worst night of my life

stephy110288

I think she only says shopping because its the only thing she can think of to do with me. i just dont enjoy spending time on my own with her, and it does make me sad. the thing with hospital, its an operation to see if i have this thing which would mean i cant have kids. and to be fair, i'm not too worried, whatever happens happens. but oh if mum knew she would freeze up i cant even tell her im on my period without her going all awkward!!
platform shoes oh my goodness how did u knock urself out but not break your ankle?!!!!!

RuthnJasper

Hiya Stephy,

First off; I'm incredibly sorry about your friend's boyfriend - that's just an awful, awful thing to happen. I wouldn't wish that on anyone.

Secondly, I'm sorry to hear about your hospital appointment - I hope you're alright. They're very good these days - they only give you as much anaesthetic as you need and there isn't a struggle to fight it or anything. Also, they wouldn't put you out if it was dangerous - I had to have a lump removed from my breast a few months ago and, because of the plumpness and the medication that I take, I'm a bit of a high-risk patient anaesthetic-wise. Alas, the lump had to come out and so I opted to be carved up under only a local anaesthetic, with music playing, so I couldn't hear what they were up to... Don't think I'll EVER think of Bananarama in the same way again...! :rotfl::rotfl:You'll be absolutely fine and it's better for both you AND the hospital staff not to have your mum hanging around if she's going to get all p1ssy.

I have other things I want to post, but I'm back at work today (was on hol. all last week), and have to go to a meeting in ten minutes or thereabouts, so will look in again tonight.

I'm really glad that you are finding it helpful to share your concerns and frustrations here with us - that's what we're here for. It doesn't always have to be 100% financial stuff - that's usually only a part of a problem. I'm just happy to be able to help in some little way.

BTW, your mum sounds so EXACTLY like my mum - there's no chance she might be a secret bigamist is there, and that we're actually half-sisters?! It's really quite uncanny.... :rotfl:My mum has a thick Devonshire wurzel accent, if yours does too, maybe we can sell the story to the News of the World and split the cash...?:D

Laters... xx

miggy

Some great advice!

Butti - the platforms - pleeeeaasssse tell!

Butti

I don't actually know what happened, it was a Christmas Do (on Black Friday) and this :beer: was involved.

From what I can gather (based on previous ankle history) I went over on my left ankle, down on my knees and then hit my head on the pavement. Very lucky not to loose an eye or something.

Some complete stranger in downtown Middlesbrough called me an ambulance (obviously not literally :rotfl:) and didn't relieve me of my keys, money, credit cards or mobile phone. All I can remember after standing in Great Ayton (small village on North York Moors) at 7.30pm is waking up on a trolley in A&E at 11.30pm. They then wouldn't let me out for two days because I couldn't remember those 4 hours!!!

TOP TIP. Don't mix alcohol and public transport!...or Don't drink and wear platforms!

Honestly, the kindness of strangers - made me want to cry, I was SO lucky.

beanielou

Blimey Butti , you were very lucky.

RuthnJasper

Butti wrote: »

TOP TIP. Don't mix alcohol and public transport!...or Don't drink and wear platforms!

Honestly, the kindness of strangers - made me want to cry, I was SO lucky.

Oooooooooohhh, Butti, I FEEL that pain! Bad luck mate; hope you hven't had any after-effects. Easily done though, with or without the Chrimble spirit . Shame about the memory-loss too; wonder if it was a good party...?:T

RuthnJasper

Butti wrote: »

Maybe suggest shopping is not the best idea given you are trying to reduce your debts and suggest you meet up for coffee once a month. It is neutral ground, it is relatively cheap and it means if she starts going on about what a disappointment you are then you can tell her to stop or you will leave.

Evening Stephy,

Hope your day hasn't been too bad. My 'back to work' Monday wasn't as bad as I thought - but trying to get Jasper to stop picking at his injured eyelids... that's not going so well. :mad: I've threatened him with the dreaded 'lampshade collar', which did the trick - or so I thought, as I heard him having a good old pick (accompanied by sighs and grunts of satisfaction) when I went upstairs to the loo earlier. He thinks I didn't hear him, but I did. Naughty boy...

Anyway, I agree totally with Butti. It's important go keep some sort of relationship open with your parents - but not one that's going to be ultimately destructive to your wellbeing. Before I changed jobs, I used to work near a nice little cafe. My mum used to come into the city and we'd meet up for lunch once a month. It was quite good having it limited by time - as I only had an hour for lunch (which included choosing what we were going to have, etc.) it didn't really allow enough time for more than general chat. Butti's suggestion of meeting up for coffee is a good one - especially if you are a bit crafty with your timing. If you've got something definite to go to after an hour or 90 minutes or so, it's a reasonable excuse to draw things to a close and you won't be sat there, either thinking "How the hell do I get out of this?" or wondering when the 'explosion' is going to come. If needs be, you could even decide with your mum before-hand a list of known 'flashpoint' topics that are to be avoided (though that has to be played a bit tactfully). I know I found with my mum that, as we only had a finite amount of time for lunch, there was no point in bringing up the traditional 'meaty' issues as she didn't have the time to sink her fangs into me properly! :dance:

Maybe you could start by only meeting up for fifteen - twenty minutes at a time, see how that goes, and gradually expand the time if your mum 'behaves herself'. I'm sure, at the end of the day, she doesn't want to lose touch with you - and she might even discover what WE already know, which is that you're actually a smart woman with a nice way with words, who doesn't need constant lectures about "where she's going wrong".

I think part of the problem with MY parents, particularly since my mum retired, is that they don't have a great deal to do in the evenings, except sit and talk about where their nearest and dearest are going wrong. Sometimes that can build up into an unbalanced view of mostly negativity - without the other side of the picture where things AREN'T going wrong. It's scarily easy for things to quickly get out of perspective and seem a million times worse than they actually are...

One other idea might be (when a few extra pennies are around) to maybe go to the cinema with your mum? You'll have had a good time out together while hardly having to speak to each other at all, hehehe...

Keep going Stephy, it'll all be OK in the end you know. xxx

RuthnJasper

Here's a little Monday joke to cheer you, from Jasper:

Which is the most DANGEROUS Ocean in the world?
The Hepatitis C.

Hmmm... :cool:

Butti

RuthnJasper wrote: »

Oooooooooohhh, Butti, I FEEL that pain! Bad luck mate; hope you hven't had any after-effects. Easily done though, with or without the Chrimble spirit . Shame about the memory-loss too; wonder if it was a good party...?:T

I was more concerned about the Dr's intelligence. When he asked about the night I said 'well I haven't been messed with'. He's working in A&E and he didn't understand what I meant so I had to say 'my knickers are still on the same way I put them on this morning!'

Anyway enough hijacking of this thread. I agree with everything Ruth (and Jasper for that matter) have said. Might even suggest the occasional coffee to my dad!

B

vaporate

First of all your dad is way out of line, along with reality possibly too.

It is your responsibility. Personally I know what I would of said.