Knit Your Square to Give Your Share - PART 4

dpixie

hi kathy - please could you send a little sunshine this way - its still cold and gloomy and i want to see the sun again, not sure if i remember what it look or feels like.

also, with regards homes, please, please, please do your research. check out homes yourselves (your family) and ask questions and speak to others with relatives in the homes. our recent experience with our aunt has been horrid - the fact that she was going about in a pair of tracksuit bottoms that were too small, no hat and a summer jacket (i have just recently tested it out and its not at all for a scottish winter) when she had suitcases full of clothes in a store room just breaks my heart - and to think that we kept on buying more stuff that just "got lost somewhere". if i could list all the problems, i would probably take up pages and pages and it would break my heart to remember all of them, so please - take care when picking a home for your mum as it is going to be her home.

sorry to be so downish, but your mum is precious and if a little advice keeps her safe and sound, its worth it.

hugs, i am sure that all will be well.


dpixie

mrs-moneypenny

massive hugs to you dpixie, it is very kind and brave of you to share such advice with Kathy so that she knows what to look out for

hugs to you and your mum Kathy

chalky_75

Good morning one and all and lots of special love tucked in!

Dpixie I am so sorry to hear about such horrid things happening to your aunt. Your family must feel really sad and angry that things like that were allowed to go on and your advice is really brilliant. If anyone can be saved from a bad experience your advice will have certainly helped

On the positive side I have 2 friends whose Mum's had to go into specialist residential care for Alzheimers and once they were settled both were so much happier,less stressed,frightened,difficult,and began to enjoy a life where they trusted the staff and found a little bit of tranquility again.

One thing they did was to visit at all tiems of the day to be reassured that the care was consistent.

Both my friends joined the groups available for friends and families at the home and were able to make a positive contribution to the home. They organised special treats like hand and feet massages . The patients loved them and they were able to help some of the people who did not have so many visitors.
They were advised to wear bright colours when visiting and have cuddles and even dance with their Mum's if the music was on.

I do know clothes can be such an issue-- some things I guess are difficult to arrange.

When my friends Mum's passed away their were 3 or 4 carers from both homes at the funeral.

Dear Kathy -- Lots of special love and gentle thoughts to all your family at this very difficult time.

I think the Kiss the Geezer Lappy should go to your dear Mum when I get back so that she will have something from all your friends here! x

I am tidying the garage/craft room here!

mrs-moneypenny

chalky_75 wrote: »

I think the Kiss the Geezer Lappy should go to your dear Mum when I get back so that she will have something from all your friends here! x

I second that suggestion:T

Chalky if you run out of tidying you can come to mine, ive got lots;)

f1widow

Hello all - what lovely weather we are having always puts a spring in your step I know its making me feel a little better

Dear kathy - how sorry I am to read of your mums illness - it must be heartbreaking for you and unfortunately dont want to add to your worries but dpixie is right and echo her statement as I have heard such bad reports from a friend who for the past few years has been battling with authorities over an elderly aunt and uncle who both have alzeihmers - anyway its good to hear your second sister is now sharing the load - I hope you have recovered from your fall - you poor thing - take good care and look after yourself xx

chalky - here here readily agree with your suggestion for the blanket - you are lovely - hope the tidying is going well xx

mrs m - oh huge hugs about DD's departure - Im sure she will be back for dinner etc before you know it xx ps would happily come and help with your tidying! xxx


Ive been ironing for hours today - what a day to iron I hear you say - does this mean I can have some knitting time tonight!? - I have packed up my balls of wool there are 4 x black sacks (not entirely full ones) and a big fancy storage bag full - have I got a problem????

Im missing DS at night as the house is very quiet and empty without him - and I feel very redundant as there are not the usual shouts of "please mum will you ......." sometimes you long for some time alone and then when it comes hmmmm you wish they were here

pippa - lovely to see you back - glad you had a lovely holiday - you deserved it xx

Thanks to you all for the kind words re: pots - its put me back on track and I dont feel so guilty now xx - Im sure even though the decision of moving was forced upon us it actually is a very good decision - I cant wait to have a sunny garden again WITH GRASS!

Anyway Im off to get back to the ironing being put away thought I would just stop by to catch up - hugs to all xxx

OrkneyStar

Just posting to say I have finished my first blankie- just under 16 inch square (pics on ravelry if anyone interested).
I have re-joined the Loving Hands forum (with some, ahem, hiccups, Lou was very understanding ). Think I might try another blankie, or maybe the body warmer someone mentioned. Feels so good to be knitting for charity again , think will do one for charity then one for personal (gift/me) and so on, so tonight will sit back and finish more of a scarf for me! x OS

ginnyknit

Orkney Star thats a beautiful blanket you have made.

Mrs Twins, that Olympic blanket should be featured in a magazine, it is stunning.

Just called in before I settle down to do a Jubilee cushion cover for a friend.

Hugs to all in need.

mioliere

Hi everyone

Thank you all so much for your kind thoughts about my mum. Fortunately, mum has my sister, Jane, looking out for her, and she is looking round at all the care homes in the area. She will keep a very close eye on mum wherever she is, and we also have other family members in the same town, so she will not be short of regular visits (and inspections).

DPixie - I have heard all the horror stories (and seen some distressing programmes, too) about what some of these homes are like, and it's something that I do worry about, but I know my sister will do all she can to make sure that mum is looked after properly. I'm so sorry to hear about your poor aunt. I can well understand your concerns, and thanks for taking the time to write about your aunt's experience. It will be mum's last home and, of course, we want her to be safe and as well as can be. It's awful that we have come to this point, but mum is starting to need all-round supervision, so we know she can't take care of herself for much longer. It's a horrid disease and no-one deserves it, especially someone elderly who has 'done her bit'; it's just not fair.

F1 - hope you are soon enjoying a sunny garden with grass!

Chalky - that's a lovely thought!

Thank you all; you are all kind lovely people, and your good wishes help such a lot.

KathyXX

OrkneyStar

mioliere wrote: »

Hi everyone

Thank you all so much for your kind thoughts about my mum. Fortunately, mum has my sister, Jane, looking out for her, and she is looking round at all the care homes in the area. She will keep a very close eye on mum wherever she is, and we also have other family members in the same town, so she will not be short of regular visits (and inspections).

DPixie - I have heard all the horror stories (and seen some distressing programmes, too) about what some of these homes are like, and it's something that I do worry about, but I know my sister will do all she can to make sure that mum is looked after properly. I'm so sorry to hear about your poor aunt. I can well understand your concerns, and thanks for taking the time to write about your aunt's experience. It will be mum's last home and, of course, we want her to be safe and as well as can be. It's awful that we have come to this point, but mum is starting to need all-round supervision, so we know she can't take care of herself for much longer. It's a horrid disease and no-one deserves it, especially someone elderly who has 'done her bit'; it's just not fair.

F1 - hope you are soon enjoying a sunny garden with grass!

Chalky - that's a lovely thought!

Thank you all; you are all kind lovely people, and your good wishes help such a lot.

KathyXX

Will add your mum to my prayer list, if that is ok

mrs-moneypenny

lovely blanket OS i actually got my finger out and joined ravelry just to see it, ive been putting that off for ages.

back from kids jujitsu, got another body warmer up to the armhole shaping. DS jst rang the AGM has finsihed and he and grandma are noe at the meal venue and he can also get a lift home, was thinking we were going to have to go and fetch them.
am having a quick blitz in youngests bedroom at the mo and have actually discovered carpet!!!!