MSE Parents Club Part 13

gill_81uk

I would think right before xmas is a bad tim for any big city! unless you're staying well away from the centre.

MadDogWoman_2

It might also be really nice as there will be lots of Christmassy things going on.

SusanC_2

aless02 wrote: »

Susan, sounds very thorough. If you're employing a doula, a large portion of their job would be to make sure your birth plan is adhered to as much as possible, so I would try and relax about it all a bit. Plus being at home generally decreases all forms of intervention and the "cascade", so that should help too.

That's exactly why I want a doula and a homebirth.

I want to take my birth plan to my booking appointment because that was the only appointment last time where the midwife had time for questions and discussion and wasn't rushed.

MadDogWoman wrote: »

Susan - what about having a second page as back up, that would only come out in the event of an emergency?

Good idea. Although I would hope in an actual real emergency they would just get on and do what is necessary rather than stopping to read my preferences. Is there anything particular I ought to write about emergencies?

cazscoob

susan i think that would be fine, i would possibly add something in about the use of drugs in labour, with Megan the MW and OH 'thought' i needed pain relief and gave me diamorphine. Every birth plan after i have stated no drugs unless i ask for them and have managed with gas and air alone.

How about having a back up but in a sealed envelope stapled to the birth plan, 'in case of emergency' type thing???

SugarSpun

SusanC wrote: »

Is there anything in particular that might make York a problem at that time of year? My brother used to live in York so depending on what it is, I might be able to ask him. (I think SM used to live in York too unless I just completely made that up.)

Not more than any other city, and I love the idea of seeing the Shambles all lit up and beautiful. But I was planning the middle-ish of December to get us back here in plenty of time for Christmas, and since my Very Best Friend's baby is due the end of November he'll either just be making or just have made his entrance to the world and I'm not sure I'd want to impose on her right then. Maybe January would be a better plan for us.

Edit: wht not include "please explain any changes to my plan to me, my husband or our doula"?

Sarah_Joanne

Sounds like a plan Sugar. I hear Leeds is good that time of year

I have some bad news I can't make the meet tomorrow. I have been asked to make a cake short notice and I'm just not in the position to turn down £100. Sorry guys. And really sorry Hammy as it means I won't be able to bring your cupcakes. Hope you all have a lovely day though

cazscoob

was just ssent this and it made me laugh so i thought i would share! obviously MOTM and Bruno are not included in this

THE MUM TEST

I was out walking with my 4-year-old daughter. She picked up something off of the ground and started to put it in her mouth.
I took the item away from her and I asked her not to do that.
'Why?' my daughter asked.
'Because it's been on the ground; you don't know where it's been, it's dirty,
And probably has germs,' I replied.
At this point, my daughter looked at me with total admiration and asked,
'Mum, how do you know all this stuff? You are so smart.'
I was thinking quickly and replied, 'All mums know this stuff. It's on the Mum Test. You have to know it, or they don't let you be a Mum.'
We walked along in silence for 2 or 3 minutes, but she was evidently pondering this new information.
'Oh.....I get it!' she beamed, 'So if you don't pass the test you have to be the dad.'
'Exactly,' I replied with a big smile on my face.

When you're finished laughing, send this to a Mum.

searching_me

thats ok sj ...

:hello: lovelys ... not stopping long as im sorting out for tomorrow and plan on having an early night .. just checking in to say those im meeting tomorrow .. nearly ready .. if anyone wants my number message me either on here or my fb as i'll be pottering in and out tonight xxxx

hammyhunter

Sarah_Joanne wrote: »

I have some bad news I can't make the meet tomorrow. I have been asked to make a cake short notice and I'm just not in the position to turn down £100. Sorry guys. And really sorry Hammy as it means I won't be able to bring your cupcakes. Hope you all have a lovely day though

:eek: I only told DH I had a treat for him tomorrow about an hour ago (honestly!)
:eek: I was really looking forward to meeting Alfie
:eek: I was really looking forward to meeting you too

I am now sad, sad, sad

BUT £100 buys a really nice pair of shoes so I understand

SusanC_2

cazscoob wrote: »

susan i think that would be fine, i would possibly add something in about the use of drugs in labour, with Megan the MW and OH 'thought' i needed pain relief and gave me diamorphine. Every birth plan after i have stated no drugs unless i ask for them and have managed with gas and air alone.

I've added in that I have no particular plans to have anything. Round here they seem to be quite slow at giving stuff even if people ask - my friend thinks it's a malicious conspirasy to withold them.

cazscoob wrote: »

How about having a back up but in a sealed envelope stapled to the birth plan, 'in case of emergency' type thing???

That's probably a good way of doing it but I'm still at a loss as to what to put.