Should I feed DD?!

Cullumpster

i always ask my oh when he gets in from work so i suppose if he is in the room he just answers

mikey72

As a final thought, regards the chip.
I agree it's not a healthy food.
But it's an idea about food.
It's a change in taste and a new texture.
Every time a new food is offered, it'll be the phrase, "you tried the chips and liked them"
But no big deal if the new food is left at first, at least it may get tried.
And if you're really lucky, it won't have been the chip, it will have been the carrot stick.
If it's not, over the next visits, over time, it's the "eat the carrot sticks then I'll get the fries"
And a carrot at home tastes the same.

Buttonmoons

My DD went from a fabulous muncher (I swear she learned to walk at 10months so she could snatch food off plates) to a dreadful picky eater at age 2 - Oddly enough after a very bad sickness and diarrhea bug!!

She used to live off nuggets, scrambled eggs, toast, yoghurt, the occaional piece of fruit and that was about it!

Since she started nursery she is more willing to try new things but can't get her to eat really saucy things or the dreaded SANDWICH!

She demolishes fruit, chicken kormas/rogan josh etc, spicy pasta, cereal, garlic bread etc and even drinks milk now. For so long I was at my wits end with her eating, I'm a lot more chilled out about it now, though I probs do give her too many sweets!

I feel for you because I know what a nightmare it is

go_cat

angelicmary85 wrote: »

She'll only eat it if it's room temp, I'll leave a couple of pots out overnight and give her them in the morning!

Has she any problems with her teeth that may have put her off food? Does she have sensitive teeth she so now she links food with pain ?

aliasojo

I'm surprised at the amount of peeps who seem to go down the route of persuasion or bribery. Imo, this is just making an issue of food in the child's mind.

I think a much better approach is the laid back one where they eat, or they dont. They dont get offered things, or asked what they would like, they should just get given things. (Obviously things that are suitable and are more likely to be eaten than something you're pushing your luck with, lol).

I don't think there are many kids who truely have food issues, I think the majority of issues develop through the parent's anxiety rather than the child's.

I have a relative who at one point allowed her son to eat peas off the table rather than his plate, just so he would eat them. He very quickly learned than food was something he could push his Mother with. Toddlers are one of the most clever species on this planet for subconciously absorbing things and using them to their advantage.

Good luck to all of you who are still dealing with small people...I would not go back to those days if you paid me.

CRANKY40

I have a "fussy eater" in that he doesn't like meat that he has to chew, and never has really liked anything chewy. He likes all the usual junk now (but he didn't when he was 2). He eats hotdogs (yuk), spaghetti hoops, shapes etc, meatballs and cocktail sausages.

I also discovered that while he wouldn't eat meat, quorn was acceptable, so we make bolognaise with quorn mince. I also make lamb stew, with loads of veg, then put the blender on it, so it's more like gravy. I don't care if he won't chew it as long as he's eating the veg. He has his own choice of junk food one night (if I make him super noodles I only use half of the flavouring), and then the next night he has a choice of healthy meals. He's not a big lunch eater, but that doesn't bother me. It means he eats a decent evening meal.

He knows that I hide things in his food (came clean before he noticed his mashed potato was green), but has asked me never to hide sweetcorn as he really doesn't like it. Oh and the progress from blending his food so that he kept enjoying the taste of proper food is that now, aged 5 I can put a proper dinner of mashed potato, mashed carrots, chicken and gravy on his plate and he will eat it.

I was forced to eat until I was sick as a child, and vowed never to repeat this performance with my own child. Occasionally he will try the "I'm not eating my dinner" thing, and my reply is the same as it has always been - "Fine, don't eat it, see if I care". Childish maybe, but he is not being given the merest hint that what he eats is important to me.

Oh, and his redeeming feature in all of this is that as well as not liking fruit (banana makes him gag, raspberries are too hairy, strawberries have too many pips), he also doesn't like sweets much. He hates all jelly sweets, and generally will only accept white chocolate buttons, and a finger of fudge now and then.

The only thing I would say change about your daughter Mary, is stop giving her things that you know she won't eat like bran flakes in the morning, no matter if she asks for them. My friend's grandaughter quite often has noodles for breakfast by the way. She's 10, eats like the proverbial horse and is the size of a 7 year old.

angelicmary85

go_cat wrote: »

Has she any problems with her teeth that may have put her off food? Does she have sensitive teeth she so now she links food with pain ?

She fell at the age of 13 months whilst running about outside. She fell onto something in th garden and knocked 2 bottom teeth loose.

We managed to get her an appointment at the dentist the next day and they said she'd need a check up in 6 weeks and they'd get us on the waiting list...the list be really long as we've been waiting since Jan 09 :eek:

Fitzio

Mary, that sounds a nightmare, and I hope you have had some ideas here that might help you.

I have a 10 month old baby who happily eats whatever I give her (although doesn't take massive portions). There is so much advice around when weaning babies to stop them being fussy eaters, along the lines of "make all food home-made", "don't offer anything sweet", "make sure they food is lumpy so they don't get used to smooth purees" etc.

I just wondered - those of you with fussy toddlers, were they always fussy even as babies, or is this something that develops as they get older?
Did you feed them mainly jarred or pureed food etc? I am making mostly home-made food but still use some jars for convenience and I am happy with what I am doing. I just wondered if there is anything to all of the advice.

angelicmary85

Fitzio wrote: »

I just wondered - those of you with fussy toddlers, were they always fussy even as babies, or is this something that develops as they get older?
Did you feed them mainly jarred or pureed food etc? I am making mostly home-made food but still use some jars for convenience and I am happy with what I am doing. I just wondered if there is anything to all of the advice.

Food has always been an issue for her, even when she was tiny she would refuse food.

Indie_Kid

CRANKY40 wrote: »

I was forced to eat until I was sick as a child, and vowed never to repeat this performance with my own child. Occasionally he will try the "I'm not eating my dinner" thing, and my reply is the same as it has always been - "Fine, don't eat it, see if I care". Childish maybe, but he is not being given the merest hint that what he eats is important to me.

By doing this, you're not focusing your attention on him and therefore, not making a big deal out of it.