Please help me im now desperate - and now sacked from my job

maria932

Thanks Whitts, its just having the courage and evrything else to tell him to f off and get out of my life, but im scared of being on my own, and the position im in at the moment.

Whits

maria932 wrote:

Thanks Whitts, its just having the courage and evrything else to tell him to f off and get out of my life, but im scared of being on my own, and the position im in at the moment.

Courage is a very hard thing to find, and I don't expect it to be easy for you.

I found it very difficult when I left my wife but it's the best thing I ever did. I'm not saying it won't work out with him, he might even decide tomorrow that he's being a fool, you never know what's round the corner;)

I really do wish you all the best, just remember to start small

maria932

thanks, i will

Smashing

Your husband appears to be a large drain on resources. I would look for a better deal elsewhere.

achtunglady

Maria, you are doing your best working two jobs, your hubby is the embarrassment, full and able bodied and depending on you to go out and sort out your debts, incurred jointly. You are being more of a man than he is. Does he actually contribute anything when he is in the army? Tell him at this rate he won't have a house to sit in all day when the rent starts to mount up and arrears start on it. So what if you were in care when you were younger, you are getting on with life instead of using it as an excuse for not getting on, whats his excuse?? GRRRRRRRR it makes my blood boil.
He's not attempting to provide for his family, to me that makes him no better than an abuser, he's putting you through mental abuse by not helping out financially. He's using bully boy tactics to frighten you by saying your daughter will be taken away. Maria, i wished you lived in London, i'd be round there helping you.
Talk to the school, sometimes they have a hardship fund that's not really mentioned.
Hubby in the army for queen and country yet his own family are struggling, bleeding disgrace, with men like him in the army its no wonder why recruitment rates are down if hes an example to go by. Big hug to you and you are not alone.

inkie

Hi Maria

Been following this thread - you seem to have a lot on your plate at the moment and are doing a sterling job trying to keep everything together. It's a shame that your hubby can't be as bothered as what you are.

You do not deserve to be spoken to like you say he has been speaking to you. You have been through an awful lot already, and don't need this hassle - the finance can be worked through - changing your hubby's attitude may prove to be more difficult. If you are thinking that it may be the end of the road for you as a couple, then don't let your fianacial situation stand in the way of any decision you will make. Personally, I couldn't put up with inlaws saying the kind of things that they are doing, neither should you - you are not a doormat - you deserve respect and support - and I am pleased that you are finding some of that on here.

With regard to the school uniform - I may be able to help there - I will send you a private e-mail.

Thnking of you and hang in there. Hold your head up high

Inkie

maria932

Thanks for the support, i accept being treated like a doormat as that is all i have evr been treated like. I know I should know better being a 27 year old, but i have had enough and have accepted the way people treat me like a doormat.

Im gratefull for all your support, thank you, Cant one of you sort my hubby out, put him into reality or something lol

inkie

i accept being treated like a doormat as that is all i have evr been treated like. I know I should know better being a 27 year old, but i have had enough and have accepted the way people treat me like a doormat.

That does not mean to say that it is right. You are a person of value, of worth, who has feelings and deserves to be held inhigher esteem than what you are being. How does he treat your daughter? You are only 27, you have a lot more time infront of you than behind you - do you really want to cope with this for a good few years yet?

maria932

I know he loves my daughter, my when he he is playing war games he does not give a damn. As im working im unable to spend as much time with my daughter as i want to, but him and his family have not done any educational things like i have asked them too. She does not recognise numbers 0-5 at nursery they informed me she was behind and she would need to know this before she starts school in September. She still dont know them and she goes back soon. I have already spend about an hour with her this morning going through with her. will spend alot more time with her today and tomorrow so she knows them.
I regret ever moving here to Wales and our relationship has gone to pots since he left the Army.

tesuhoha

maria932 wrote:

Thanks Whitts, its just having the courage and evrything else to tell him to f off and get out of my life, but im scared of being on my own, and the position im in at the moment.

Sounds to me as if you are on your own already.