MSE Parents Club Part 13

Krystaltips

SusanC wrote: »

I'm not sure what to put about emergencies. Last time I put in provision that preferences could be ignored in the event of an emergency but I feel that that just gave them carte blanche to ignore whatever they wanted. Last time of the 14 statements on my plan, seven were ignored. Of the seven which weren't, two were provision for circumstances which didn't arise, one was that OH would be present, one was about what pain relief I would consider and one was agreement to a standard procedure.

I found my second birth a completely different experience to my first. The first time around I was practically ignored the whole time eg, despite asking to go into the pool and being put into the delivery suite with the pool, my sister had to ask 4 times before they started filling it, and I only got 15mins in there before I delivered... The second time around was a completely different experience. They couldn't chat to me enough, they asked me my preferences when they booked me in and again at shift change. They spoke to me about every thing they did and made it my decision. The only thing I'm a bit miffed about now is the pethidine they offered me while I was in transition... I think if she'd have observed me at the time rather than assuming I wasn't coping she would have seen how close I was to delivery. But at least this time I can make a point about that.

You might find none of the scenarios that occured with Alice's birth are an issue this time around and I'm sure there would be no worry of an emergency situation. However, I would be inclined to brief OH / Doula on what your choices would be if various situations arose as they will be your voice while you are otherwise engaged.

searching_me wrote: »

oh you've got to be kidding me ........ my printers just packed in :mad: .. well i dont packed in but refusing to work .. krystal can i ask a favour pretty please .. can you printer me off a 30% of voucher for tomorrow .. its ok if you cant though x

Sorry chick, no printer ink for about 6 months now... They should have the leaflets in the station though, that's what we did last time... I'll see if I've got any spare though...

I'm not sure whether to get a day bus/train ticket... Or just pay myself on the bus and then buy myself and Aimee a train ticket... I never pay for her on the bus... But there's more chance of an inspector on the train lol...

SJ, I'm very at not seeing you and the gorgeous Alfie again tomorrow... I demand you post me a cupcake by way of compensation for my disappointment...

SusanC_2

Evansangel wrote: »

Susan, would you mind if i had a look at your chart please? I like looking at other peoples charts for some reason

Sure but mine are on paper so I'll have to scan them in. (I'll do it tomorrow though because OH already thinks it's a bit weird that I have online friends as it is.)

hammyhunter

SM, if you send me a link, I will print one off, no probs

I am off to sort stuff out now but am guaranteed to be on later and/or in the early hours as Grumblebum is guaranteed to wake up a few times

got-it-spend-it

hammyhunter wrote: »

I am on high dose pethidine daily and I am lucid (mostly.... depending on exactly how badly D sleeps .......) so tolerance is very relevant.

Clearly tolerance was the word I was searching for but didn't quite find .

It is so peaceful in chez GISI- one boy in bed and the other at work!

SusanC_2

Krystaltips wrote: »

You might find none of the scenarios that occured with Alice's birth are an issue this time around and I'm sure there would be no worry of an emergency situation. However, I would be inclined to brief OH / Doula on what your choices would be if various situations arose as they will be your voice while you are otherwise engaged.

Thanks. I'm hoping that with a homebirth I will have a better midwife who wouldn't be doing things like force me to give birth on my back when I say I don't want to (and the NICE guidelines say they should encourage women not to give birth on their back because it is the worst position to do it in) but I'd be totally kicking myself if they did one of the things they did last time and I hadn't written it down.

Evansangel

aless02 wrote: »

EA, I can say that charting is a bit of guesswork at best. When I got pregnant last year, my dates were definitely out of sync with my chart...I had thought I OVed over a week before I actually did...and I even had fairly stable temps!

:rotfl: in fantasy world, I'd already be using it again! but done lots of calculating re: working and may start TTC early next year, we shall see.

eta: here's mine from when I TTCed last yr if you wanna have a nosy: http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/23ecc0

Grr, wrote a post and lost it

This is my 2nd 'real' cycle since birth, so at the moment it is alot of guesswork.
Pre Lily is was 32 days and OV on day 18, simples *squeak* :rotfl:

We were going to wait until Lily was 6 months, but i didn't want to wait. She's nearly 6 months anyway so didn't matter so much.

Thanks, i'll have a nosy in a sec

SusanC wrote: »

Sure but mine are on paper so I'll have to scan them in. (I'll do it tomorrow though because OH already thinks it's a bit weird that I have online friends as it is.)

If its to much hassle dont worry

Same here, he always says about how we're a bunch of woman gossiping online :rotfl:
I say "We dont gossip, we discuss child related matters" :rotfl:

My_Fathers_Daughter

I was going to suggest an emergency separate birth plan giving instructions in case you end up in hospital Susan but MDW got there before me.


I had a hell of a work phone call at 6.15pm this evening and I really need a drink Actually I really need a dozen drinks.

Have forgotten completely what else I was going to say.

aless02

MFD, hope you're okay

SusanC_2

Evansangel wrote: »

Grr, wrote a post and lost it

This is my 2nd 'real' cycle since birth, so at the moment it is alot of guesswork.
Pre Lily is was 32 days and OV on day 18, simples *squeak* :rotfl:

Maybe the variability (and the long previous cycle) is just your body slowly getting back to normal?

MadDogWoman_2

SM - I've printed a spare