Wish me luck tonight-another night of baby not sleeping thru

Happynewmum

wensday wrote: »

Hi just thought I'd add my little bit too...

My LO is 5 months and breastfed, he used to sleep through after doing the Baby Whisperer routine (she made my life MY life again instead of being a zombie). He started waking again about a month or so ago and now he wakes near enough every hour til I feed him at 7. As DH works, I am always the one to get up and snuggle him back in and give him his dummy (an occasional godsend but also a PITA).
SOoo, he stayed at my mums a few weeks ago as we had a wedding and he slept through after one wake at about midnight. Back home, awake all night. Stayed with my MIL last week and he slept through. I got my OH to go in one night when he was off work the next day, he slept through after that first visit by OH.
It's just me!!
I don't feed him overnight (bath and feed at 7.30pm, dream feed at 11pm) and it shows that he isnt actually hungry, he just wants to see me. Nice in one way, but oh my goodness he would get much more attention in the day if I had 2 hours sleep in a row!!

Thought I had it bad!Wishing you lots of sleep....

skintchick

A few weeks ago my 9mo was waking every 45 mins - she was teething. Last night she woke at 3.30 and 5 then slept till 7. They go in phases and it DOES pass! Some babies need more night parenting than others, that's all. I've not had more than three hours' sleep in a block since she was born and I do look forward to getting, ooh, say five hours or so, but I know it WILL come to pass, eventually.

Happynewmum - hang in there and hope tonight goes well.

tinkerbell212

HNM, son was a bad sleeper and very boob dependend. That stopped when I was pregnant of number 2, suddenly it didn't taste so nice. Number 2 is an even worse sleeper. But it's all me, I stayed at my sisters a few months ago because I was so tired and there she slept through after three days. I wasn't allowed to go in and my sister dealt with her. When we came home all quickly changed again.

I also made the 'mistake' to let her suckle for various reasons; if she was ill, or hurt, or if I was so tired I didn't wanted to deal with her. Now I only give her a feed before sleep time. And after I been in her room and I know she is clean, fed, not to warm, not to cold I do let her cry a bit.

I know that crying sounds hars, the first time I let her cry she cried 45 minutes but now it is a few minutes at the most. If you get to the stage that you want to let him cry, here are some tips.
Have a few magazines next to your bed. Tell yourself you can only go to see her after you read an article.
If he cries longer then 10 minutes without being quiet in between, go in and put him back down and tell him that we are now going to sleep. Stroke his head but don't go into conversation or cuddles. Go out of the room again. If he cries for 5 minutes and stops for half a minute and starts again, you have to start counting again.
Have a shower if he cries, that way it will be easier to ignore the crying for a few minutes.
We bought a Luvion monitor (video). Now I can switch the sound off and still keep an eye on her whilst I listen to something on headphones. The cry of a baby is very piercing, made for the mother to react but when you try to get them to sleep it is difficult to ignore. By the way, he is old enough now to play you. My daughter knew exactly how to push my buttons. Nowadays she'll say pain, because she knows I tend to react to that..

Good luck anyway. It is very hard and people don't appreciate how difficult it is when you have such a lack of sleep.

Happynewmum

:TGood morning to you all.Still abit tired but feel there is progress happening.He woke up 3 times last night.First time I heard him whimper he sort of settled himself but did the crying thing aabout 10 mins later,.Went into automatic mode and got him out of cot for a feed.By the time I did that I thought ' oh heck, I forgot-leave him for abit! 'TOO LATE!Anyway, second time, went in to see him, gave him alittle stroke on his head , told him he was ok and go back to sleep and then I went back to bed. Cried for abit ( only afew mins-was quite chuffed ) then fell asleep.Couldnt fall sleep myself at this point purely because I know that his covers wouldnt be on him and knew he would get cold so needed to be semi alive to go and sort him out oncve asleep.Last time he woke around 5.20, gave him cuddle, quick feed then back in cot. Tonight I really needs to be alittle more with it . I rthink hes done very well over the last few nights.And rather than just seeing if he settles himself for the first time he wakes up I think I'll do it for the first and second time.I'll keep you guys updated.Anyone else going through this-I'm with you in spirit and wish you all the best!Everyone keep posting your stories to give us sleep deprived girls moral support!

skintchick

Great news!! You're doing brilliantly.

angelfairy

glad to hear things are improving for you.

i soooooooooooooo get the automatic pilot thing. i have done that a good few times, just reached in, taken her out of the cot and then thought, what the heck am i doing?

we are a bit hit and miss at the minute. we have the additional challenge that she is still in with us so she is very much aware that i am always in the room.

keep at it x

shirlgirl2004

Keep going Happynewmum. You are doing a great if difficult job. I understand the need to sleep but on the bad nights just remember we are an unusual race whereby we toss our babies out of the nest at a young age. I hope you get more sleep soon. Sleep deprivation has to be the hardest part of being a parent. As another thought how would bubs react if his dad went to him in the night instead of you?

elaina79

Well its now 5:10am and I have been awake since 12am. Both bambini and I have colds so our routine is all up the creek.
Bambini is just over 1 year old but she was born premature at 33 weeks. She started of sleeping really well for the first 6 months but then it all went pear shaped.
Some nights she can sleep right through then others she wakes up 2 - 3 times. I'm lucky co hubby looks after our other 2 while I catch up.
As she isn't well I have been letting her sleep for as long as she needs to but should I wake her up during the day. I see her laying there and dont have the heart to disturb her. I'm just too soft with her but then hubby is even worse. Bambini will get away with muder when she grows up lol.

Happynewmum

Hi guys.
Thanks for the support.KJust to give an update on the goings on of last night/this morning.Little man woke up three times BUT was much better.By the time he'd terrorized his dad before bed ( he went to bed alittle late ) he was in his cot for around 8.30pm. I heard him wake up wioth the usual moaning at 2.00AM!!!Thought I was dreaming when I looked at my phone!I went to check on him, show my face and told him to go back to sleep.Cue the crying and moaning but didnt take him too long to fall asleep.He then woke up about 40mins later, did the same thing-checked on him etc again cue the crying, and left him.I must of been tired as I think I fell alssep for afew mins and when I checked the time I heard he was still crying so got hi out as I felt he had enough time moaning and being on his own and fed him.Seemed alittle thirsty to me.Back in the cot he went and then wokr up around an hour ago.Alittle feed and cuddle, back in cot and now he'll wake up just after 7.00am.PROGRESS!

Happynewmum

shirlgirl2004 wrote: »

Keep going Happynewmum. You are doing a great if difficult job. I understand the need to sleep but on the bad nights just remember we are an unusual race whereby we toss our babies out of the nest at a young age. I hope you get more sleep soon. Sleep deprivation has to be the hardest part of being a parent. As another thought how would bubs react if his dad went to him in the night instead of you?

His dad would be useless!Firstly, I'll ask him in the morning did you hear baby cry last night and his response is ' I'm not sure ', so dont think he would be on the ball.Not only that but hes far too soft and would probably just keep picking him up.