Wish me luck tonight-another night of baby not sleeping thru

Happynewmum

The little one ( not so little anymore-nearly 1 years old ) has been put to bed.I've just clearerd up the living room as it looked like a bomb had hit it thanks to footballs, toys, blocks etc being flung around and I'm preparing myself for another disrupted nights sleep. My son has never ( as yet ) slept all the way through.I was lucky enough for afew days when he was around 3 months old where he only woke up twice, and that wasnt too bad as he slept in my bed anyway ( and of course I made it all safe and secure for both of us! ).Now hes in his cot ( that was an ordeal and a half but very proud of myself for sticking with it:j ) but he wakes up around 4 times a night. I get him out, give him a feed and put him back in cot.At his age he shouldnt need a feed. He drinks little and often through the day, eats loads, but as a bf baby most of it as HV has said is comfort and also habit.As you can imagine, this doesnt give me a great nights sleep and I know its not helping my healt either.Making me quite run down.So I'm going to try really hard to not get him out and feed him as much and hopefully it reduce to nothing. I am wary though hes getting his front teeth through so dont want to be too harsh on him.

Wish me luck-I know I'm going to need it.There will be tears, grabbing at my pjs and squinty eyes.....oh, how I hate the power he has over me.......

scottishchick27

Good luck hun. x

lauren_1

Hugs! my son didnt sleep thru until he was 3.

Controlled Crying broke the habit, its harsh but i was ready for suicide.

Happynewmum

lauren_1 wrote: »

Hugs! my son didnt sleep thru until he was 3.

Controlled Crying broke the habit, its harsh but i was ready for suicide.

3?Dont say that I'm scared now...
To be fair, hes done really well so far. He slept with me til he was about 9months and it was hell getting him in the cot.Loads of crying but he managed to get the hint.Then I realised he was beginning to learn how to fall asleep himself when I would put him down, he was quiet and then would stick his head down.At first I thought it was a fluke.But he kept doing it. How it made it so much easier not to have him cry all the time and how sweet it was to see him put his head down, get comfy, say afew baby babbles at me as I left the room and then NOTHING!I know he will get it but I know its going to drive me nuts for abit......

Money_maker

I know it sounds cruel but if he was only offered water, he wouldn't bother waking up.

Good luck.

mandi

Ahh that feeling when your baby wont sleep . You have my sympathy .

Its pretty obvoius he is waking , and crying , not for a feed , but your attention . As difficult as it might be you have to stop feeding him when he wakes, if you think he is thirsty give him a feeding cup with water in it , dont turn the light on , get him out of his cot or fuss , stay calm & quiet

After a few nights he should get the message , and hopefullly realise its just not worth it .

Give it a try for your own sanity , Best of luck . Lots of us have been there :A

minnie123

I have been there and I feel for you good luck for tonight - I always used to think when I was awake with DS about all the other mums that were prob awake at that exact time - it sort of made it seem a bit more bearable xxxxx

bylromarha

All the best for tonight.

Be strong - short term pain, long term gain is our parenting motto.

missm29

minnie123 wrote: »

I have been there and I feel for you good luck for tonight - I always used to think when I was awake with DS about all the other mums that were prob awake at that exact time - it sort of made it seem a bit more bearable xxxxx

my baby is 3months now, when i'm up in the night with her i often think how many other mums are up too. thinking of you all tonight, the last few nights its been about 4am she wakes. I'll be off to bed in a minute, going early is the only way i can cope with the lack of sleep.

skintchick

To offer another viewpoint: breastfeeding, for a baby, is about so much more than food. It's about comfort, about painkilling (and you said he was teething), it's about snuggles and love.

He is probably using you for painkilling. My DD is doing that now (she is 9 months and her third tooth just came through). We cosleep so it's a bit easier, but to be honest if it's driving you mad right now could you cosleep again while his teeth come? Perhaps from a certain time each night when you just need sleep? I do this with DD as she is in a cosleeper crib but from 4am if she wakes she gets pulled right into our bed so I can sleep with her latching on and off as she wants.

I think it's very easy to forget the non-nutritive benefits of breastfeeding, and some babies just need Mummy more than others.

Of course, if you ARE going truly mad then offering water, etc. does help I believe.

Personally, I'd not believe your HV that babies of 1 never need food in the night. Some do, as they get distracted in the day and don't eat enough, they do still have very small tummies. I read some research a while ago that said MOST babies will wake at least once a night until 18 months, which may help put it in perspective for you.

And remember the Mummy Mantra: this too shall pass. It's just a phase, it WILL pass, he WILL sleep better again.

Good luck.

yummymummy1987_2

I so know this feeling
My first was bfed til 12 months and LOVED cosleeping so we all got a fab nights sleep then when he was about 1 he went into his own bed no probs
My 2nd son didnt like co sleeping, was bfed til 13 months and only slept thro the night when i stopped bfeeding?? coisidence (sp) maybe?
All i would say is do what feels right for you, its easy enough for HV's/friends/people off the web to tell you what to do but they arent in your shoes through the night. All i would say is it wont be forever :T
Take care, hope you get a few hrs good sleep