HaHa my parents are having me over!

Leanna86

Seriously some people will say im having an easy ride but some of you may agree with me but I was wondering what to do in my position...

I live with my parents, and was previously paying £35 a week rent (by older brother was paying this and my parents have always made me pay the same as he was so it was fair) he has now moved out.

My boyfriend has moved in with us and they said to keep paying the £35 a week as we are only using the one room but to make it fair we are to buy all our own food...which was fine, no arguements. But now they have suddenly said that they were putting the rent up to help cover the fact that my brother was no longer living here and they needed help with paying the bills..ok I thought but they suddenly said we are to pay £400 a month as well as still buying our own food! so it went up £65 a week...

To me this is just rediculous, we share a room and pay for all our own stuff and just seems that we are having to pay so much more all because my brother moved out!

I can't justify the hefty increase...I said that we could get a mortgage for 4-500 a month, or rent for that price. I have even said that my fiance would move out as he could live with his parents cheaper for much less until we find our own place, but then my mum said that she didn't want us to move out until we find a place....

it has made me feel like maybe they are struggling to pay there bits and pieces and they are trying to use us to pay what they can't afford without justifying it, and making me feel like I have to stay here to help them out...

Don't get me wrong I love my parents but this is really annoying me, as I don't know what to say to them. They also treat us like 5 year olds, clean up your plates 2 seconds after you have finished eating, clean your room hahahahaha

Am I just nit picking or would you be peeved to? Anyone who can offer me some help I would love you for it lol :A

RacyRed

I think your parents are trying to prepare you for life in the big wide world.

Ask them to explain household bills to you, it might all begin to make sense then.

Sandrock

£400/month does seem pretty expensive for effectively a room-share at the parental home, but it's your parents place and they can make the rules.

If you think you can buy/rent cheaper elsewhere... move!

McKneff

First of all you would be paying rent of £400 to £500 a month rent on a place of your own.

Then you would have

Food
Gas
Electric
TV Licence
Water
Council tax
Contents insurance
etc. etc. etc

Stop being so resentful, your parents are doing you a favour by teaching you a gentle but very necessary lesson.
If you pay mostly your own way now at home, the transition to fully paying your own way wont be so bad. See what i mean.

Apart from anything else how much do you reckon the forked out bringing you up.
Go give them a hug and tell them how much you appreciate them.

As for cleaning up, their house, their rules, you should be cleaning up before having to be reminded by you parents. You can slob out when you get a place of your own.
Good luck

Barneysmom

So it's £200 each per month each - seems reasonable to me?

tabskitten

Errr.......I don't understand the question......
Is it not a case of if you don't like it ''sling yer 'ook''

Their house- pay what they ask- or find another.

RX-78

Leanna86 wrote: »

Don't get me wrong I love my parents but this is really annoying me, as I don't know what to say to them. They also treat us like 5 year olds, clean up your plates 2 seconds after you have finished eating, clean your room hahahahaha

Dont mean to be offensive but the very fact you feel this way despite your parents allowing you to lodge with them (with your boyfriend!) shows why they think you need to be treated like 5 years old.

When I finished Uni, my parents told me to make my own living in my own place and dont expect a penny from them (well ok, they did help pay deposit and 1st month rent whilst I was waiting for my first wage).

kaych

If they need your help, help them out. They are your parents.

Doozergirl

Well, I do see your point but actually there is another grown-up in the house now and your boyfriend should pay his way as well if you are to have him living there.

It is an inconvenience of sorts for your parents to have your boyfriend in the house and like it or not, he is using the hot water, washing his clothes, extra dishes, longer cooking times, using the heating or the tv when no-one else is in, the tv when you aren't there or the laptop when you're watching tv. Oh, and causing extra general wear and tear.

Other than that, isn't it just fair that he pays rent to your parents for the simple fact that he lives under their roof? It's an inconvenience, he doesn't belong to them... I'm not old enough for my kids to even be having boyfriends, let alone moving them in so I'm not speaking from experience, just what I see as fair. Moving a random into house = pay more rent.

It's not just your rent, it's his rent too. And they are doing you a massive favour by letting him live there with you. And it's loosening the apron strings...maybe they are telling you it's time to grow up - whether that be paying a proper share or moving out.

If you rented, I promise it will cost a great deal more than £400 a month. But you're right - independence does cost money.

If you were 5, I wouldn't ask you to clean your plates. I suspect they are treating you like a 24 year old. It isn't a house share - people in their 40s and upwards tend to have grown out of that idea! Even at £65 a week they are saving you money, it would be fair to clean up your plate immediately. If you want to leave it lying around (which I take great pleasure in as a grown up in my own home) get your own place!

Leanna86

Thats one of the big problems I have said we will move out but my mum has asked me not to move until we get a mortgage and not to move out to rent, my dad has also mentioned that the costs are very high than they anticipated when they bought the house so I kind of feel obliged to stay to help them out...

I am not saying we cannot afford to pay the £400 a month, what I am moaning (BIG KID ) is the fact they have only said to me that they will need to increase my rent to cover some of what my brother was paying as they wont be getting his rent as he left....but seems I am now just paying his rent all because he left!

If they would of said OK because you use so much on electric, water etc. between the two of you, and council tax is this much we will split it 4 ways fair enough but they didn't they want me to cover my brothers previous rent, thats why im querying there notions...then being made to feel like if we wern't there they wouldn't be able to uphold the payments has made me feel cruel, and unable to move out.

I love my parents undoubtedly, and have always appreciated what they have done for me but I don't want to feel like I can't move out so they can keep there house....

Ulfar

£400.00 pounds a month is nothing.

Your monthly bills will end up roughly, depending on area :

£400-£500 rent for a flat(possibly much more if you are in London)
£100 Council tax
£30-40 Electricity
£30 Gas
£30 Water
£20 Insurance
======
£610 to £720

This is just the basics not including, broadband, TV licence, Sky, etc.

I wouldn't be angry at your parents at all, you should be grateful they have let you have an easy ride.