Any termination threads on here?

foreign_correspondent

Icey - hope you are back home by now and putting your feet up. I do not know whether you will come back to this thread to post or not, I can understand if you feel the need to steer clear of it, but I just wanted to say how brave I feel you have been to start this thread, and how impressed I am by the dignified and level headed way you have dealt with a few loopy posts... hopefully, this thread will be unearthed by women in the future, who have the same questions you had, and they will be helped by it.

I hope you are feeling ok, wishing you a fast and easy recovery,

fc x

stargazer59

I hope you are ok Icey, its a difficult think to have to do.

Take care of your self.xx

jellyhead

Jumping in at the end of a thread that been left alone for days, sorry, but my post might still be relevant.

A relative who had an abortion said that she felt weepy and sad afterwards, and that it lasted right up til she had her next normal period. After that she felt normal, and she hasn't regretted her decision. She thinks the sadness was a hormone thing - so be prepared for that, and if it's really awful then perhaps knowing that when it happened to someone else they did feel better a few weeks later might be a comfort.

I've only had miscarriages, so the sadness was expected, but my relative hadn't expected to feel sad and was shocked when she did, she worried that she was regretting what she did and was going to be gutted about it for the rest of her life, but that wasn't the case.

The only thing I can add from myself is that it might be very messy, and might be painful. Make sure you have painkillers, heat pads/hot water bottle and some wipes and lots of pads available. You may want to put an old towel under yourself when you sleep.

My missed miscarriage was quite big, surrounded in a massive clot. It shot out as I answered the door, despite my wearing a pad and my underwear (and a nightdress of course). That could have been embarrassing if it had gone out of the half-open door or onto my visitor instead of hitting the door and landing back in my hallway. Too much information I know, sorry lol, but you may wish to wear pyjama trousers when first getting up in the morning.

Icey77

Hi everyone,

Thankyou for all your good wishes. I am fine.

I'll make no bones about it, it's not something I ever want to do again, it was hideously painful for a short time but has been very manageable other than that.

At the moment I don't feel any grief or guilt. I can't comment at this point if those feelings will come along but I can only feel what I feel

Clearly this thread is helping other girls, I've had quite a few PMs asking specfic questions and I hope to answer them all shortly. If anyone wants to ask anything please don't hesitate to - I am willing to answer anything I can. This is my way of repaying and paying forward the kindness I have received on here.

Again, thankyou to everyone that has posted in a grownup and sensitive way. This is a subject that will continue to crop up and unless it's made illegal it's a thread that is going to get looked at fairly regularly I suspect.

Thanks everyone! IC x

Youdontseeme

I had a termination almost 14 years ago, and while I do not regret my choice, I still feel the guilt and although I did everything I could to get away from the guilt, it has followed me around.

I urge you ( or anyone in your position) to have the councilling offered.

I chose not to, as at the time I was at college doing a course on counselling I thought I didn't need it. Now I cant get it unless I pay and I cant afford to!!

I do not regret my decision, I regret being daft enough to get pregnant in the first place, I sometimes wonder if I will ever be ready (or with the right bloke) to want to ever have kids, I'm nearly 35 and it still scares the sh*t out of me, I have convinced myself I will be a !!!! mum and I;d be better off with a puppy!!

I have friends who were totally unaffected by terminations, some had more than 1, but it has, and always will be another screw up for me.

Take all the help you can get, even if you feel you don't need it now, getting now might help with any problems in the future.

Take care
YDSM

Hippeechiq

Icey77 wrote: »

I know I am doing the right thing for ME
IC x

And there you have it - you did what was right for you!
Your life, Your decision - end of

I'm glad it went well for you hun

louise3965

Just be careful about getting sucked into being MSE's resident abortion counsellor while things are raw. I know you will want to help, but just be careful. Glad you are home and ok and can now put this in the past and move on xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

nanto3girls

Good to hear from you again icey.Hope you make a speedy recovery.

BigBlackcat

Thanks for the update Icey.

I think you have handled what must have been a difficult decision, with great maturity.

I hope this thread helps other women seeking real life, practical, unbiased facts about terminations.

Torry_Quine

Glad to hear that things went well for you. You have been very brave to be so open about this difficult subject.