think it's a little earl for me to be giving advice :rotfl:

I'm glad to hear your DD had a maaaalicious burger!!

Maybe you could quorn mince to make burgers?