Wake-up Call Challenge

Triggles

thrifty fifty - I know just what you mean! We have had some real nutters asking the strangest questions when we've been selling things on ebay. I've had people send me email after email demanding to know the postage fees for shipping a particular item to a foreign country, when the listing specifically says "UK ONLY." :mad: I wouldn't think it's too much for them to actually READ the listing before asking questions. And yes, we get people asking us to take additional pictures or send additional odd measurements. Nope, not going to happen. I will happily answer a legitimate question (such as "we live in the area, can we pick it up instead so there's no postage fee?" which is fine by me), but some days I think people wander ebay looking for items they can ask silly questions about! So I don't answer those questions, I just ignore them. That might put me in the "not very nice" category, but I can't think of anything we've sold on ebay that has sold for enough money that I'm willing to put myself through that! :rotfl:

Yes, my list is quite long - but I've been putting things off and letting things slide for far too long! I've already started:
- daily blog
- redid the budget
- reorganised the debt files and started the letters to creditors
- working on the meal plan today
- if I have time, I may start working on the Christmas list (we've already purchased a few gifts on sale - they are stashed up in our rooms next to DS2's birthday present we've already purchased).

birdlady

Good evening everyone

Just been pondering how Elantans homework, and my wheel, and Crafty Scholars wishcraft book have changed my view of my life, and have come to the following conclusions

1 Overall my life is not as depressing as I thought it was.

2 What stops me from changing things is a lack of confidence

3 I have often not made the choices I should, but those that pleased my mother. But I am 54 now and my mother is 80 and still giving me 'advice'. There is only one way and it is her way, and now I am wondering if this is why I am short of confidence?

:think:

Cath x

Buffythedebtslayer

I have been doing my usual reading and thinking thing. Need to go out for my work - not got any steps today. Spent most of it in bed with a headache. Only just now coming round, still have headache tho.

I believe I am finally strong enough to face the conclusions I have come to so many times before but have ignored for fear of judgement and guilt.

1. I want to please my Mum and meet her expectations. This in itself limits "me" but it also doesn't help that she isn't very clear about what she wants for me, in fact neither of my parents were, to be honest at some points in my life they seemed completely disinterested and communication was at 0.

2. I feel so guilty about everything, I am never good enough I am never right, no one really likes me. This complete lack of confidence is mainly due to Mum (and me believing it all). I am not saying she is an awful Mum - quite the opposite she is lovely, however she worries about every single little thing in life and thinks everything is going to go wrong, people are bad and change is terrible, the negative reaction to everything is difficult to combat when I am already quite isolated. When I had the balancing influence of my Dad(do what makes you happy, look after yourself,) it was better - I did try stuff and apply for jobs/visit places/make friends etc. Its been almost four years since his death, it was an awful time, words don't explain how bad it was, and continued to be an awful time until recently when I started coming back out of myself and realised how much time I had wasted buying into Mum's way of life - I understand I think why she is like she is but I don't have the same experience of life as she does and I must remember that. I was beaten down by life but frankly it isn't an option to stay there.

I have to realise that I deserve a partner, a nice job where I am valued, good friends(of which i have many I think) and not shut people out based on the assumption that I am not good enough or in some way some kind of freak. I frequently feel like a failure when in reality if I stuck to my guns and believed in myself I could have the life I dream of (but won't allow my self to have.)

there is more but I need to do my walking

Love Buffy xxxxxx

elantan

well it seems like this challenge is hitting people hard on the thought front ... ready for more homework?

for those that havnt caught up and want to ... just take your time there is no rush here ...

but for those that are ready ... (i see some of you have been doing this already also)

i want you to write down all your strengths and all your weaknesses ... are you a loyal person? are you trustworthy ? if you say you will do something do you do it? can you manipulate people to your advantage?

go on be honest ... it only has to be you that reads it

still keep a note of all your other homework

elantan

are you all away working on your homework?

LuckyBiscuit

:hello:
I was wondering where everyone was too???:think:

Hope everyone's ok................

Must do homework 3, must do homework 3!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Love to all...............

LuckyBiscuit

:eek:AAAHHHHHH and i just spotted number 4

true27

Blimey, is anyone else finding homework 4 a million times more difficult than the other three?? Weaknesses? Sure, loads of them - but strengths? Erm.....

LuckyBiscuit

Im sure you have lots of them, compassion, organisation, communication, positive attitude, flexability, hard worker, punctual, determined

I could go on...................................

LuckyBiscuit

A strength, or potential, is a natural gift or talent inside us. We all have them, but we tend to focus more on our failures.
Lets start looking at ourselves more positively and then we may start to see results!!!!

(just to clarift im my own worst enemy, i could critise myself all day)!!!