Wake-up Call Challenge

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elantan wrote: »

so after you have figured out where you want each bit to be ... figure out why it isnt there ... what is stopping you from getting there.... what is in your way ? and are they all connected? is it similar things that are stopping you each time? do you really need to sort everything out or just the one and then the rest will fall into place?


just wanted to remind you of this bit ... yikes the sore bit

I think I've definitely identified my drinking as the biggest obstacle, but I don't think that just by sorting that, that everything else will fall into place. I think everything else will be considerably easier once I'm not trying to deal with it with a hangover but I don't think its the be all and end all.....I'm a lazy bones too....

BUT! Yesterday I determined to get off my butt. And I nearly got there too! I did a Mr T's run, I cleared a patch in the garden for DB's new trampoline, cleaned the kitchen, cooked a rubber chicken, and then collapsed in the bath with a glass of Lambrini :rotfl:! But I felt like I deserved it iykwim because I'd ENJOYED doing all the bits and pieces that I usually just ignore and that felt more positive than sitting around doing nothing all day and then having a drink to help me sleep!

I'm really interested in what people have been saying about spirituality though. Thats something that's never really occured to me before. Does it help? Do you need a deep seated belief in God or A.N.Other higher being for it to mean something? Or can you find it elsewhere?

Nottoobadyet

I dont think so, True. Im completely happy with my spirituality quota as an atheist - indeed, much happier than I was growing up with a religion that I knew I really couldn’t believe in. I still like being Jewish and being culturally involved in the community, but its accepting my own atheism that made me happy on a spiritual level for the first time.

Krisp_3

Nottoobadyet wrote: »

I dont think so, True. Im completely happy with my spirituality quota as an atheist - indeed, much happier than I was growing up with a religion that I knew I really couldn’t believe in. I still like being Jewish and being culturally involved in the community, but its accepting my own atheism that made me happy on a spiritual level for the first time.

Absolutely true, err, true;)!

The thing about being Jewish is its more than a religion, its a culture, a history, a people, so you can pick and choose what you want from that and still be Jewish. I don't think you can get that from the other main religions (although not an expert, lol!). And if you are happy being agnostic/aetheist, then there's no reason to push yourself in any direction. Just be open-minded and listen to your heart, perhaps.

I have a friend who doesn't follow any religion/faith but is one of the most spiritual people I know.

I don't think there's a right way, or the only way.

Wow. Friday evening is usually my time for being philosophical over challah, wine and candles... seem to have started early today.:D

Happy Friday everyone.

Nottoobadyet

Ineedy, shabbat shalom krisp! And the food isnt bad either, eh?

Buffythedebtslayer

I am still here and did read last night, also started on my homework - am loving the life wheel. Mostly I am sort of ticking over, or least in the process of making changes ie money is a five but in 8 short months will be a ten.

I won't post up all my ramblings but am SO pleased that Elantan told me about this place xxxxx

Krisp_3

Nottoobadyet wrote: »

Ineedy, shabbat shalom krisp! And the food isnt bad either, eh?

Good Shabbes! :j

And yes, the food ain't too shabby, although, if you have a gluten intolerance, bagels and challah can be a nightmare. I just prepare by taking ibuprofen and fybogel beforehand, lol!

Buffy - great name and welcome! You don't need to reveal all if you don't want to, of course. But do the wotrk if you can - Elantan has certainly helped me focus on a few things.

elantan

i think spirituality is a personal thing ... if you want to call a dog barking at a tree spiritual then so be it ... i am not religous at all but i do class myself as spiritual ... although my spirituality is not a dog barking at a tree might i add lol

Krisp_3

elantan wrote: »

i think spirituality is a personal thing ... if you want to call a dog barking at a tree spiritual then so be it ... i am not religous at all but i do class myself as spiritual ... although my spirituality is not a dog barking at a tree might i add lol

ooooh, that would have been so good if it were true....

But yes, spirituality is definitely a personal thing. And we are all so very different, after all.

I've just ordered a book on Neuro Linguistic Programming from Amazon with some Nectar points I converted to a voucher. I also ordered a clothes brush at the same time. I wonder what Amazon's directed marketing tool will make of that little combination, lol! :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

The_Dragon

I've talked to Elantan a little bit off list and I came to the conclusion (well mainly me with prods from El :rotfl:) that although I had though money was a major prob it is actually my health (well I thought it was my weight but it turns out THAT is health related ... go figure ) - so things to change or more to the point why haven't things changed - well the finances stayed well down because I would jump on the latest diet bandwagon so determined to stop looking like a two legged Orca, because of my weight I never really made many new friends (but those I did make are wonderful friends), not making friends stems from low self esteem (um being told you are a stupid, fat, cripple over and over by strangers does tend to sap you somewhat ), I can chat to people I don't expect to meet again and I am becoming more and more introverted - yep no changes to the status quo is because "I AM NOT WORTH IT"!! at least that was what I thought until Elantan started in with the homework

Buffythedebtslayer

I am into the thinking thing big time - in fact I spend so much time thinking I don't actually "do" anything. I have known for long time what it is I need to change. I have tried really hard to not rock the boat and be the dutiful daughter, I am not always as good as at it as I should be but it has been my aim.

The reality is finally sinking in - always in the breaks I realise a little more clearly I that I need to make my own life and decisions. I am going to be relying on you guys to keep me on the path this time.


This is quoted from my diary,

Aims for the next six months

1. To lower the debt - at worst I will have 4223 left at the end of the year, at best 0. Anything between those two is good. The reason for the foot off the pedal type situation is frankly I want to learn to drive, I need to fix the hot water and garden and possibly the loft. The proper full on debt busting in terms of saving and being careful will continue but I will have to spend as well!

2. To declutter - must be done, it makes me miserable. I do not need stuff. I need space. Plus I can sell on e bay.

3. To lose weight - through exercise and WW, walking to the station, doing my 30 day shred dvd.

4. To redecorate my room - as a reward for decluttering

5. To fix up the garden (as cheaply as possible)

6. To sort the bathroom and the hot water.

7. To organise my work much better.

The first 7 weeks will be focussed on decluttering, weight loss and (wow I really fancy the bloke who plays doctor who, like REALLY)organising work. I will have to paint the bathroom this week so we can have men round to look at the boiler etc.

So holiday will be spent thus, 2 days in work, one day in the garden and one day in the bathroom.

I am going to come back and edit this dinner is ready now tho

xxxx