MSE Parents Club Part 13

gill_81uk

searching_me wrote: »

gill i dont have another babysitter ... i have no family and no one else i know that i trust the kids with (shes not a great friend but she treats my kids very well) x

In that case SM I would definitely keep her as a mutual babysitter, just make sure she isnt using you a lot more than you use her! You don't owe her anything if you're having her kids the same amount that she's having yours iykwim. It will be nice for you and Philip to have some time to yourselves

Becles

redmel1621 wrote: »

My solution...I basically changed the whole family meal time from 6pm to 5pm so we all ate together and gave him the exact same food as us!

I just did that anyway as soon as they were big enough to manage on their own! Worked well for me as they all eat pretty much anything.

jillie1974 wrote: »

now my bad news....

someone tried to break-in last night and in doing so has totally knackered the patio doors so now they cant be opened at al. least the shoites who tried to get in didnt. but we are lookign probably at a complete new door and frame.

Awww - that's pants news *hugs* At least they didn't get in though. Hope you are not too shaken up.

3 - wasn't sure if you'd be cross at me for suggesting Scotland again, so I did hesitate before I posted!

SM - not sure what the best solution is there. Do you feel happy using her as a babysitter and vice versa?

Krystaltips

gill_81uk wrote: »

Krystal - maybe it's just me being super-over-sensitive (which I'm not usually) but maybe you could put a warning by your linky for those that are easily upset.

Sorry hun , will do...

gill_81uk

Krystaltips wrote: »

Sorry hun , will do...

Just properly realised that actually happened to your poor friends as well. How sad

searching_me

maybe yer gil but even philips feeling funny about it and he doesnt notice anything ...

i would sorta becs ... but it will feel that that is it .. if you know what i mean x

SugarSpun

SM, I would probably say something like, Sure, I'll babysit - it'll be nice because you've been talking about taking Phillip out for ages and now you get the chance!

And maybe I'd try to make some new local mummy friends who don't take advantage of you

3, post it here and we'll all help.

Mel, I don't know anything about colic, but I'm sorry you're having a hard time of it and I wish I could help. I have so much respect for you and Weezl having two littlies so close together and I think you're doing an excellent job even if it doesn't feel like it right now.

redmel1621

jillie1974 wrote: »

i did remember and eating as a family is because i remembered it worked for you. DH doesnt get in from work till after 6pm so at the moment unless DH is off thats when we eat. am wondering if i eat something small with Kian at 5ish would that help?

I think it would, that way it would be pretty consistant for him, he would get to see that sometimes it is just you and him and other times daddy is there too, but he knows he will always be eating with someone and hopefully he will copy you eating...plus stick to things you know he will eat and just add 'extras' on for him to try, that way youwill be sure he is eating something.

K hates cheese but every now and then I will stick some cheese chunks, or half a cheese butty on his plate, just to see if he has changed his mind with it yet, I don't worry if he doesn't eat it because I know I will have given him, for the rest of the meal, food he likes.:)


Big (hugs) about the attempted break in, lets hope Karma does it's job.....

Mel x

gill_81uk

Doh I came upstairs to tidy up and got nowhere!!! I blame you lot lol

Going to have a small glass of wine and watch 24 with DH. See you in the morning

searching_me

sugar i already asked her .. oh yer so when you going out with philip .. and she came up so 3 or 4 excuses then i said oh when we babysit the kids i wont be back from london til 8pm .. she went funny x

3onitsway

jillie1974 wrote: »

feel free to post it here 3!

we can add/change it if need be

have you had any response to the emails you sent?

No response to any emails. Nobody cares.

But if I post it on here, i'll have to blank out the names.

angelfairy wrote: »

just wanted to pop in with another suggestion for 3 - do you think there may be a Trading Standards issue? I'm thinking misrepresentation /false advertising?

x

Thank you.

I've found a bit on their website;

Our camps are open to all families who have children on the autism spectrum <snip a bit>
Our team of volunteers and staff are experienced with working (playing!) with children who are severely autistic as well as those who are more high functioning and also with the full range of neuro-typical children. You will be able to relax, safe in the knowledge that you are surrounded by people who are in similar situations to you or who understand your needs completely

So we did 'qualify' to go. The staff being experienced is questionable. :rotfl:

Krystaltips wrote: »

Glad your social worker was helpfull, my friend in a similar situation to you is having a nightmare with hers... ANd when she cried on the phone she was told to go and have a nice cup of tea... :mad: She does get respite 4 nights a month though which I think helps her sanity... But no playscheme through the summer...

I'm sure a cup of tea solved all of her problems! :mad:

4 nights a month respite does sound good though - I think here it's likely to be 4 nights a year, plus one of the two respite centres is closing down soon.

But I don't know what i'd do without the summer holidays playscheme. I can't remember how old her boy is? Does his school not do a summer scheme?

Searchie If you have absolutely no other babysitter, i'd keep her as a mutual babysitter but make sure you use her as much as she uses you. Even if you're not going out it'd be nice for you and Phillip to have a night in, with no children, a nice meal and you can make as much noise as you want.

Becles I keep meaning to say i'm bowing at your feet at your determination with the boot camp! It sounds brilliant and you're really sticking at it.