Churned up about child going to school....

MortgageMamma

Oh thanks everyone, I'm feeling a bit more positive about it now, I'll have a little mantra in my head tommorow saying smile and be happy. Then I'll cry when she's gone in. You are all correct its important I put a brave face on. Anyway she's just got home from stopping at grandma's last night and - EEK - suspected nits - I'm going to have to get some prioderm and sort this .
out before tommorow...

Anyway hubby said her going to school might help me make new friends which cheered me up, we relocated here to be near his family nearly two years ago and as I work from home I've not met a single friend yet, just the odd "hello" type of person.

Perhaps I'll do DD a birthday party as its her birthday on 19th and hopefully it will break the ice with the other mums...

squibbs25

'Perhaps I'll do DD a birthday party as its her birthday on 19th and hopefully it will break the ice with the other mums...'

Thats a fantastic idea!

Hope all goes well for you both on Monday, I'm sure it will.
Oh yea a tip....... take a box of tissues with you, you might need to hand them around in the playground LOL
Anyway when you get home, you've got all your friends on here to tallk to and compare notes with about who's cried the most.

All the best,

Squibbs

silvercar

Wrote a long reply and then the boards crashed!

Just echoing everyone else on here - you will be fine.

To add on the security issue. You will find the school is very aware of the risks and have a higher level of security than schools with no perceived threats. In particular the boundary will be better controlled. As a friend in the police force once told me, broken window at school X and the caretaker appears, broken window at the religious school up the road and three police cars are sent out and armed response is on standby.

MortgageMamma

silvercar wrote:

Wrote a long reply and then the boards crashed!

Just echoing everyone else on here - you will be fine.

To add on the security issue. You will find the school is very aware of the risks and have a higher level of security than schools with no perceived threats. In particular the boundary will be better controlled. As a friend in the police force once told me, broken window at school X and the caretaker appears, broken window at the religious school up the road and three police cars are sent out and armed response is on standby.

Hi Silvercar

Thanks for that. I almost never sent my daughter to a religious school because of this you know - but I felt strongly about it as thats the education I have had, and although I've not turned out perfect I have a conscience and try to be a good person - and I hope my kids will turn out like me (but much more intelligent) - but then I saw that report on the news about that religious school being raided in sussex, and it just reinforced my fears even further that when the terrorists have finished blowing up our planes trains and buses the next soft target will be our schools.

I actually woke up in bed the other night and told me husband we should buy a home in Greece in case we "ever needed to go" I guess I'm just one of those unfortunate people who are over senstitive to world events!

markmc999

You know actually that tissues thing for the other parents is a great idea - fab way of breaking the ice. Try mints as well - always works well. Amazing how fast you suck on them at times though !!

Janepig

Glad to see we all feel the same! I've got a double whammy this week - DS starting day nursery tomorrow and DD starting school on Thursday. Strangely I'm fine about DD, but absolutely dreading DS going to day nursery even though it's the one DD has just finished in and it's fab. However, I was very excited when DD started at the day nursery but bawled my eyes out when the time came to drop her off so that may yet happen Thursday.

MM, has your DD got friends from her nursery going to the same school? My DD is lucky as she's got three friends going with her and also before the summer holidays she was going to a welsh playgroup from which alot of children are going to her school so I think she'll be okay. Also, mil is the cook so I know she'll eat well!!! The only thing I'm concerned about is that there are 60 kids in the nursery class - it's split between two teachers but in one room! :eek:

Btw, I didn't think that religious schools were more at risk than any other. Terrorists at the moment seem to be attacking anyone, even people of their own religion so I wouldn't worry too much about that or you'll go insane.

Jxx

Rachie_B

MortgageMamma wrote:

Oh thanks everyone, I'm feeling a bit more positive about it now, I'll have a little mantra in my head tommorow saying smile and be happy. Then I'll cry when she's gone in. You are all correct its important I put a brave face on. Anyway she's just got home from stopping at grandma's last night and - EEK - suspected nits - I'm going to have to get some prioderm and sort this .
out before tommorow...

Anyway hubby said her going to school might help me make new friends which cheered me up, we relocated here to be near his family nearly two years ago and as I work from home I've not met a single friend yet, just the odd "hello" type of person.

Perhaps I'll do DD a birthday party as its her birthday on 19th and hopefully it will break the ice with the other mums...

i was like you we had to move due to hubbys job and i didnt know anyone

i have since met loads of mums in the same situation on https://www.netmums.com ,just register on the local one and go onto the "meet a mum" board

Sarahsaver

I was terrified that my daughter would wander off and get lost, but I was much more laid back with my sons. I had been separated from her at one time, let's just say 'against our will' so this was probably in the back of my mind. With the boys, they had both already been to private schoolpart time (strange quirk of tax credits system - the local nursery just happens to be the montessori school) so I had seen both sons in shirt and tie at the age of 2 and a half!!!
I felt more sad at dropping them off on Wednesday, the sudden realisation that my 'baby' who is now 5 is no longer a littlun, (he's in year one now)as I walked past his old class I nearly cried! THey are all 'too cool' for kisses and cuddles now, just a shrug of the shoulders and I'm lucky if I get a 'bye mum'.
It's all normal, and having been a teacher of teenagers long before I had my own children, I am ready for the first boyfriend/hangover/body piercing/fear of them driving...and I know it will be just as emotional;)

MortgageMamma

Hi Thanks Jane and Rachie

My DD only has one from her nursery class going to new school and they hate eachother for some reason My heart keeps beating really quickly when I think about tommorow so I'm indulging in a bottle of red to know me out and some chocolate fudge cake to make me fatter. I doubt I will even shut my eyes tonight.

As for the netmums, that could be good, I really do struggle to make friends because of the hours I work and because hubby who is thirty drinks with 50 odd year old men in the local boozer who never take their wives out. I've added it to my favourites so a big THANK YOU. Perhaps if I had more than two friends (who both happen to be male and live over 200 miles away) I'd stay away from this site and work less!

nearlyrich

Well I cried when I left my son at uni all the way from Manchester to East Lancs:o ( it's only 20 miles tops)

Seriously she will be fine, you might need a friend with chocolate;) and wine:D

All the best PM me if you need extra tissues;)