Knit Your Square to Give Your Share - PART 4

Pippa.S

Just a quick post from me this morning.
I am off to Mums in a bit.

just read your posts shaz and I agree with kathy if it helps to put it down on here you do it, and remember there are a lot of shoulders here for you (((hugs))) I hope you enjoyed your evening x

chalky - love the latest lappys well done with all the finishing off :T
Kinsey - the angel is lovely just right for christmas, any chance of the pattern please
MrsTwins - thanks glad you liked them, there is something about blue and white I always think
Welcome to you Glicky we love it new friends join us

Did a couple of buntings last night I have'nt done much for our Shelley lately must do better:o

Off to Mums now back later
Anne
x

In_Search_Of_Me

http://www.additudemag.com/adhdforums/thread/3522.html
http://www.adhd-yorkshire.com/
there is local support above. If you want me to do some hunting for you let me know and Ill happily look stuff up - just pm me what you need. First port of call would be psychiatrist, emphasising that he is a risk to himself and others...
This kind of support may help you feel youre not alone. Seakay not sure about the widsom of threatening to get a gun :eek:
Bet you enyoy teh hols salome!
Right must on as lots to do today. Did half row of shawl but was too tired and you do need to concentrate!!

Kinsey

Pippa is this the one you meant
http://www.ravelry.com/patterns/library/sallys-angels

It's very fiddly to put together!

Shaz nothing useful to add to everyone's suggestions except lots of ((((((hugs))))))

mrs-moneypenny

sent a parcel off to lou at the wekend so have an update

10 sewn chicken tops
1 sands blanket
1 RWB item

thinking of you all but not able to get i much at mo, shaz i hope something can be done to help your situation. things not good here but at least we have Dil back at home

chalky_75

My goodness everyone really does have their hands overflowing with worries at the moment so especially gentle thoughts to one and all

Shaz What a horrible time you are having. I am so sorry you are feeling that there is no-one to turn to. Please use us even though I know we all feel pretty useless. I hope someone can find a definite way through this maze of confusion and unhappiness. No-one deserves this not you, nor your boys.
Can no-one at the school help at all as they must have first hand knowledge of who to call if they have problems whilst the boys are in their care. If you feel really frightened when there is no-one to talk to phone the police. They have domestic violence teams with special training these days.

Still arippling and its pouring absolutely pouring down here -- So the holidays are going to start with the usual wet stuff that defines out July and August

sock-knitter

thanks everyone for your replies, chalky, i have rang the police several times in past, both sons now have a criminal record, and they havent learnt from that, police tell us to ring social services for support, they in turn say ring police if sons get violent, its like been passed from one to the other and back again.
staff at danny's school have been great,, they've even let joshua stay there with them on a tues night, to give me a break. tonight is the last tues night before tehy break up, so i'm gonna do a bit of knitting, then later open some vino and chill in front of tv
hugs shaz xxx

PurpleTeddyBear

Shaz,
I can't believe that social services and police are passing you from pillar to post --- I know where I am that if we had a Mum call and say she had hit her child we would look into it at the very least, and refer to appropriate services for help for both parties. I am guessing that this would be CAMHS in Josh's case (which I know he is involved with). I would definitely push for further intervention from the psych team - there are places that would/should offer some respite care for Josh (if you go through CAMHS) or, again in Bradford's case, referred through the CCHDT (Complex Children's Health & Disability Team (they do refer children/young adults with ADHD and who are on the autistic spectrum...).

Have school implemented a CAF?

Am sorry to say, but you really have to fight your corner and find some strength from somewhere (although not too sure what else to suggest) and really push for the help that you ALL need. Josh for his needs, Daniel for his and you for your needs as Mum and also as you as you are so much more than "just a Mum". You can't protect the boys from each other and the wide world for ever, and they will need help themselves to cope with things. you should also get support as primary carer.

wakey contacts:
http://www.wakefield.gov.uk/HealthAndSocialCare/ChildrenAndYoungPeople/ChildrenWithDisabilities/default.htm
although any referral to them needs to be made through their Social care direct point (0845 8503 503) which is the equivalent to what I do over in Bradford... They are open 24 hours a day.

It may be that you need an Initial Assessment and help and intervention from a family team or an intensive support team.


Am sure you already know all of this - but sometimes it helps to get it written down?
Keep smiling hunny, and you know where I am xx

sock-knitter

thanks isom, and purpleteddybear for the links
under n.i.c.e. guidelines ADHD is a disability, but wakefield social services say adhd kids dont meet their disability criteria. apparently they have limited funding, and so can pick and choose which disabled kids to help.
rang west yorkshire adhd support, (never knew they existed, even tho i try and google things) they are going to ring up wakefield social services once they have contacted the kids pyschiatrist, and my pyschiatric nurse, and once they know how the kids problems are affecting us as a family, then they can tell wakey social services what they should be doing to help us, and help me fight for some much needed respite.
seakay, wonder if i threaten the social worker with the gun, whether they'd help lol
mrs moneypenny, sorry to hear things are still not good with you
hugs shaz xxx

chalky_75

Purple Teddy Bear -- What wonderful sources and advice. I have been thinking about Shaz all day and am so glad we are all here to help as much as we can.

PurpleTeddyBear

Thanks Chalky -
Comes with the territory I guess as I work in Children's Services as a Children's Advisor...taking referrals from all manner of sources and trying to help where I can. I'm not a social worker, but take all initial details, refer people on and pass them on to the right place if we're not the right people to help if you see what I mean!

Can be rewarding, but some cases are truly awful --- I had one poor lady sobbing her heart out on the phone this morning; I seem to have a knack of calming people down and reassuring. All I can do is try and help solutions to be found somewhere down the line.

Anyway, meanwhile back at the ranch ----
am trying to complete my box for Lou, and at the moment I have one more hottie cover to do then I have reached my own mini target of 10. There are a number of hedgies to send, and some boobs.....so once it's all parcelled off then I can update my totals.

Also need to send hedgies down your way chalky too....

D xx