JimmyTheWig wrote: »
What hasn't been mentioned is paying off student debts.
If I had paid my parents a third of my take home pay as board when I came home from University I never would have cleared my overdraft, credit card bills and money I owed them in the time that I did.
Idiophreak wrote: »
a lot of the young people living with their folks these days will be those who've gone to university and come back. These people don't need the "life lessons"
katfishh wrote: »
I am dissapointed in these spiteful remarks. I want to work flexibly so I can travel, and I'm hardly ever at home as I'm always out so I dont feel I should have to do any housework as I dont make the mess. Shes at work all day but so am I - and she is used to it and i'm not. Incidently she does not travel 3hours each way, its 3 hours total each day. its not that far but the London traffic is bad. Again. not my fault shes tired.
I never said I didn't appreciate her but I started working when I was 18 part time and she wanted to take some of that off me towards bills and stuff - but I wouldn't. I earned £900 a month and she wanted £35 per week as she says I'm high maintenance!
I just feel that shes always trying to hijack my money. Now shes really pushing me for it and say I have to either start paying or leave. I've negotiated it down now to £50 pw but still thnk I'm being robbed as I'm never there!!
Have yet to pay. heh he he
katfishh wrote: »
Well I think shes stingey. she even says I have to pay a reduced amount when I go on holiday as she says that the bills still go on even if I'm not there. But I wont be using the gas or watching the TV so why should I pay. You can all critisise but you dont know the situation. I wouldn't live here if I could leave as shes so unreasonable.
've seen suggestions that I should do house work to get money off but dont have time to help around the house as I work. I do the washing up on a Saturday morning but she does nothing and my washing has been in the laundry basket for weeks. She makes herself look busy but doesn't do anything.
Dont see how you lot can criticise me how would you feel about paying towards council tax/phone/etc if you were on holiday!!! Its so unfair. cant wait to leave and when I do she will never see any of her grandchildren when i'm married.
NO more comments thanks! I just wanted a bit of support as I am being treated so unfairly. :mad:
welshspendthrift wrote: »
My daughter is at Uni and does some part time work tofund her horse and all that owning a horse entails and running a car and limited social life.
She did house share for her first year Paid £300 a month) but has struggled financially so is returning home to live - as I work very long hours we agreed that she would do all the housework ( she is much tidier than me !:o for her board .she will also pay for her calls on the phone and half of sky( her request to have sky again)
Do people think this is fair? or should i ask her for a little amount of say £15 for her food and electric etc . Dont want to make it too hard for her and want to support her so she doesnt have to work loads of hours to enable her to study to get better grades this week but need to be realisitic too.
She will get some of the loans/grants but my salary has increased so she wont get as much as last year. i am trying to pay off my credit cards too so dont want additional expense from daughter to impact on this
poohbear59 wrote: »
I am struggling finacially at the moment and have asked my two sons who are working to pay a contribution towards their keep. Because they have an older brother who is a student and not paying for his keep they won't either. Apart from the cost of living rising, they also use much more electricity now that they have bought new equipment with their pay. Also I have now lost out on CTC and CB and am over £300 a month down on money coming in. I am at my wits end struggling to manage the finances. I don't know how much they earn to even ask for a third towards living costs. My DD paid us £120 per month when she was working 3 days a week and also bought shopping too. I have just remorgaged to do house extension and I don't want that to disappear on groceries and fuel bills.
Sorry, as I seem to be moaning a lot but just needed to tell someone as DH just buries his head in the sand.
Idiophreak wrote: »
I was gonna say something similar...I know it's not strictly applicable to the OP in this thread, but as a general notion, it's worth remembering, I guess, that a lot of the young people living with their folks these days will be those who've gone to university and come back. These people don't need the "life lessons" so many on this thread seem to be pushing, they just need support while they get their debts sorted and can afford to get out on their own.
moggylover wrote: »
But they are still adults and need to contribute to the cost of their own keep!
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