Wish me luck tonight-another night of baby not sleeping thru

Happynewmum

elaina79 wrote: »

Well its now 5:10am and I have been awake since 12am. Both bambini and I have colds so our routine is all up the creek.
Bambini is just over 1 year old but she was born premature at 33 weeks. She started of sleeping really well for the first 6 months but then it all went pear shaped.
Some nights she can sleep right through then others she wakes up 2 - 3 times. I'm lucky co hubby looks after our other 2 while I catch up.
As she isn't well I have been letting her sleep for as long as she needs to but should I wake her up during the day. I see her laying there and dont have the heart to disturb her. I'm just too soft with her but then hubby is even worse. Bambini will get away with muder when she grows up lol.

Its hard to be tough on them. Sometimes I'm as soft as anything, sometimes I have the will of steel.Really depends.Wishing you all the best!Afew weeks back I was getting a cold, couldnt stop coughing.It was really bad.Kepth the other half up, disturbed baby and then he got the cough.So all you could hear was a chorus of coughing from one bedroom to another.I couldnt shake it off well but lil man didnt suffer long thank god

skintchick

Well, my DD slept for 9 hours straight last night which is the longest she has ever slept in one go! I have done NOTHING to 'sleep train' her and her sleep has very gradually improved on its own. I do believe they will just get better at it in time anyway, or at least learn how to settle themselves even if they wake a lot still.

Take heart, sleep-deprived mums!



PS - she is 10 months next Saturday.

Happynewmum

skintchick wrote: »

Well, my DD slept for 9 hours straight last night which is the longest she has ever slept in one go! I have done NOTHING to 'sleep train' her and her sleep has very gradually improved on its own. I do believe they will just get better at it in time anyway, or at least learn how to settle themselves even if they wake a lot still.

Take heart, sleep-deprived mums!



PS - she is 10 months next Saturday.

Thats amazing!Well done lil one.Bet you were happy?Thought I would update my situation as it is great news.Dont want to curse it, propbably have now but never mind.My son only woke up ONCE last night!Or should I say this morning.He woke up at 4.40am, had a feed ( think he was thirsty and thank god by that point as my chest was ready to burst! ), put him back in cot and woke up at 7.30am and was in a very happy mood.THERE IS A GOD!Starngest thing is-I still feel really rough.How the heck does that happen?:j

SammyD_2

skintchick wrote: »

Well, my DD slept for 9 hours straight last night which is the longest she has ever slept in one go! I have done NOTHING to 'sleep train' her and her sleep has very gradually improved on its own. I do believe they will just get better at it in time anyway, or at least learn how to settle themselves even if they wake a lot still.]

I reallly agree - my cousins two babies both slept through from a couple of months - mine didn't - yet we did nothing different. I have never left mine to cry. My daughter slept through from about 12 months, my son was later.

I do think it is very unnatural leaving babies alone, in their own rooms to cry. After all, the vast majority of babies in the world will go to sleep tonight within reach of a parent, sibling, grandparent, not shut off in another room alone. And it is only in the last few decades that it is normal for children in Western countries to sleep alone in their own room (and even then, only in some cultures).

Personally, I would rather have a child who looks to ME to meet his or her needs, whatever time of day than be capable of internalising whatever is troubling them at such a young age. Happynewmum, hang in there with your little one - it is sooo hard in those first couple of years. But before you know it your baby will be gone and grown.

I took comfort from a line in one of Penelope Leach's books which said that you will look back with fondness on the times in the middle of the night when you are holding a little snuggling bundle, and it feels like the rest of the world is asleep - that was so true.

Hope tonight is better.

Happynewmum

Aher night where he woke up once!In bed by 8.00am, woke up around 1.30am.Feed and cuddle, back in cot.Still sleeping........:j

bylromarha

Happynewmum wrote: »

Aher night where he woke up once!In bed by 8.00am, woke up around 1.30am.Feed and cuddle, back in cot.Still sleeping........:j

So why are you awake and on MSE at 6am?! :rotfl:

Good news:T - keep going Happynewmum.

yummymummy1987_2

Sounds like he is doing really well!! well done to you both!! I def found the softly softly approach the best way forward with my booby monster
I also sometimes get that "still feeling rough" feeling. Early night or no waking up through the night you would expect to feel fantastic but it makes little or no difference. Mind boggles!!! :cool:

poppyolivia

aww well done guys looks like you've cracked it..fingers cossed for you both!! xx

I have done both sides of the coin so to speak...and none of my kids have brain damage...we all have different opinions and I don't believe there is a right or wrong, I never really liked the idea of sleeping with a baby..read to much bad stuff about it..(but have also read alot of good about it too)

my son when he was a baby would cry non stop through the night, I swear I was seeing stuff that wasn't there!lol...then I just decided enough was enough not getting enough sleep wasn't good (for me and baby)..so for one night of pure HELL and it was HELL, I let him cry..( went in and reassured him etc..but there was no milk and no cuddles/lifting up)..BEST thing I did..at the time I thought I was the worst person in the world and some people might think so too..but since then (not including him being pooly/sick) he has slept through the night.

the flip side

When we moved to this house my daughter was about 3 at the time (I think???lol)..she was terrified of her room, she said she could see cats coming to get her..she was so scared it was scaring me!....she slept in MY bed for a year!!!..hubby slept in her bed...yip a whole year! The fear in her face couldn't make me put her in her own room.

The health visitor once said to me it doesn't matter where the kids sleep as long as they are sleeping even if its on the landing with a sleeping bag...I liked her!

My husband says that sleep deprivation is a form of torture in some countries...I can see how thats possible!lol

so it boils down to what you can cope with as a person, if you are ok and can see the light at the end of the tunnel with getting up every 3-4 hours, thats superb, but it seriously wasn't for me!:)

Happynewmum

bylromarha wrote: »

So why are you awake and on MSE at 6am?! :rotfl:

Good news:T - keep going Happynewmum.

I know!Try to get afew bits done e.g cleaned out the fridge, toilet and wiped living room floor.I also try and get my little mitts on the internet while hes asleep because I dont want to take the attention away from him, but I'm already missing two keys off my laptop-god knows what hes done with them!

elaina79

Not had a bad couple of nights. Colds are starting to go now. I take madam in the bath with me in the evening. She has her cuddle with daddy after and has her bottle, then I lay her in her cot. For the past 2 nights she has layed and played for a few minutes then settled down and gone to sleep. She wakes again at about 2am ish so this morning I kept her in her cot and gave her a bottle and checked her bum.
I layed back down for a while but she got upset again when her bottle finished so I'm now back downstairs.
I'm getting there though thank goodness.