Wake-up Call Challenge

elantan

would possibly writting down a to do list once a day help? then say when you have accomplished things you take 15 minutes to yourself (or maybe even half the things?) knowing that you have done what you said you would do so can allow for the relaxation to happen

most people's wheels are all connected and working on one small thing will have a knock on effect on the others honest

elantan

ohhh crafty thank you that will help alot i think ...

rictus123

Hey guys, im back to this board! Have had a busy week and decided its time to sort some things out, this challenge seems perfect for it.

my to do list is as followed

1) Pay off credit card ( not much but cant pay it yet)
2) Pay off loan
3) Keep my current account(got 2, 1 is a 5% paying) above £1k while i keep investing my £50 a month
4) Eat a bit healthier, bigger meals and less snacking in between
5) Keep busy when im with my gf, not sitting about wasting our weekends together - sometimes its all i want to do but not all the time!
6) Career wise, keep sticking at my job, time served next summer, then think about going self employed/moving to another firm to get more experience
7) Overall just look on the bright side of everything, enjoy it while it lasts
8) Stop spending little bits here and there as it all adds up! Also dont drive anywhere but work and to the gfs. Saving as much as i can on petrol.
9) Saving up(asap) to pay a years car insurance at once, cancel mine and go with the cheaper quote iv been given elsewhere, save me paying £181 a month itl be £1160 lump sum.
10) Stick at this challenge! Do something every day to help it!

Pollydaydream

thrifty_fifty wrote: »

Ooh, just getting the hang of this, sorry guys.

Ok so homework number 5

Worrying about anything and everything-root cause is the fear of not being prepared for something. Worst case scenario is that something horrible will take me by surprise. I'd have to think on the spot and make the most of a bad situation. I can deal with that-doesn't seem so bad now, thanks

xx

thrifty, I just re-read your post and this really struck a chord with me. I worry about everything too (at the same time as telling my mother not to worry so much about every little thing!). The wierd thing is that over the last few years at least three majorly horrible things have happened; I was totally unprepared, and of course now I'm thinking about how I would prepare for them if they happened again. The thing is, they're not likely to happen again, at least not in the same way, so I can't really prepare for them. To be honest, I think there are some things you can't prepare for. I coped (sort of) at the time, other people helped and I'm sure they'd help again (I'd actually forgotten how much help I had and I think I was in too much shock to really appreciate it at the time - think I'll find a way to say thank you this week). There are some things I can put in order which would be a few less things to deal with, but overall, if something majorly bad happened again, like you say, we'd cope at the time.

So, action number 1 is to make a conscious effort to stop worrying so much. This probably sounds a bit stupid, but half of me is scared that if I relax and stop worrying, something bad will happen; a bit like fate's got it in for me (aah, she's relaxed, she's happy, let's see what we can throw at her now). OMG, another can of worms to deal with!

Elantan, I'm a 'to do' list freak - I actually think that right now it's one of the things that's making me wound up. I'm trying the "dealing with whatever's on my mind at the moment" approach until my 'to do' lists are a lot shorter .

Rictus - I like your idea of eating bigger meals. I've been looking at low GL diets, which suggest eating more protein as it keeps you fuller for longer and you're less likely to snack. I think I'm a victim of the whole 80s low fat diet thing (before your time ) during which I was actually hungry most of the time, but I can't seem to get it out of my head. Looking back to when I was growing up (seriously before your time ), we only really eat at mealtimes and I don't remember many snacks.

So action (at last) - this week, I will actually do something about whatever's on my mind at the time it's on my mind. If I can't do anything about it now, I'll put it back to the bottom of the mental pile to deal with when it reaches the top again. I will also do something proactive every day, even if it's just a small thing - you never know the knock on effect (thank you Elantan ).

Polly

elantan

Polly I totally get where your coming from with to do lists ... They can be handy but they can be restrictive if we let them .... I tend to only use them if there are things I MUST do and try and go with the flow the rest of the time kinda suits me but I could be doing with a bit more action

kika

Totally agree over lists, what an interesting thread but don't feel ready to join you but thinking of you all.

birdlady

"half of me is scared that if I relax and stop worrying, something bad will happen; a bit like fate's got it in for me (aah, she's relaxed, she's happy, let's see what we can throw at her now)"

Polly, all my life I have expected the crash when things are going too well....the wheel of life in the tarot sense. You have an uncanny knack of putting down on paper exactly how I feel. These days when I think 'this too shall pass' I know it refers to good times as well as bad.

Cath x

thrifty_fifty

birdlady wrote: »

"half of me is scared that if I relax and stop worrying, something bad will happen; a bit like fate's got it in for me (aah, she's relaxed, she's happy, let's see what we can throw at her now)"

Polly, all my life I have expected the crash when things are going too well....the wheel of life in the tarot sense. You have an uncanny knack of putting down on paper exactly how I feel. These days when I think 'this too shall pass' I know it refers to good times as well as bad.

Cath x

I thought I was the only person who worried like this. Current worries are, I must find a new job before they announce cuts in this one (this stems from my trainer guy saying that my manager was having to think about learning others to adapt to change training because there would be some changes coming up in our area,)

This might be a simple case of some taking on different duties and it not going down too well, but for me it means people losing their jobs, and If I don't stay one step ahead, that means debts not being paid when I'm a year away from being debt free, which means that bad things will happen.I'm taking all the in house training i can get and applying for new jobs at more safe places.

I also worry that with government cutbacks, the studying I'm currently doing will be worthless because there will be no projects left to work on by the time I qualify.

I worry that I will never be able to afford a house again.

I worry that everytime I enter a certain restaurant with my boyfriend and his family, my ex and his family will walk in, call me everything and then my new boyfriends parents will think I'm awful.

These are just some of the things that I worry about everyday.

elantan

wow that is an awful lot of worrying you do there ... it really must take alot of energy out of you ...

i used to worry about a lot of things years ago what would i do if this happened ? what would i do if that happened? and sometimes they would even happen... some of the things even happened ... and i found i didnt react in the way that i thought i wouldve ... i even surprised myself in some ways .. this lead me to thinking what happens to me whilst yes it can be important

( like in the last year alone for instance ... son being attacked by a gang of knife weilding thugs having his house destroyed ... having to remove him to safety at 4 am and deal with the after shocks of that ... mother in law nearly dying due to c.diff and m.r.s.a infections after a major op ... suffering from the agony of a frozen shoulder ... deciding to leave uni whilst in second year gaining £10,000 of debt and no qualification cause i hated it .... still suffering from the agony of a frozen shoulder ...the burglary and all the stress with the insurance etc having to attend the hospital again (but thankfully this time it isnt pre cancer ) for what might be a life changing op) (phew that was alot lol)

it isnt the be all and end all ... it is how i deal with the things that matter ... ... i think if i was still the same person i would be on anti depressants by now and possibly a blubbering wreck ... but you know what i am not ...

i am finding i am managing things really well ..yes last week i did go back to thoughts of the pre cancer again ( it'a natural after all) but i said to myself ... el deal with it when you have more info ... dont borrow worries you have plenty

elantan

i'm not saying that this approach works for everyone ... i am just saying it works for me (well so far anyway lol)