Should I feed DD?!

angelicmary85

msb5262 wrote: »

Can you show him this thread? It might open his eyes a bit to what you're trying to do and how the whole cunning plan is meant to come together.

He read most of it last night but I can't see him helping anytime soon. :eek: What I should have done is started her on her new 'regime' on Tues when I would have had Tues - Sat to get her a bit more settled and then for himself to take over on Sun.

mikey72

If she is two now, and was 26lb in march, assuming she was 21 months old then, it's puts her on the 50 percentile, which is about right, but it depends on the age, for example if she was say 30 months old in march it puts her on the 20 percentile, so a bit low.
Still in the right ball park though, so missing a few meals won't hurt yet, (but would be a bad habit to form). So don't feel bad if she is hungry, keep at it.

angelicmary85

mikey72 wrote: »

If she is two now, and was 26lb in march, assuming she was 21 months old then, it's puts her on the 50 percentile, which is about right, but it depends on the age, for example if she was say 30 months old in march it puts her on the 20 percentile, so a bit low.
Still in the right ball park though, so missing a few meals won't hurt yet, (but would be a bad habit to form). So don't feel bad if she is hungry, keep at it.

In March, she would have been 27 months old.

mikey72

From the charts, she would be on the 25 percentile, that is 25% of girls that age are the same or lighter, 75% are heavier.
So she's not starving on what she eats, even though it's not the healthiest food.
So you have got leaway to be tough for the time being.
(But if she misses many meals, she could lose weight and also develop a habit of missing food)

mikey72

Don't forget, yoghurt for breakfast again!

thorsoak

I said she is yet to try it...as in, won't taste it. If I can't get her to eat a plain chicken breast...how am I going to get her to eat it minced?!

Sorry Mary - I don't want you to think I was having a go at you - I certainly wasn't - just trying different suggestions. My suggestion for the minced chicken/turkey was because she seems to like gravy - and I thought that if she has a little minced chicken in a gravy-sauce - the texture might be more to her taste at the moment.

Mayflower10cat

I'm not a Mum but I sympathise with how hard it is to get awkward eaters eating!!! My younger sisters girl and boy have almost made her prematurely grey with their whims and their fads. What used to drive me mad (privately!) was watching them refusing their lovely homecooked dinner and holding out for crisps/desserts/icecream/cr*p - and (grrr) my sister would sigh and give in. Or we would go out for an extended family meal and choose somewhere based around whatever the kids were picking at that week - which they'd then ignore!!!! They've come to stay with us overnight as a treat from time to time and I must admit I'm 'hard' on them - I prepare a meal which they usually enjoy, we sit down, they ignore it or ask for something else and I say no! My husband and I carry on eating as if nothing has happened - and so very often, they will eat some of what I've prepared. And no, they don't get dessert!

My sister has instigated a points system for them. Everytime she puts something new on their plates and they pull a face, she says - 'all I ask is that you try it'. And they get a point for that. They have a scoresheet up on the wall with all their points. They also get points for keeping their rooms tidy or for little chores around the house or for a good school report. (The conversion of 'points to prizes' I must admit I'm not too sure at the current exchange rate!)

The other breakthrough my sister made was - getting the children into the kitchen cooking with her. Make a game of it. Give them some pastry or bread dough and some cheese/veg/etc and say - make something nice for your tea, whatever you make you eat. This worked very well forthem.

angelicmary85

thorsoak wrote: »

I said she is yet to try it...as in, won't taste it. If I can't get her to eat a plain chicken breast...how am I going to get her to eat it minced?!

Sorry Mary - I don't want you to think I was having a go at you - I certainly wasn't - just trying different suggestions. My suggestion for the minced chicken/turkey was because she seems to like gravy - and I thought that if she has a little minced chicken in a gravy-sauce - the texture might be more to her taste at the moment.

I know you weren't having a go...my apologies if you thought I was getting defensive but it's really frustrating that there seems to be nothing my wee madam will eat and I can't think of anymore ways to try to get proper food into her.

CRANKY40

angelicmary85 wrote: »

I know you weren't having a go...my apologies if you thought I was getting defensive but it's really frustrating that there seems to be nothing my wee madam will eat and I can't think of anymore ways to try to get proper food into her.

If she's on the 25th centile, then something is going in and sticking. My house elf is also on the 25th centile, and was weighed at school recently. His results have come back that for his height he is a healthy weight.

As a cautionary tale, my aunty says that as bad as my son is, he eats much better than I did. As I said before, I was forced to eat until I was sick and my mum used to cry a lot and take me to the doctors because I ate so little. I am currently aproximately twice the healthy weight for my size. This is not something I'm proud of, but somehow food has become so big in my life that I eat when I'm bored, sad etc..... Please try and relax - she won't starve. Just one more passing thought - bribery. Mini cookies? Teeny tiny cookies that won't spoil her appetite, so as someone suggested, if you want to give her a cookie for being good and eating something, give her a little cookie from multipack, rather than a big cookie that will fill her up.

pebbles88

aw Angel, ((HUGS)) im sure you will get there, let today give you hope.

my bro & sis in law feed their kids utter crap, as soon as they started weaning the last one it was having spaghetti hops, beans, all processed rubbish, same with the older one... a 'meal' is usually those frozen chips u can get that look like a takeaway packet... fries 2 go or something? and turkey twizzlers, dinosaurs etc.

they make HM food for themsselves, so why they dont feed the little uns that i dont know? but the kids end up bouncing off the walls with all the rubbish stuff in the food!

Good luck! xx