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working children paying keep - how much?

edited 30 November -1 at 1:00AM in Marriage, Relationships & Families
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  • mshappymshappy Forumite
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    I'm 18 and I only moved out of my parents about 8 weeks ago.I paid £120 a month there,I have now moved in with my sister in to the city and I pay £200 here plus food.
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  • Edinburghlass_2Edinburghlass_2 Forumite
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    Typically.. aim for 1/3 of whatever he's earning

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  • LouBlueLouBlue Forumite
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    As soon as me and my 2 sisters were earning, we gave mum 25% of our monthly take home. We never complained about it, we knew she didn't get much from our dad, and how hard she worked, but even if she was more well off, we would have still paid it. It also helped us, when we did move out, as we weren't going from rent free or practically rent free, to suddenly the harsh reality.
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  • poohbear59poohbear59 Forumite
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    LouBlue wrote: »
    As soon as me and my 2 sisters were earning, we gave mum 25% of our monthly take home. We never complained about it, we knew she didn't get much from our dad, and how hard she worked, but even if she was more well off, we would have still paid it. It also helped us, when we did move out, as we weren't going from rent free or practically rent free, to suddenly the harsh reality.

    Oh how I wish my sons agreed with you. I am struggling to get £20 a week from each of them towards food, general groceries and bills.
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  • gaz_jonesgaz_jones Forumite
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    When I was living at home (last year) I was paying my mum £100 p/m and my girlfriend who was also living with us gave her £100. I was earning about £700 take home per month similar to my gf.

    Every couple of months I would try to give her an extra £50 just for charging so little. Sometimes she took it othertimes didnt. Guess it all depended what bills she had that month.
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  • LouBlueLouBlue Forumite
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    poohbear59 wrote: »
    Oh how I wish my sons agreed with you. I am struggling to get £20 a week from each of them towards food, general groceries and bills.

    Goodness me, just keep telling yourself...they will NEVER move out if that continues! :eek:;)

    Of course, we all knew mum was struggling a bit so we didn't mind at all paying, but even if we had parents that weren't struggling, I think its a good idea to help your 'children' start realising how much things cost, you can always put it by for them if you don't need it, then let them have it when they need help towards a deposit or something like that.
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  • I am hoping someone can advise me, my daughter is 15 and pregnant!! I will look after her and the baby as long as they need me to, but my problem is how much should she give me? i receive tax credits, and am struggling gto pay the mortgage. She has been told that when she has the baby she will get £120 per week, but my claim for her will stop. Therefore I will lose £50 per week, and she thinks if i take any money off her, im greedy!!! Is there anyone in a similar position, so I can show her the posts? She says she has friends in the same position who dont pay their parents anything, I wish i could do this, but cant!!!
  • Personally, I would take pretty much all of that off her. If she has decided to have a child she has to be responsible for it. I would take at least £80 espescially if you are buying baby food etc, aswell as normal household costs.
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  • markelockmarkelock Forumite
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    agree with arthur. it's (unfortunately) time for her to take responsibilities over and above just having a child (as if that's not enough!!!)

    if she thinks it's greedy, maybe she could calculate how much it would cost her to do it on her own.

    I wouldn't advocate this as being an ultimatum, just something to suggest in a calm manner, at the right time.

    she's hanging around with the wrong people. Personally, I'd rather not pay tax for the benefit of those who choose not to work, because they will receive a subsidy for it (I'm not knocking you btw)

    best of luck
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  • The £120 pw is presumably so your daughter can feed, clothe and house herself and the baby.......if she is expecting you to cover any of those outgoings (clearly she is) then appropriate contribution must be made........I am sure the benefit was never intended as pocket money!

    She needs to commend you for supporting her in the way that you are, rather than looking upon you as being greedy.
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