Changing surname after marriage

tawnyowls

lisa_75 wrote:

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Here is a list of people you may need to inform

Banks
Savings
Inland Revenue
Utility bills (gas, electric, council)
Doctors
Dentist
Employer
Credit cards
home insurance
Life insurance
Rental Agents (if you rent)
Phone
Driving licence
Department of Health & Social Security (write to the Contributions Agency at your local Social Security Office)
Local Authority (Council Tax and Voting records)
Store cards
Building Society
Mortgage Lenders
Finance/Loan Comanies (cars etc)
Pension Provider
Magazine subscriptions/Catalogues

Do you need to change any of these? You're entitled to call yourself whatever you want - you could keep your married name for 'personal' use and your maiden name on documents. I refused to change my name, partly because I have strong feelings against it, but partly also because I couldn't be bothered with changing so much stuff; it was easier in the days when women were forced to change, because they weren't in control of anything else, such as finances, either.

VickyA_2

tawnyowls wrote:

Do you need to change any of these? You're entitled to call yourself whatever you want - you could keep your married name for 'personal' use and your maiden name on documents. I refused to change my name, partly because I have strong feelings against it, but partly also because I couldn't be bothered with changing so much stuff; it was easier in the days when women were forced to change, because they weren't in control of anything else, such as finances, either.

Yes, I do have to change my name. I'm proud to have married my DH and I wouldn't have it any other way. It's yet another way of me showing my commitment to him for the rest of our lives.

We did discuss the whole my name change/double barrelling but decided that I would take his name as it only means me changing my name as opposed to both of us changing our names.

* In addition, we've got loads of cheques made payable to me in my married name, so I need to change the name on my bank account

Agutka

tawnyowls wrote:

Do you need to change any of these? You're entitled to call yourself whatever you want - you could keep your married name for 'personal' use and your maiden name on documents. I refused to change my name, partly because I have strong feelings against it, but partly also because I couldn't be bothered with changing so much stuff; it was easier in the days when women were forced to change, because they weren't in control of anything else, such as finances, either.

Before I got married I was asked by the registry office what name I would like after marriage. I chose his and thus yes, I will need to change all my details. That is what I am now called.

Some clever guests gave us a cheque signed to Mr and Mrs - and neither of our banks will cash it - we will need to open a joint account to get the present. Which we don't want to do...

wigginsmum

I kept my maiden name - DH's surname is quite unusual and I didn't want to spend the rest of my life spelling it for people!

VickyA_2

wigginsmum wrote:

I kept my maiden name - DH's surname is quite unusual and I didn't want to spend the rest of my life spelling it for people!

I've spent the first 27 years of my life spelling my surname (maiden name) and I'm now going to spend the rest of my life spelling DH's surname, even though his surname isn't that unusual people still manage to get it wrong!

jockettuk

Agutka wrote:

Before I got married I was asked by the registry office what name I would like after marriage. I chose his and thus yes, I will need to change all my details. That is what I am now called.

Some clever guests gave us a cheque signed to Mr and Mrs - and neither of our banks will cash it - we will need to open a joint account to get the present. Which we don't want to do...

dont open a joint acct just add one of you to the others acct then you can change it back to a single acct in the future..

Becles

I wanted to change my name to his. I'm dead old fashioned think Mr & Mrs sounds better than Mr and Miss. We're also trying for a baby, and I would be horrified if people thought I was an unmarried mother. I know most people don't care about things like this these days, but it matters to me!

tawnyowls

VickyA wrote:

Yes, I do have to change my name. I'm proud to have married my DH and I wouldn't have it any other way. It's yet another way of me showing my commitment to him for the rest of our lives.

Which is fine, if that's what you want to do and you've chosen that rather than just going with 'tradition'. I don't think my refusal to change my name shows I'm any less committed to my marriage, and I do find comments like that quite insulting and offensive. I also find it irritating that people assume that it will always be the woman who has to change. It's interesting that in the Muslim religion (not generally thought to be particularly female-friendly), women do not take their husband's name.

cha97michelle

vicky - don't know if you both have cars with both of you insured to drive on, but we only just found out at renewal time for DH that i was still on his policy with my maiden name. OOPS. Don't know where that would have left us if i had crashed in his car.

I also still haven't got round to doing the NUT or the GTC. Must do that at some point soon. Just thought i would say while you were on a roll and it was the school hols.

Good luck.

Michelle, xx

kit

dont pay for your passport to be changed - I've been married and divorced and my passport is still in my maiden name!!
when it needs renewing, I will change it but not before.