If its not one thing its your Mother...

Minniemavis

Totally not wrong to dislike your mother. In my circumstances I think hate is a better word if u read from my other post

fantasia322

Only read the title, havent digested the thread.
I dislike mine intensely but I love her because she is my mother, I dont have much of a relationship (have no desire to). but I change what I can and accept what I can't. Sad fact of life but I am my own person now and have stopped relying on her approval.

tabskitten

Just because someone is family doesn't make them a good person. Nor does it mean that you have to love or even like them. I always think that if you would not like that person if you were not related then you are being false to pretend that you like them just because you are related.

Blood (imo) is thinner than P1$$

Just_Plain_Jane

My mother was the most difficult, spiteful, unreasonable, childish, selfish person I have ever met. I won't bother raking over some of the stunts she pulled or the pain she caused me, it does me no good to dwell on it.

She died suddenly in 2007 and after initial period of grief I started to feel something quite different - relief. I was shocked by this at first but now just feel grateful that my life is my own to do what I want with and I no longer have to listen to her critisism.

Do what is right for you OP. Don't feel guilty about taking a step back if you want to.

readytoscream

I've decided to update this again, probably for my own sanity as once again she isn't speaking to me!

She has had a cough/cold for a few weeks but this is nothing unusual as we have all had it and have struggled to shift it. Of course Mum see's this as an opportunity and has been back and forward to the Doc for a few weeks. He prescribed antibiotics at first, but I think he got wise to the attention seeking as he told her if it didn't go he would have a camera put down her throat and that 'wasn't a pleasant experience'.

Sunday evening I had an "Im so ill" phone call. She told me she had been so ill all weekend. She had forgotten however she had seen me the day before and was 100% fine. She then says I'm to take her to the Docs because she's having this camera as her throat is sore. I calmly explain that procedures like this for what the Doc has diagnosed as a throat infection are not needed. At that point she is yelling at me down the phone (no sign of sore throat!!) and I decided enough was enough, I wasn't going to be yelled at and I put down the phone.

Now, I know shes fine as DD has been at lunchtimes, but she refuses to call me. She called last night, I answered and she stroppily asked for my OH and wouldnt speak to me! LMAO

So, I have decided for the sake of my sanity I am taking a step back. I know she is ok, the kids have been in and out (fortunately they are both teens so very capable, they also know exactly what she is like!) so I'm letting her get on with it now.