Oh no!!!!!!

pukkamum

mrcow wrote: »

This seems to have turned from a "I'm concerned about my sofas" thread into a blatant fat-bashing thread. Are you as ungracious to their faces as you are behind their backs?

Just change the sofas over if you're worried.

I'm not ungracious to their faces as they normally don't bother having anything to do with us or their only neices and nephews.

An i am concerned about the sofas because of their weight.
They are the way they are because they eat too much and they are lazy no two ways about it.

mrcow

pukkamum wrote: »

I'm not ungracious to their faces as they normally don't bother having anything to do with us or their only neices and nephews.

An i am concerned about the sofas because of their weight.
They are the way they are because they eat too much and they are lazy no two ways about it.

Then why have them around at all? You obviously hold them in complete contempt.

Why not just be honest rather than be so discourteous behind someone's back?

alleycat`

Genuine question.

How do you sugar coat:-

You are morbidly obese, you smell awful, you are so heavy you break furniture and we do not want you in the house.

(and I'm not trying to be funny)

Mutter_2

pukkamum wrote: »

oh mutter honestly they are minging, i know that sounds like an awful thing to say but they smell and look dreadful.:(
MIL told me years ago the eldest was too frightened to get in the bath in case it went through the floor so i can't imagine she has bathed since:(

And another thing i hate seeing them eat it makes me feel ill truly.
They shovel the food down and as they struggle with breathing due to their size they grunt as they eat:eek:

It's DH i feel most sorry for as he hates seeing his family in that way and feels dreadful for being ashamed of them but he is.

Eugh, in that case you answered my question then. Frankly I would have been busy on the day they wanted to visit. I know exactly what you mean about the eating as I was married to one who shovelled his food down in 5 mins flat accompanied by grunts, then spent the next 20 mins staring at my food whilst I finished. It ended up that I stopped going out with him at all.

I can only suggest that you dont offer food, just a drink and hope they are soon on their way. Hope England aren't playing when they come so they stay to watch.:eek:

pukkamum

mrcow wrote: »

Then why have them around at all? You obviously hold them in complete contempt.

Why not just be honest rather than be so discourteous behind someone's back?

I have them round because they are my childrens aunties and uncle and my DH's siblings.
If it were my choice i would have nothing to do with them.
Are you suggesting that i tell them i think they are obese and smelly (i'm sure they know this) maybe i should do this in front of the children.

geminilady

I would explain to the council and ask them if they could come for the old suite another day and use that.The plywood idea may not work

shandyclover

Perhaps call them before they come saying theres been a mix up - you have the wrong sofa delivered (cover the sofa and move it to another room), so therefore there would be nowhere for them to sit. Suggest you could all sit outside. If they are that large they most probably won't want to hang around inside without sitting for long, and if they didn't really come to see you but are just using you as a convenience stop they won't want to sit outside.

pukkamum

Hmmm am thinking of keeping the big cushions off the old sofas and saying the legs are dodgy on the new sofas so are waithing to go back but been told not to sit on them, it will mean sitting on the floor myself (being pregnant no mean feat) but am willing to put up with it!!!!!

Britwife

I feel that you should be honest about what happened to your old sofa and ask them not to pounce down on the sofas. You don't have to tell them that you feel they are fat and smelly, just tell them about what happened with the old sofa.

I'm 14 stone down from 19 stone and working hard at it but I would want to know if I had damaged something and I would for sure make a note of not doing it again. It may be akward but they will get over it and you can relax. Make sure they all don't sit on the same sofa.

There is no need for rudeness

Obesity is a disease that really needs medical assistance to help get them on track. However, they have to be willing to do it and it sounds like they may never do it. It really is sad because all they have to do is make a call to their gp and they could get a discount gym pass, weight watchers, or perhaps another scheme in their area. I don't do any of those but I do visit with my health nurse to weigh in and see how I'm doing. I feel amazing and I work out 6 days a week. I'd love to get a hold of them but maybe you could share the information. Tell them that you want them to be around to see your children grow up.

Mutter_2

pukkamum wrote: »

Hmmm am thinking of keeping the big cushions off the old sofas and saying the legs are dodgy on the new sofas so are waithing to go back but been told not to sit on them, it will mean sitting on the floor myself (being pregnant no mean feat) but am willing to put up with it!!!!!

I really feel for you, lovely new furniture that cost a lot of money, may soon be damaged. I see, put old cushions on floor? Only you and OH know whether you'd get away with it.

This is a serious question. Are they able to sit on the floor, or more importantly get up from the floor? In my Yoga class I can bend and stretch like no other. However, when it comes to getting up from the floor, I have to first kneel then straighten my legs, then my torso. Bit like an ungainly Giraffe, much to the amusement of the rest of the class.