meet the parents (not)

missprice

mackemdave wrote: »

The longer you put it off for the worse it gets.......cant you call in on them en route to another appointment then you have got an excuse to leave after an hour or so...if youve enjoyed it the you can go back for longer.........No going though is causing you anxiety and issues which need not be there

i wish we could just visit them and it was arranged for when after i met one of his sisters last year
but then they changed their mind!!! at the last minute
i will try and think of somewhere to 'visit' that is near them they a bit off the beaten track from where i live but its an option thanks

missprice

mancitychick wrote: »

Personally I think meeting at the party is great idea as there will be plenty of people to talk to and you'll get to meet his parents in an informal sistuation and will only have to make small talk as they will have all there other guest to talk to aswell. Whereas in a cafe it could end up forced and stilted conversation. Good luck.

Besides its one night, if you don't get on you don't have to see them again and if you don't like them who cares what they think of you!

good luck

ah if it was only one night i would just go and be done
it starts at 11am
going by the others OH has been to it will finish around 10pm
it in the back of beyond too
may ask him to give me taxi money:)

missprice

JimmyTheWig wrote: »

Hold on a minute...

Miss Price...
Prima Donna...
An old nickname that the OP hasn't used since years before meeting partner that would be used at a family gathering of people she's never met...

Is the OP Jordan?

lol no not jordan
old nickname is sid

JimmyTheWig

Why would they call you Sid, though, if you haven't gone by that name in 15 years?

missprice

JimmyTheWig wrote: »

Why would they call you Sid, though, if you haven't gone by that name in 15 years?

cos thats the name OH told them
i reckon he thinks my name is posh (never said so am only guessing)
and its a uncommon name too.

maggied_2

missprice wrote: »

ah if it was only one night i would just go and be done
it starts at 11am
going by the others OH has been to it will finish around 10pm
it in the back of beyond too
may ask him to give me taxi money:)

<sigh>
Ask if you can go a little later
Ask if you can leave a little earlier
Drive and then you can leave when you want.
Pay for your own taxi if meeting the poor sod's family is going to be so awful.

Next!

Dinah93

If you wanted to meet them you'd go to the party, you're making excuses not to go, and then being stroppy with your OH. Go and meet them, or stop complaining he hasn't introduced you. Incidentally I think it's very odd you haven't met them after this long, I met my future MIL and FIL within the first 2 months we were together as he was chuffed to take me home to meet his parents. Then again if your behaviour in person is likely to be as divaish in person as you are coming across on here I would be nervous about taking you into a one to one situation.

missprice

maggied wrote: »

<sigh>
Ask if you can go a little later
Ask if you can leave a little earlier
Drive and then you can leave when you want.
Pay for your own taxi if meeting the poor sod's family is going to be so awful.

Next!

yeah ok maggied
have already asked this
answer is no
answer is no
no car currently so only his which leaves me or him to get taxi
as he also has to drop his kids off so therefore has longer journey he would prefer to have car
and no money am doing min wage jobs at mo
so if he that botherede that i meet them he can pay and no guarantee i would need to use it, therfore he would get it back

i didnt just say no outright when he asked me
i asked all these questions and then declined.

poet123

Try putting yourself in the OH's parents shoes;-

Your son is living with a woman with kids, and who, when invited to visit on 3 occasions declines, (being a man he probably told them exactly why you had declined).....and who, unknown to them is actually about to whisk him off to live in Canada. How would you be feeling?

You do sound very juvenile, at a family party surely you can find somone to chat with? and your OH will be there. Neither of you have to be there all day. Arrive at the appointed hour, with wine, and flowers, smile and be pleasant, and let them see your OH has really got lucky. Stay a reeasonable length of time, say until other guests are making a move, and make your apologies and say youneed to get off because of your sitter. Be grown up, and if your nickname is used, laugh and say "xx sometimes calls me, that but I prefer xx .

If you go into the experience as you would to a dental appointment, then that is the sort of day you will have, if you go looking for the best in people and determined to be nice and pleasant, then you may just enjoy it.

missprice

Dinah93 wrote: »

If you wanted to meet them you'd go to the party, you're making excuses not to go, and then being stroppy with your OH. Go and meet them, or stop complaining he hasn't introduced you. Incidentally I think it's very odd you haven't met them after this long, I met my future MIL and FIL within the first 2 months we were together as he was chuffed to take me home to meet his parents. Then again if your behaviour in person is likely to be as divaish in person as you are coming across on here I would be nervous about taking you into a one to one situation.

was not stoppy with him
i asked him simple questions like who will be there, when it start/end
how we get there etc
i thought 11 hours with a whole load of people i dont/barely know was not a great time to meet the parents
i do seem to be coming across as a biatch on here i agree
but i am not. you only have my word for that though