Wake-up Call Challenge

elantan

well i have seven brothers and three sisters ... so i think i enjoy the peace lol .. in saying that i am not even slightly close to any of my family ... i moved out at 16 and rarely talk to any of them ... only when they phone ... i think i am seen as the black sheep ... the rebellious non conformist anarchist in me likes that lol

Different_Corner

Cath, I'd love to learn how to use a drill, they scare me, and not in a OTT girly way. In a don't understand all this 'changing bits/whats a wall plug/where to drill/are there electric cables where I'm about to drill way.' I want to know this stuff ! For a woman in her 40's it sounds pathetic, but DH looked after things very well in the past. So good on you for signing up to such a course.

Well I tried, nothing on my wheel gets more than a 4. I don't think I'm being hard on myself. I think I get too sucked in sometimes and can't see the wood for the trees. I go on and on about changing jobs but then thought of an interview absolutely terrifies me !

But changing jobs would help my overall wheel. Working with the older generation can get you down, I respect them and they do make me laugh, but sometimes it's extremely sad. It would also help my financial situation. Happier at work= happier at home ?


Thanks for reading.

birdlady

Different_Corner, my late husband was a great DIYer, and I have a loft full of tools I cannot use , including a circular saw :eek: , and 4 big toolboxes. I wish I'd paid more attention when he was using them. My elderly mum lives on her own as I do, I'd like to be able to tackle a simple job for either of us without having to get someone out , I cannot even drill a hole in the wall. Why don't they teach this stuff at school? I did have a play with a jig saw tho , cut wavy lines in scrap wood, it was a lot of fun It is a charity running the course, maybe there is something local to you?

Cath x

Krisp_3

oooh, this thread is fascinating!

Well, after doing most of my jobs after our weekly sit down chat about us and how we are (it last until mid afternoon last week, lol!), I have just done my wheel, properly.

I'm going to share:

Career - 7
It works for me, but it's the bit that I want to change most, because I know that WHEN I do, it'll be the one that has the most positive impact on our life together. I'm apprehensive, but only because the environment is a good one, the team are great and the income is very good and stable. However, it doesn't feed my creative side, it takes up a lot of travelling time and is very draining, not to mention extremely responsible. I want to do something that involves helping others, has elements of creativity and is local. If I wind up being partially self-employed and working part-time for someone else, that works fine for me (us).

Fun/Recreation/Spirituality - 8
I know what I enjoy doiong/what fulfils me, it's the time factor. See Career above!

Money/Finances - 8
Although we aren't totally debt-free yet, we are organised and will be (apart from mortgage) next summer. We have a plan to get rid of the mortgage within 2 years of now, as long as everything else continues in the same vein. If it doesn't, it's not a drama. The main thing is, we're not in a position of having to feed horrendous debts as we were a few years ago. We're in control. That's fine for me.

Physical environment - 7
This isn't perfect, only because we're having a de-clutter at the moment and my OH has a bit of an organisational issue that is an aspect of her type of dyslexia. As I sit here in the lounge, I can see a whole host of boxes that should be in her office but aren't. Finally, finally, she has decided that much of the stuff that is in them she no longer needs and is going to sort through and donate to a local charity (art materials, mainly) or bin (oil paints that have gone off). Once they've been sorted, the 7 will be a 9ish, I reckon!

Health & Wellbeing - 10
I've struggled with this area for so long and gone through weight issues that were so easily resolved at the end of last year through discovering a gluten intolerance. I can essentially eat almost anything and not turn into the whale woman I was, which bearing in mind that a school nurse told my mum I was a little fattie when I was five (in my hearing!), has eradicated decades of food obsession. I do have another medical condition but its controlled and doesn't run my life - so bleh, I hardly think about it.

Friends - 8
I'm not one of those people that needs tons of friends - just proper ones that I can trust implicitly. I have them. I went through a time not so long ago of realising that people I thought were friends actually fell into the acquaintance category. That's fine, now that I understand that.

Family - 7
Hmmm. Divorce, separation, step- and half-siblings. I still haven't got my head around this area of my life. I am much the oldest of my siblings and not sure of my relationship with them, as I am the 'odd one out'. We get on well enough, but I don't feel as if I'm part of the family. At the same time, I'm not sure I feel the urge to make the effort in this area either. This might sound a little selfish, but I'm quite happy in my life as it is? Added to that, but as you may have gathered but I am gay and the 'only one in the family', which has caused problems, and still does to an extent. We (me and my OH) have tried to make overtures in the past, but there's only so much you can do before it feels like too much hard work...... Meh.

Significant Other - 10
We've had our moments in the past of course (haven't we all!), but right now, it's a perfect 10. We work hard at it, we make time to talk things through and yes, do sometimes fight over who's turn it is to take the washing out of the machine (today, she sorted it out, set it going and so on, so it's mine to put it on the airer), but it's all good. Long may it continue.

The bit I want to change the most and will have the most impact on our lives - Career, of course.

I've forgotten what homework number 3 is. I'll have to come back later!!!

Different_Corner

Yep - two shedfuls of tools, drills, sanders, plains. Am in same sad situation Cath, DH passed away 2 years ago. So buck stops here when it comes to DIY. Not quite ready to hand over responsibilties to DS's, although they would probably be an awful lot better than me.

I'd love to do such a course, and as you say even fun, a confidence boost, could even be a new way of life ? As elantan's signature reminds me what would you do if you knew you couldn't fail.

See little seeds of 'can do' are being planted via this thread. TY.

birdlady

2 years for me as well D_C, my own son is rather cerebral (a computer programmer) and worse than me at practical things! The buck will stay stopped with me!

Cath x

Krisp_3

Aaah, right.

So, what's stopping me? Well really, it's the same in all areas. Fear of change and fear of failure, I get myself tied up in the most ridiculous knots over the most stupid things so then don't do things - because if I don't do them, then at least I can't fail at them. This is someone who is answerable to worldwide organisations, who apparently exudes an aura of 'getting things done', who people come to for advice, support and assistance - how ridiculous is this?!! I've taught myself a foreign language in an alphabet that doesn't even resemble our own in the last 18 months as well.

I must be nuts.

So there's no excuse, really.

The one area that I want to change beyond all others is my career. Because changing that will actually have a knock-on effect elsewhere. It will free up time, it will give me more energy, allow me to be more creative, give me more space in my head and generally allow me to be more relaxed than I am at the moment.

And the worst-case scenario if I can't do that? Well, it won't be a disaster. I'm not in such a bad place that I'll end up losing my mind/partner/health/home/happiness if it falls apart. It will just be disappointing. But it doesn't mean that I don't want it.

Connected with all this. My OH has found a one day taster course for me - an NLP Workshop at a local arts centre. Yay! It'll be a great experience!

Nottoobadyet

Aw, Krisp, glad to see how good things are for you! I hope mine can get closer to the perfect 10.

jacci45

Hi, can I join in please?

I want to stop spending on my cc's and pay them off and I need to lose weight also,I have a bad back and hips and I know losing weight would help. I also want to start making time for myself, I work full time and dont do anything for myself as Im too busy with housework etc,I know that if I do change it will be better for all of us.
I look forward to reading and contributing!

Craftyscholar

Krisp wrote: »

It generally turns out that the veneer that the other person gives out hides a person just as insecure as you. People think I am uber-confident when I am so not!!

Krisp wrote: »

This is someone who is answerable to worldwide organisations, who apparently exudes an aura of 'getting things done', who people come to for advice, support and assistance - how ridiculous is this?!!

So how many of us have spent our lives envying the veneer of others because we assumed it went all the way through and we were the only insecure ones?