Wake-up Call Challenge

Buffythedebtslayer

I will do 30 minutes of decluttering starting now.

hope everyone is ok xxx

Buffythedebtslayer

I did a bit and then went shopping, got to go out now, this is good for my friends section - I need to make more effort there. I think tomorrow I will move the furniture around (I do this lot to try and find the best arrangement - this one isn't really working) that will help with the decluttering and the fresh start for work on Monday.

I must be positive.

happy Saturday people xxxx

Gemmzie

Okay, here's number one homework... I've ordered them from best to worse because I think it'll help with the later tasks...

Personal relationship/Love – 9 Can’t see anywhere to improve, completely loved up with OH, enjoying planning the rest of our lives together and the wedding.
Growth/Learning – 8 I’m really enjoying my OU courses even though it feels a bit slow at times, work allows me to go on some training too which will all help with future job prospects.
Social life/Friends – 8 I have some great friends, wish I could see a bit more of them though
Work/Career – 6 Maybe I’m being unfair here but the job I do isn’t the one I applied for and I don’t get on with my colleague at all – I’ve tried so hard but they are impossible.
Family relationships – 5 Pretty okay with parents but living together causes some problems (see physical environment). I don’t get on with my brother at the moment but that could be because we’re living in the same house.
Health – 5 It’s a lot better than it has been in the past but I’m now just (by about a pound) overweight and it’s depressing me – which isn’t helpful. Problem is, I can’t shift it – I’ve tried diets but I keep putting it on and it causes stress which means I get sick.
Money/Finance – 4 Not great, but not terrible either. I have a bit of debt again from helping OH out, and until it’s all paid, we can’t afford to move in together because we couldn’t afford a mortgage and saving for the wedding.
Physical environment – 4 Living at home causes difficulties, although this might improve once my brother moves out again, it’s like I have five children to look after a lot of the time. However, the house itself is really nice and I have a fair amount of space. Although, it is a very messy space lately.
Fun/Hobbies – 2 I don’t really have any. I like film but don’t really watch them much anymore as never seem to have time.
Fitness – 1 This is terrible, and definitely having an impact on health and general wellbeing. I sit on my bum for most of my job and do very little in the evenings.

Hmm, so there it is

Nottoobadyet

OK - part two!

Job (8) - This would be a 10 if I traveled more and if my boss got over certain things. I need to push.

Career / Personal Development (6) - I need to work out what to do with myself, and work towards it my options are (all starting after about a year from now) - 1) staying in London and switching to slightly more interesting job, probubly with a small pay cut 2) moving to the field, probubly taking quite a large paycut and making things possibly impossible with OH, but getting great experience or 3) moving somewhere else in the developed world, enjoying a new city but essentially doing more of the same job Im doing now. Opionions, anyone?

Ah and I WILL finish my accounting qualification, this is getting silly.

Relationship (8) - I think this one is sorting itself

Money (7) - Same, so long as I keep up the MSE ways

Friends (5) - Im really lost on this. I have a few friendships at work I can work on, but Im rubbish at meeting totaly new people. How do you meet people that you see again at the gym, at dance classes, etc? Im not brave enough, I dont think!

Looks (5) - I WILL be brave and get my teeth fixed, and will get better at exercising to keep fit.

Volunteer Commitments (7) - I need to bludgeon myself over the head with this until I get on top of it! Its not fair that the orgs have to suffer for my lack of organization.

The_Dragon

Lula-Hula wrote: »

Morning all

I'm now late with 3 pieces of homework & frankly, losing the will to keep up .

I havent yet invesigated this 'wheel' but it seems to be making a lot of you reconsider your lives & decide to make changes.

I'm a bit wary of trying to evaluate my life based on categories that have been defined by someone else as I find that areas/boundaries often overlap & rules are really not my thing.

However, I do know that I am not spending enough time on physically practising my faith. It is ever present as I rush around, but the time/space & solitude required to be active is lacking at the moment . Work takes up a lot of my time during the week & then the weekend is often spent catching up on laundry, chores & duties. Or hanging about here :rotfl:.

Hope everyone has a lovely weekend

Lula Hula I think Elantan is giving us the homework so quickly so we don't lose the momentum - but just do it in your own time and at your own pace! Remember as well that you don't HAVE to post your answers her - I did to make it more real to me!

Different_Corner

Morning
Some great posts, sitting here nodding like the proverbial churchill dog at many.
I did the wheel on Thursday and was quite shocked at the results, nothing was higher than a 4. So was I being a bit hard on myself, I think so. So I shall have another go today.

The main thing in my life is this as as Buffy puts it and it's honest - mess - that surrounds me. Two teenage boys that I have allowed to slowly but surely let their stuff seep out of their rooms/school bags/lives etc. I've basically given up and joined them. It's just not good enough.

Krisp_3

TMVen wrote: »

Krisp, you could be talking about me, I also am a virgo:D

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Good to know I'm not alone, lol!!!

Krisp_3

Nottoobadyet wrote: »

OK - part two!

Friends (5) - Im really lost on this. I have a few friendships at work I can work on, but Im rubbish at meeting totaly new people. How do you meet people that you see again at the gym, at dance classes, etc? Im not brave enough, I dont think!

Hey - I struggled with this for a while too, some time ago. I started out step by step by just smiling and saying hello to people I saw regularly at the gym (or wherever) and then one week asked how someone was doing with a particular exercise, and then it went from there. It generally turns out that the veneer that the other person gives out hides a person just as insecure as you. People think I am uber-confident when I am so not!! I lost a ton of weight a few months ago and i still think of myself as 'whale-woman'. Being thin does not make you super-sexy inside overnight. My friend who's a personal trainer has hang-ups about his body - go figure!

Anyway, why not try a smile or a hello and take it from there? You never know.

Different_Corner

Krisp wrote: »

It generally turns out that the veneer that the other person gives out hides a person just as insecure as you. People think I am uber-confident when I am so not!!

Krisp, this is sooooo true. I have become a hermit over the last two years. Yet if I walk into town I will say hello or stop and chat to at least 3 or 4 people I know. Everyone thinks I am this funny, confident person. Once I'm in and shut the door I actually sigh with relief...

Krisp_3

Lula-Hula wrote: »

However, I do know that I am not spending enough time on physically practising my faith. It is ever present as I rush around, but the time/space & solitude required to be active is lacking at the moment . Work takes up a lot of my time during the week & then the weekend is often spent catching up on laundry, chores & duties. Or hanging about here :rotfl:.

Hope everyone has a lovely weekend

Hi Lula-Hula
Trying to squeeze time in for your faith, whatever that may be, can be tough these days, I know this! At the minute, I'm trying to squeeze in time to study for an adult bat mitzvah (I'm Jewish) in December, which involves a ton of work, not least learning to lead an entire service and learn to read old style Hebrew out loud, sing-song style. The time I have available for this is, to say the least, miniscule!! So I've had to devote time on my train journey to and from work to do so, when normally I'd probably be sleeping, on the way home at least. I've had to allocate that in my mind as 'faith' time, even though it's not really that, as such. And it's also 'study' time. And 'me' time.

They say that getting into a routine takes humans a certain number of times before its ingrained - before that, it's very hard to resist the pull to do something else. We're creatures of habit, so breaking a 'bad' habit is equally hard (or getting into a 'new' 'habit') is so difficult. It's not you - it's us as a species.

I've only been going to synagogue regularly for the last couple of years and committing time to it. It's involved big change for me and my OH (who isn't Jewish). But it works for us now, after lots of baby steps and taking it week by week. Sometimes, things happen and i can't devote a Satruday morning to synagogue. So I do something else to mark the end of the week, to honour my faith. It might not be in the same place, with the same people, but I do something.

Good luck.