Should I feed DD?!

aliasojo

mikey72 wrote: »

I think she knows the ingredients, and as to the other question, I think she has made an effort somehow, quite a lot of effort beyond the normal in fact.

mikey, thorsoak wasn't making any sort of dig, he/she was just pointing out the pitfalls of this type of food (imo).

As for making an effort beyond normal, I've got to disagree with you on that. Many, many Mums have had the experience of shopping for different thing in an effort to get their kids to eat AND stood for many an hour in the kitchen batch cooking and freezing pots of fresh food for their littlies.

mikey72

aliasojo wrote: »

mikey, thorsoak wasn't making any sort of dig, he/she was just pointing out the pitfalls of this type of food (imo).

As for making an effort beyond normal, I've got to disagree with you on that. Many, many Mums have had the experience of shopping for different thing in an effort to get their kids to eat AND stood for many an hour in the kitchen batch cooking and freezing pots of fresh food for their littlies.

Do they eat them?

aliasojo

mikey72 wrote: »

Do they eat them?

The OP is far from the only parent to ever have a fussy child.

You seemed to state she was going beyond normal efforts in an attempt to get the child to eat, I was just pointing out many Mums have done/do the same thing.

mikey72

I'll take that as a yes then.

aliasojo

mikey72 wrote: »

I'll take that as a yes then.

Oh my. Why would you do that? That's most certainly not what I wrote.

I'm going to bow out, it wasn't my intention to cause an argument, I was only pointing something out but it feels as if there's only a certain way of thinking allowed on this thread and any other view or post isn't welcome.

Good luck OP.

For the record, I've had 3, one 'normal' eater, one who resembled a sumo wrestler who would devour everything in his path and a petite littlie who you would swear was an anorexic sometimes! Don't fret too much, this will pass.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

angelicmary85 wrote: »

She'll eat them occasionally but I don't want her to have them

But how is giving her oversweetened stuff any better for her? And if she doesn't eat, there is nothing to come out the other end.


I'm not having a go at you at all, but if I were to hand over responsibility for food choices to my two, even at their ages, (17 and 11)

One (the eldest) would have

sweets
sweets
sweets
biscuits
sweets
water
sweets
sweets
biscuits
the centre bit of bacon with tomato ketchup
and some sweets

the other one would have

ham, cucumber and mayo sandwich
tuna salad
chicken salad
salmon and salad
rice salad
fruit salad
prawn cocktail on jacket potato and salad
smoked salmon and cream cheese on jacket potato and salad
bacon lettuce and tomato sandwich
sausage sandwich
Chicken tikka
Chicken Tandoori
Orange jelly
Raspberry jelly
water
orange juice with bits
pink lemonade
tea
two choc chip cookies and a large glass of milk
ham and mozzarella panini with salad
sardines on toast
chicken/sea bass/mackerel/sausages with pasta arrabiata sauce with broccoli
Beef in mirin and soy with rice
chicken yakitori
sashimi (but no wasabi)
rice
smoked fish, prawns and peas cooked in rice made with chicken stock and turmeric
pork tonkatsu
lasagne and salad


The second one was treated to a few weeks of cold food so that it could go into the fridge if she decided she didn't want to eat it. The oldest was allowed to decide what she wanted (and I was shouted at for being cruel if I suggested she couldn't have been hungry five minutes earlier when she pushed the food away and whimpered 'I'm not hungry' - we' are no longer together for the obvious reason). She also was very good at getting teachers to offer her their breaktime kitkats because 'I'm so hungry, Mummy doesn't feed me, I feel sooooo dizzy'. In the end, the school didn't even bother telling me she was trying it on again, as every year she would try it with the new teacher, I'd then get the child protection nonsense and suggest they checked with last year's teacher, when the fuss abruptly stopped again)


The younger one is the slimmer, healthier one. And the eldest has moved in her father, promptly put on 3 stone and a
is constantly ill with one thing or another.

msb5262

mikey72 wrote: »

At the risk of disagreeing, haven't you said that at least two of the pudding courses, custard and yoghurt, have been things she will eat and see as possibly a main course in there own right, and that she wouldn't eat the fruit even as pudding.
So I would still insist on eating a different food first, even if it is fruit, then giving her the "pudding" she likes.

I reckon that this little girl needs to recognise that mealtimes will include some of the foods she already likes and will eat, and that before any "insisting on eating" happens, she should have the experience of eating at least part of the meal willingly and when it is given to her.

If it is a normal, small serving of pudding, she won't be satisfied by that in the long run. If the OP starts this way and the child will sit properly to eat at least the pudding at each meal, the OP can start insisting on some other food being tried after a week or so of sitting at the table at mealtimes and eating at least part of what she's been given.

As for the statement "she wouldn't eat the fruit even as pudding", that may well be true but it doesn't mean fruit should not be offered.

The OP recognises that the child's current list of foods she will eat is ridiculously short and that this must be remedied both for the child's health and for the whole family's emotional wellbeing.

I'm afraid that a child of two shouldn't be the one dictating what food is bought or served...that's down to parents. If the child was saying she would only drink wine, nobody would think it was ok to give it to her!

angelicmary85

thorsoak wrote: »

Ingredients Pork (42%), Water, Rusk (Wheat Flour, Salt, Water), Pork Rind, Wheat Starch, Salt, Concentrated Soya Protein, Dextrose, Stabiliser (E450, E451), Preservatives (E223), Yeast Extracts, Wheat Flour, Antioxidants (Sodium Ascorbate), Spices, Herbs, Colour (Carmine).
Product Contains: Wheat Gluten, Sulphite, Yeast, Soya.
Free from Artificial Colours and Flavours.
Allergies Information Contains Gluten, Wheat, Wheat Flour, Wheat Starch, Soya , Soya Protein, Sulphite & Yeast
Nutrition nutrientper 100gEnergy kCal193kCalEnergy kJ806kJProtein9.7gCarbohydrate11.4gof which sugars0.4gFat12.1gof which saturates4.3gFibre0.6gSodium0.5g
Although you are having problems getting food into her, I would not be happy with the nutritional value of these sausages It's difficult to put nutrition before the needs of a kid who is hungry but won't eat the food in front of them.

I know it is difficult cooking from scratch - especially when you have a busy schedule and little madam turns her nose up at everything put in front of you - but have you tried her on a little minced chicken or turkey? I know you've said that you use soya mince, but haven't yet tried your daughter on it - is there a reason why not? I said she is yet to try it...as in, won't taste it. If I can't get her to eat a plain chicken breast...how am I going to get her to eat it minced?!

What about fish - has she had fish of any sort - fish fingers, little taste of salmon? What about eggs? Have you tried them yet? She picks fish fingers apart and squishes them with her fingers. I've tried poaching fish in milk (as recommended by a lady at work) but that didn't work either.

I'm asking, because thinking about weaning turns itself on its head two or three times every generation - No 1 son (now 43) started weaning at 4 months, with bananas & rice cereal, then on to eggs :eek: then other fruits & veggies, then chicken - by the time he was a year old he was chomping cheerily on curry & rice - but by the time I had No 3 son (32) no weaning until at least 9 months!

Different countries have different ideas too - DGS (in Japan) was eating fish & rice at 7 months!

I've tried eggs...scrambled with ham, tomatoes, bacon, ketchup...the list of things I've tried goes on and on.

angelicmary85

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

But how is giving her oversweetened stuff any better for her? And if she doesn't eat, there is nothing to come out the other end.

I try not to give her the over sweetened stuff...that why she gets willie winkies!!

aliasojo

angelicmary85 wrote: »

I've tried eggs...scrambled with ham, tomatoes, bacon, ketchup...the list of things I've tried goes on and on.

Please dont take this the wrong way as I mean well, but maybe you're trying too many different things? It's a constant cycle that cant get broken ..try this, no.... try this, no ....try this, no. etc etc. There's nothing happening differently that wil make things change. All you're doing is accepting her not eating by 'blaming' it on the food and then trying her with something else.

I really do think less choice in all matters food is sometimes better. It's not so much about the food as it is about the will, iyswim.